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Hi all,
Been trying to replace a lost 3rd girl in my rotation.
I’ve slept with 2 new girls from 3 new dates in the last 3 months but hitting retention issues due to low compatibility and the game being the game lol.
Latest new girl has slept with me x3 times & I thought I got lock in but when I asked to hang out I got this:
“heya, firstly really appreciate that meme, made me smile
yeah about that, I’m really not dealing well with this lockdown and not knowing when am I seeing my family and all that jazz, feel really down so I’ll go and stay with female friend in 123 location for a bit. I’m sure you wouldn’t want to hang out with this version of me, so I’ll let you know when I’m back and more mentally stable lol”
I then replied no worries with a reference to an inside joke. Before following up with a warm voice note 5 days later just checking on how she was doing which she listened to & ignored.
To give context I think this was a mistake as I was essentially rewarding bad behaviour because we only text when I’m asking her to hang out.
Her message could be genuine as she’s from mainland Europe & she can’t go home for Xmas.
The flip side is she could be uninterested as I had to persist for about x3 weeks to win her over as she was very flakey at the start. Although it got better & she’d come straight to mine & arrive early when she did commit to the meet.
So far I’ve gone no contact & it’s been over a week. Going to leave it a minimum of another week before I even think of following up.
Any ideas on how best to approach it?
Yes I am also texting & arranging dates with other new girls. I’m also just tempted to move on as I don’t like the whole persisting dynamic I’ve set the precedent of.
Been trying to replace a lost 3rd girl in my rotation.
I’ve slept with 2 new girls from 3 new dates in the last 3 months but hitting retention issues due to low compatibility and the game being the game lol.
Latest new girl has slept with me x3 times & I thought I got lock in but when I asked to hang out I got this:
“heya, firstly really appreciate that meme, made me smile
yeah about that, I’m really not dealing well with this lockdown and not knowing when am I seeing my family and all that jazz, feel really down so I’ll go and stay with female friend in 123 location for a bit. I’m sure you wouldn’t want to hang out with this version of me, so I’ll let you know when I’m back and more mentally stable lol”
I then replied no worries with a reference to an inside joke. Before following up with a warm voice note 5 days later just checking on how she was doing which she listened to & ignored.
To give context I think this was a mistake as I was essentially rewarding bad behaviour because we only text when I’m asking her to hang out.
Her message could be genuine as she’s from mainland Europe & she can’t go home for Xmas.
The flip side is she could be uninterested as I had to persist for about x3 weeks to win her over as she was very flakey at the start. Although it got better & she’d come straight to mine & arrive early when she did commit to the meet.
So far I’ve gone no contact & it’s been over a week. Going to leave it a minimum of another week before I even think of following up.
Any ideas on how best to approach it?
Yes I am also texting & arranging dates with other new girls. I’m also just tempted to move on as I don’t like the whole persisting dynamic I’ve set the precedent of.