The more I get to understand Female psychology and relationship dynamics the more I start to dislike it. It sickens me that you could be the most alpha guy on the planet, be her hero, save her life and even be willing to risk your life and die for her. She could then fall in love with you and have your children but as soon as you show any signs that you have feelings or any sort of needy behaviour you're done.
- This is one of the only good thing i learned about female psychology from the red pillers which helped me. Most men in a relationships believe the similar:
"i put her through college" = 100k in the relationship investment account
"i gave her children"- 100 k in the relationship savings account
" i bought her a car" 50 k in the relationship savings account
etc.... I can go on and on till they believe they reached enough Assets in that relationship savings account were they can be SAFE and retire since she OWES YOU millions that she could never pay back for all the things you did for her.....
^ at points I also felt like that in jobs were i was the top guy, but then i would go into a sales slump and when they say "get your shit together or you are out" i would think to myself " but i was the top guy for many years" and the boss says "you know how it works what have you done for me LATELY"..... My point is guys have a self fantasy that they have built enough equity with the women, so she OWES YOU some type of loyalty like the starx of winterfell.... This shit does not work like that, but society since a young age through media, culture, religion etc... has programmed us in this lie......
You need to be always on the top of your shit or she is out.... When you are good at seduction is when ^ this is automatic you, in top of your game and she is so attracted that things like this don't even face you cause is ingrained... (unfortunately you do have to go through couple of relationship were you can see this enough, were then it does not affect you, and you will be so attractive that it eventually totally stop happening and if it happens you are like "shrug" " i understand" "next" = it just doesn't face you... You will get there it takes a while though...
Do all those great times you had in the past really mean nothing to her? And it's only how you are showing up right now at this moment that really counts?
nope again, what have you done for me lately, if you are not on top of your game, she will start losing the investment dynamic and just see you as a family member, and the attraction will start being diminished in some cases she will turn into anger and hate cause you not attractive enough... (she will check out).... But some of this thing can be avoided if you screened right for an ltr... (look at razor jacks posts)
My experience is that this is really how women are programmed and it makes me think, is it really worth getting involved with women for anything more than sex. I have had great relationships in the past when I was on top of my game and the women would have done anything for me. But over time I have become complacent and they have eventually lost all interest and shown me that they really don't give a fuck about me any more. A man would never do this.
you can never become complacent, you always got a be on top of your game, or she will lose attraction and check out... She will also makes attempts to make you complacent/betazized to take you out of the market....
Men have an internal sense of duty, integrity, loyalty.... man are the true romantics.......
Usually women are the players.... This is the hardest thing to understand, you one day will understand this, women never ever ever leave the game....
men check out and become complacent.... The sad thing is that women will never do this when you have reach the TRUE LEVEL of not needing women for your internal happiness... Once you reach that level (took me 40 years)... You will never ever have to worry and they won't likely leave....