Background:
I'm in Hong Kong right now. I'm declaring that it's fucking amazing here for me as an Asian American male. As much as we're supposed to think "race is just a concept, don't limit yourself", at the end of the day, racial preferences do exist, and there is a different sexual marketplace clearing price for every type of person in every location. In America, NYC no less, asian women are at the top of the market, and asian men are near the bottom, which just equates to an across the board handicap for an asian male who mostly dates asian women. I was mostly dating 7's in NYC, and the minute I step off the plane I'm dating 9's here. So yes, I can date NYC 9s/10s asian girls if I work really hard to be perfect, but by that point I'd be dating HK 11's. YMMV, this is just my current reality based on who I am and my preferences (looks are subjective at the end of the day), and honestly that's all that matters, just putting this out there in case it's true for others.
All that said, I've also been completely revolutionizing my game with Hector's coaching. Right now we're focused on not being "sales-ey" and being more honest and direct with my sexual intention. The first point is really important. I'm realizing that I'm now throwing out nearly **every** PUA technique/concept that I've learned over the years. This stuff helped me to not be a simp, but it's now holding me back from reaching the highest levels of seduction. The crux of it is that with nearly every PUA technique, we PUA's think we're so smart, and we're "gaming" her psychology. The truth is that women aren't stupid. They know exactly what we're doing. We achieve seduction success DESPITE her feeling "ewww this guy is kinda gross". So the higher level seduction is to not trigger any of these gross feelings, and to display sexiness through implicit subtextual communication and vibe, NOT through weird ass gambits or kino techniques or yes-ladders or literally anything else taught in the PUA world. So I'm gonna shit on a ton of PUA techniques here, but understand that I think they have their place for beginners, but will hold you back from advanced levels.
Hector is a genius. Now let me show you why.
People:
Me: mid-30s asian entrepreneur from America
Her: early 30s Japanese Flight Attendant, B+ cups, very pretty face with minimal makeup, 5'5", very perky butt for a skinny asian girl, very very stylish, like 10-level level style for NYC, above average in Asia
Meet:
So I'm waiting for a friend to grab coffee, but he's 20 minutes late. While waiting outside, I see a stylish asian girl walk up to the store and sit outside. I eye her for a bit, then decide to cold approach her. I open by asking if she's waiting for a late friend too. She says yes, and we chit chat a bit. It turns out she's waiting for a dating app date. I give her a really charming smile, and say "well.... you are absolutely beautiful, can **I** take you on a date sometime?". She smiles and says yes, then we exchange numbers. Then I scoot away from her telling her I don't want to embarass her in front of her date. Her date arrives, and she gives me a little wave goodbye before heading inside.
Texting:
In the vein of "not being too sales-ey", my texting game is 10x better than it was before. The main difference is just literally not doing anything a gross over-eager salesman might do. For example:
- after we greet each other over text, I DONT make my first text an ask to hang out.
- I DONT always ask a question.
- I DO sometimes leave statements and let them sit, not caring if she replies or not.
- I DONT always reply to everything she says. If she says something boring, just ignore it.
- I DONT slip in an "ask out" in the middle/end of a group of messages, as if I'm trying to slip it in without her noticing (SHE WILL NOTICE). The right time to "ask out" is when the conversation naturally dies down a bit.
- I DO keep everything light, casual, non-serious
This texting exchange was the most chase-ey a girl has EVER been to me right from number close. She literally texts me apologizing about leaving me rudely for the other guy, and tells me the other guys sucks, and she won't be seeing him anymore. We very easily arrange to meetup a week later.
First Date:
We meet at some restaurant nearby. And we just have a good conversation and I display interest in getting to know her! That's it!
I don't do ANY of the sleezy PUA techniques I always used to fit in. NONE OF THE FOLLOWING:
- forcefully telling sexual stories. In fact, we don't EVER TALK ABOUT SEX UNTIL THE PULL. Should you talk about sex? Yes, if it's natural. But not talking about sex is BETTER THAN talking about sex unnaturally.
- secret society or non-judgmental gambits
- kino techniques to get her comfortable with my touch (I do a little of this, but there's a VERY FINE LINE to overdo it where she feels like ur doing it on purpose)
- talking about something in my apartment to pre-seed the pull
- painting myself as a lover and not a provider
- etc.
