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I have a situation with a girl in my school (250 students approx.) that for the last 5 months bombarded me with IOIs (staring, waiting in front of my class with her friend/with a classmate (a social butterfly).The recent one was in the elevator, she was next to me and I saw her in my peripheral turning her face and looking at me, then she laughed when I said a kinda lame joke) I ignored her.
a month ago I've found her ig she didn't accept my follow request so that's why I ignored her hard this past week (normally I look at her from time to time).
My problem is that when I decide that I don't care about girls and that nothing will happen, I act cool, attractive and effortlessly flow socially (although I tend to go hard on girls negging and making jokes at their expense dunno why) i.g. the elevator thing, normally I get anxious whenever I cross paths with her because I get into my head debating if I should talk and what to say. I don't because the moment I sense some nerves rising I chose not to act because I know that I'll look nervous and she'll lose interest and know that I didn't approach her not because of my disinterest but because I'm scared.
I could switch my brain off (usually I put a show joking/talking a lot and I get into the flow) but then all the things I read on GC go out of the window and I act with no structure.
Those last couple of days she pulled back I didn't show up everywhere. Maybe she gave up.
She's my best option in the school, tho I have some others but they all know each other so I have one shot. (Or not, what the worse thing that can happen? I rather be labeled as a player than a pussy).
So my questions are: How to go about establishing contact if she doesn't do one of her stunts, wouldn't that be in-congruent acting all uninterested then go talk to her? Should I mention/joke about her chasing all this time or act like it didn't happen? The moment that my mind detects that there is a chance of getting with a girl, a switch flips and get all nervous, needy and in my mind, how to mitigate against this?
How fast should I take things while also keeping her chasing? Lastly, I couldn't think my way around not becoming low value & needy once my mind detects that things are progressing between me and the girl, I'm in deep scarcity despite all the possibilities. Should I spam approach whom ever shows interest and go fast until one sticks then the scarcity goes away?
a month ago I've found her ig she didn't accept my follow request so that's why I ignored her hard this past week (normally I look at her from time to time).
My problem is that when I decide that I don't care about girls and that nothing will happen, I act cool, attractive and effortlessly flow socially (although I tend to go hard on girls negging and making jokes at their expense dunno why) i.g. the elevator thing, normally I get anxious whenever I cross paths with her because I get into my head debating if I should talk and what to say. I don't because the moment I sense some nerves rising I chose not to act because I know that I'll look nervous and she'll lose interest and know that I didn't approach her not because of my disinterest but because I'm scared.
I could switch my brain off (usually I put a show joking/talking a lot and I get into the flow) but then all the things I read on GC go out of the window and I act with no structure.
Those last couple of days she pulled back I didn't show up everywhere. Maybe she gave up.
She's my best option in the school, tho I have some others but they all know each other so I have one shot. (Or not, what the worse thing that can happen? I rather be labeled as a player than a pussy).
So my questions are: How to go about establishing contact if she doesn't do one of her stunts, wouldn't that be in-congruent acting all uninterested then go talk to her? Should I mention/joke about her chasing all this time or act like it didn't happen? The moment that my mind detects that there is a chance of getting with a girl, a switch flips and get all nervous, needy and in my mind, how to mitigate against this?
How fast should I take things while also keeping her chasing? Lastly, I couldn't think my way around not becoming low value & needy once my mind detects that things are progressing between me and the girl, I'm in deep scarcity despite all the possibilities. Should I spam approach whom ever shows interest and go fast until one sticks then the scarcity goes away?
