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Hey guys,
So, I met a girl about two months back. In fact, I posted a thread about it awhile back too, but that's irrelevant. Anyway, here's what's happened:
I'll try to keep this brief, but it is a weird scenario. I met her at the gym, started a conversation (which went fairly well) and we exchanged numbers. I texted her about getting coffee sometime, and she accepted. We went out, talked for about an hour--hour and a half maybe--and things were looking pretty good. After that we were texting constantly, joking, talking about personal stuff, and the usual. This goes on for about two weeks. Haven't gone out again at this point, but she had legitimate reasons for being busy. Then... ... nothing. No response for--get this--THREE WEEKS. I was a little bit worried that I had maybe offended her or something, but reviewing what I said, it didn't seem that way. I try texting her again about two weeks into the silence, just a usual, "Hey, how's it going. Haven't heard from you in awhile, you alright?"
Anyway, she finally texts back. She apologizes saying that her phone contract expired and she was changing carriers and that was a big hassle. To this day, I don't know whether that was true. But, I say, "No worries. How've you been?" We continue chatting for say, another couple of days. Smash cut to: the night of the huge fight between us. I'll try and reproduce what happened: we're texting, and as a normal conversation starter I asked, "Hey, where do you see yourself in ten years?" She replies, "Married to an Italian guy, living in NYC. Why? You?" I thought she was kind of just joking around at the Italian comment thing so I say, "Italian? What's wrong with us hearty American guys? lol"
Here's where my heart sinks: "Well I met this guy this summer who's Italian who I think I'm in love with." WHAT!? There's a guy she's in love with, she wants to marry someday, and yet she led me along for MONTHS, thinking we were together. I don't explode at first; in fact, I try to joke it off. "I guess I'll just have to break off the wedding then. When the priest says, 'Does anyone object?' I'll be all dramatic and say 'I object!' Then his mafioso buddies will beat me up, and you'll be in my hospital room saying, 'Oh, I knew I should've been with you!' and then BAM! I walk in, it was my stunt double that actually got killed. And we live happily ever after." She doesn't think this is funny. "Trust me, you wouldn't be invited." I joke again, "I'll take that as a maybe."
This is where things really go downhill. She says, "You seriously don't know any other girls?" I reply, "What do you mean?" She says, "Why are you so fixated on me? It's pathetic. You need to meet a larger quantity of people before you go glom onto one." Oh, did I mention: SHE'S SIXTEEN YEARS OLD. (I'm sixteen, it's not a pedophiliac thing) Seem hypocritical to you? Well it sure as hell does to me. She's only known the other guy for six months, they don't even live in the same state, and she's accusing ME of fixating on someone. So, I stop joking. "You know what? You've treated me completely unfairly. You've led me on for nearly two months, some of that period of time you didn't let me know what was happening with you at all, and then when you finally let me know about this, you make patronizing comments to me like you have some superiority over me. Enough is enough. I'm done talking to you."
On top of all this, she tries to make this out to be my fault. "Fine, don't. I have so much crap and personal problems going on in my life that I'm not even going to tell you about, I'm so sorry you weren't the first thing on my mind. Think about it from my perspective. How would you have told you? I shouldn't have mistook you as a friend. Go to hell."
So, what happened? What even made her think I was "glomming onto her?" Was she just manipulating me for attention, or what? I know this is almost like a rant, and I know that's not what these forums are about, but please: I need some help understanding what happened here. Was I in any way at fault?
So, I met a girl about two months back. In fact, I posted a thread about it awhile back too, but that's irrelevant. Anyway, here's what's happened:
I'll try to keep this brief, but it is a weird scenario. I met her at the gym, started a conversation (which went fairly well) and we exchanged numbers. I texted her about getting coffee sometime, and she accepted. We went out, talked for about an hour--hour and a half maybe--and things were looking pretty good. After that we were texting constantly, joking, talking about personal stuff, and the usual. This goes on for about two weeks. Haven't gone out again at this point, but she had legitimate reasons for being busy. Then... ... nothing. No response for--get this--THREE WEEKS. I was a little bit worried that I had maybe offended her or something, but reviewing what I said, it didn't seem that way. I try texting her again about two weeks into the silence, just a usual, "Hey, how's it going. Haven't heard from you in awhile, you alright?"
Anyway, she finally texts back. She apologizes saying that her phone contract expired and she was changing carriers and that was a big hassle. To this day, I don't know whether that was true. But, I say, "No worries. How've you been?" We continue chatting for say, another couple of days. Smash cut to: the night of the huge fight between us. I'll try and reproduce what happened: we're texting, and as a normal conversation starter I asked, "Hey, where do you see yourself in ten years?" She replies, "Married to an Italian guy, living in NYC. Why? You?" I thought she was kind of just joking around at the Italian comment thing so I say, "Italian? What's wrong with us hearty American guys? lol"
Here's where my heart sinks: "Well I met this guy this summer who's Italian who I think I'm in love with." WHAT!? There's a guy she's in love with, she wants to marry someday, and yet she led me along for MONTHS, thinking we were together. I don't explode at first; in fact, I try to joke it off. "I guess I'll just have to break off the wedding then. When the priest says, 'Does anyone object?' I'll be all dramatic and say 'I object!' Then his mafioso buddies will beat me up, and you'll be in my hospital room saying, 'Oh, I knew I should've been with you!' and then BAM! I walk in, it was my stunt double that actually got killed. And we live happily ever after." She doesn't think this is funny. "Trust me, you wouldn't be invited." I joke again, "I'll take that as a maybe."
This is where things really go downhill. She says, "You seriously don't know any other girls?" I reply, "What do you mean?" She says, "Why are you so fixated on me? It's pathetic. You need to meet a larger quantity of people before you go glom onto one." Oh, did I mention: SHE'S SIXTEEN YEARS OLD. (I'm sixteen, it's not a pedophiliac thing) Seem hypocritical to you? Well it sure as hell does to me. She's only known the other guy for six months, they don't even live in the same state, and she's accusing ME of fixating on someone. So, I stop joking. "You know what? You've treated me completely unfairly. You've led me on for nearly two months, some of that period of time you didn't let me know what was happening with you at all, and then when you finally let me know about this, you make patronizing comments to me like you have some superiority over me. Enough is enough. I'm done talking to you."
On top of all this, she tries to make this out to be my fault. "Fine, don't. I have so much crap and personal problems going on in my life that I'm not even going to tell you about, I'm so sorry you weren't the first thing on my mind. Think about it from my perspective. How would you have told you? I shouldn't have mistook you as a friend. Go to hell."
So, what happened? What even made her think I was "glomming onto her?" Was she just manipulating me for attention, or what? I know this is almost like a rant, and I know that's not what these forums are about, but please: I need some help understanding what happened here. Was I in any way at fault?