We finish the meal, then walk to a juice bar nearby. At this point I do bury my face in her hair and take a DEEP BREATH of her scent, and get her to lean on me a bit. This felt EXACTLY like an
LR four years ago. We then sit down and I put my arm around her shoulder. We chat a bit more. Interestingly, at one point she takes out her phone to show me something on the map. And I see the 3rd message in a row from some simp dude, the top line reads "I really want to see you again ...". She doesn't make any move to swipe it away, nor do I make any acknowledgement of it. We literally just let the notification slide away. At a point of sexual tension, I kiss her (despite the
recent article saying u should never do this).
After a few more light makeouts, I decide now's a decent time to attempt the pull. Because we're both comfortable, there are not too many close people nearby, and she's really leaning into me, the vibe is just right. Yes, we're in the middle of a fucking coffee shop, but my intuition tells me this is better right here and now compared to trying to bounce to a new place (and risking her calling it a day), and then trying to pull her during the walk.
Pull:
I'm doing a technique Hector calls the "hard close". Where I summon all my smoothness, and elegant sexiness, and make the pull. The goal here is to display several things at once through subtext and vibe:
- that I'm a smooth confident sexual being, and I WILL give her AMAZING SEX
- that I don't think of this as a "if we have sex, I get my notch and win, u lose cause I tricked you" type of situation. I think of it as, if we have sex, we BOTH WIN.
- that I genuinely like her, and I want the best for me and her and everyone in this world
- that I respect her as a fellow intelligent human being, and I'm not trying to trick her
I stare at her intensely, and SMOOTHLY say "so.........................." look down, away, then turn back, letting the tension BUILD, and say "..... wanna head back to my place?" with a very neutral face, and the slightest smirk.
^^ VERY IMPORTANT. I don't say "maybe we can have a drink back at my place". Or "maybe we can check out XYZ at my place". Or any other lame cover. "head back to my place" plus my piercing penetrating gaze unambiguously means SEX. And I'm not trying to hide it at all.
She pauses, says "oh I don't think so" <- of course. I pause, and reply with a neutral/inquisitive and ABSOLUTELY NOT BUTTHURT "why?". She starts saying something about how she normally doesn't do this.
I don't do the following particularly smoothly, because this is literally the first time I'm trying the "hard close". But I interweave several things in with her responses:
- i understand why women usually want to wait, maybe they've had negative experiences before
- i really like you, and I DEFINITELY want to see you again afterwards
- we would have an amazing time together now, with the implication that it might not happen again
- we don't have to do anything, I would still want to be alone with you, I DEFINITELY want to kiss you some more and hold you.
^^ at that last one, she just goes "okay!". Then we just walk 5 minutes to my hotel room. During the walk, I hold her hand, and am just very romantic, to reward her choice of letting herself be seduced, by being a romantic seducer!
^^ TBH this "hard close" is the weakest part of my seduction. I need to get wayyy better at this.
Escalation:
Back at my place, I have some light music playing already. We kiss and hold each other deeply while we take off our shoes. Then she uses the bathroom. Then I use the bathroom. When I come out, she's leaning against my window, with her butt slightly sticking out. It's literally a PERFECT ESCALATION WINDOW. I walk slowly behind her, and grind on her lightly while she moans. Then I look out the window with her, and we talk about what we see. Then we kiss. Then I ask if she wants to lay down.
We go down on the bed, and kiss/spoon/feel each other some more. It's honestly so enjoyable, I do this longer than I should (15-20 minutes), because I FEEL LIKE IT, and IM IN NO RUSH, and I'm trying to build up the tension as much for my own enjoyment as for the seduction.
At some point, I reach down to her underwear, she's wearing a beautiful thong. I start rubbing her pussy through the thong, and she moans. After a little of this, I move the thong aside and rub her pussy and lightly insert a finger. She starts stroking my dick. After a nice 5 minutes of this, I turn her over onto her stomach, and penetrate her from behind raw.
So, ZERO LMR.
