3rd virgin in a row ghosted after a first date, is it me or the virgins?

[thats_a_penis_disgustang]

3 girls - 18, 20, 22 yo. all never even had a DATE before, let alone kissed.
first date is cafe, touching, talking + my place more touching (sitting on my lap, smelling hair, caressing hands) while playing pc games.
all three times they seemed to be really into me, blushing, not really nervous or afraid, more like excited.
and all three times I acted like I know going for a kiss or more sexual escalation would be too much for a first time so I play it cool (and slow by my standarts)

so what the fuck?!

do I try to go all the way to kissing and jerking me off/fingering her, or do I touch her EVEN LESS?
does the process with virgins differ from normal or is it exactly the same? (just go as far as you can as quckly as she recieves it)

 

[Starboy]

I would say if it was 3 virgins in a row then you gotta adjust your approach. If they were compliant with you in that they let you touch them,sat on your lap, even let you smell their hair(or vice versa) there's a strong possibility they liked you even if they were not sure they would fuck you. But you gotta escalate in that situation. At the very least a kiss so that they know you mean business and you're not just another platonic guy friend. Also with playing pc games that maybe got them to take their focus off of you and more on playing pc games and she thought let's have fun playing a game as good friends rather than playing around with each other as lovers.No matter how much a girl might like you if you don't establish that you two are potential lovers through your actions then they will think that you don't like them and go into autorejection. This happened with a girl I took out. She wasn't a virgin, but we had a pretty good vibe going in a bar together. She was receptive to my touch and we played never have I ever and talked about sex. If I would've at least kissed her she would think maybe this is a guy I can see myself doing something with. And I didn't because I was worried about being smooth and let the moment pass by and basically when I saw her at work she barely knew I existed or cared even though we knew each other decently well. Anyways my advice is to always escalate. If you have your own place you don't have to worry about logistics cause you're already there. It's not too much for a kiss for a first date back at your place. Kids kiss each other all the time. Now if she resists sex then that could mean she needs to be more comfortable to move forward. But there are plenty of articles on last minute resistance on gc that can help you understand how to proceed next time you encounter resistance. Hope this gives you some ideas bro.

 

[thats_a_penis_disgustang]

thank you bro! my idea now is to put out scented candles and just sit on a couch and talk with lights out. I always turned on my music, bc thats what I invited her for, but I will start to flat out ignore that now and I doubt anyone will remind me of it.

I played games bc I liked playing games with my ex and I missed that feeling. the truth is that I also fucked her 5-7 times in between, so there is no comparison, and I will now focus only on us.

so you are saying that I should not adjust my speed on account of her being a virgin and just excalate as usual only looking at her reaction as if she had sex already?

 

[BigPapa]

First of all , are you sure they are really virgins ? For me is a little bit wired being between 18 and 21 and still being a virgin

second of all , like the other guy said ,do not play games on your pc while with them , is lame . Better watch a movie , touch her , kiss her ,take your nipples in your mouth , stuff like that . But do not touch more than her ass from the waist down

 

[thats_a_penis_disgustang]

yeah, 100% virgins.
I kinda have an idea of what to do - exact same thing as with an experienced girl.
the only difference is I will tell her "look girl, I am a grown man and you are very young, so if I am doing something uncomfortable, or moving too fast, just let me know. say STOP or something", which will show her I care and will never harm or pressure her.

otherwise I will just be a sexy man: no pc games, no jokes, no interesting stories, no tour of the apartment, no showing my music, just me and her on a couch, me being a sexy man.