Sex:
Sex is 10 out of 10. Among the best I've ever had. We go for FOUR HOURS. Admittedly we spoon and she falls asleep with my dick inside her for about half an hour of this, and then we wake up and fuck again and again, and go take a shower and fuck some more then I tell her to clean my dick with her mouth. She gives me an amazing blowjob and tells me she loves doing this. I thought about pulling a Hector and telling her to text the simp back while I ram her doggystyle, but didn't find the right moment.
P.S. Hector tells me this would have been bad energy, and he needs to rewrite his book to leave a warning here.
Why is sex with her a 10 out of 10?
- super SUPER TIGHT asian pussy
- no smells. No bad breath, no body odor, no pussy smells, no perfume, just all natural healthy asian girl smell
- super perky tight butt
- beautiful face to look at
- fairly lean, no extra fat
- she's completely shaved (kinda rare for Japanese girls)
- absolutely HEAVENLY moans (I don't like the almost crying of torture moaning that a lot of FOB asian girls do, watch some porn from asia to see). It sounds like I'm PENETRATING AN ANGEL with each thrust. I *almost* enjoy her moans MORE than I enjoy her tight pussy.
- the best counter movement I've ever experienced. With every thrust missionary, she angles her pelvis so I can get deeper, with doggystyle she pushes into me as much as I thrust into her, when riding cowgirl she actually "rides"!, when doing prone doggy, she pushes her butt up with every thrust so I get deeper
She can't believe how long I last (literally rock hard for 4+ hours), and can't believe how good my dick feels, and keeps telling me this throughout. This is clearly the best sex she's ever had. I'm not gonna say I'm the best at sex in the world, but I'll say I'm pretty good, and that combined with the perfect fairy tale seduction she felt, made her totally melt into the moment.
Reflections:
- This was the best seduction I've ever done. I feel that every past seduction succeeded IN SPITE of me being a gross sleezeball PUA salesman throughout, and her just deciding "fuck it, I'm horny, this guy is a bit gross, but at least he's less gross than the other guys, he'll do"
- As a woman, you either experience:
- A) a nice innocent simp, who isn't a sleezeball intentionally, but is dishonest in his own way (being nice when u really wanna fuck is sleeze itself), and just not gonna make u wet at all
- B) an asshole PUA who might make u a bit wet, but is just GROSS. Anti-slut defense is actually less about purity/societal judgment, it's ACTUALLY more about wanting to vomit cause this guy thinks ur a dumb whore and thinks his super-obvious gross tactics are actually working on u. And u feel disgusted that ur still gonna sleep with him despite that, how little are u worth???
- I managed to give her a male unicorn experience today. A sexy guy who isn't a sleezeball. Not just that, but also the best sex in her life, and honestly I don't think she'll meet another guy for the rest of her life who will give her a better experience than today.
- Today was also one of the best days of MY LIFE too. Yes, I had amazing four hour sex with a hot Japanese flight attendant on the first date in a foreign city, which is FUCKING AMAZING by itself, but what adds onto that to make it one of my best days is:
- I'm so SOOOO happy to GIVE HER a once-in-a-lifetime wonderful non-sleezy seduction experience
- today was possible not because I was born tall or handsome or rich. I was not born into any of those things. Today was the culmination of DECADES of work. More specifically:
- learning (and recently unlearning) PUA seduction for over 10 years
- working super hard at my job, saving tons of money and investing it all, taking a serious risk to become an entrepreneur, struggling deeply through that and finally acquiring the time/location/financial freedom to be able to travel to a foreign city and plop down for a whole month
- paying Hector hard-earned money from above, and then working HARD through his coaching sessions for the past year to completely reconstitute who I am, not just as a seducer, but as a person. I'm now a kinder, more empathetic, emotional, fuller human being.
- specifically, Hector often praises me for two things I do better than most of his other students:
- a willingness to take DEEP PAINFUL feedback, and literally cut down my identity to the core wherever it sucks, and rebuild it from the ground up
- the balls to fucking full-send it. Most of his students pussy out when he tells them to do something embarassing or difficult.
- all this to say, having this reward today was infinitely sweeter because I worked so hard for it.
R version - The women are gaming HIM and not the other way around.
well done 
(As I’m spending way too much time chatting and gaming matches, it’s exhausting)
