8s 9s Best She's Ever Had

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Starting up a journal again. I have a very bad habit of not consistently posting my field reports, and not keeping up with my journals and metrics. Hopefully let's change that this time and hit one post a day.

Since this is a daily journal, I will include adventures with my regular rotation as well.

My goals from now until the end of the year are:
- Find a consistently working process that works for ME to lay 8's and 9's that I meet in Day Game. I want a full working process that carries me from before the approach, all the way to me being hard and deep inside a girl. Whatever it takes.
- Approach only 8's and 9's. The goal is to meet, date, and fuck 9's, and 8's consistently and often.
- In addition to meeting sexy Korean, Japanese, Chinese, Filipina women; I also want to expand to Russian women, and American/European Blondes and Red Heads. I want to fuck my first ever red head.
- I will approach 5-10 women a day, 5x a week.
- I will commit to 3 nights of night game every week. Thursday, Friday, Saturday, or Friday, Saturday, Sunday.
- I want to meet and fuck, and eventually convert to a girlfriend, an Asian 9. Ideally Korean or Japanese.
- I want to be the best guy in bed all my women have ever had. In quality of sex, her sex, and the overall experience. I always provide hot sex and a hot experience.
- I will have either first or second day lays. The whole time I am with a girl, I will create desire within her to fuck me passionately.
Added March 8th:
- Learn to feel and act on sexual tension - in the moment. I will be excellent at feeling a girl out and acting on it, rather than following patterns.
- I will pace a girl's emotional state through the entire process, from start to finish.
- I will excel at escalating with nervous girls all the way to sex.
- I will master the escalation process when she's at my place, including dealing with LMR and nervous resistance.
- I will increase my empathy to detect a girl's state, and how to guide and release her feelings.
- Right now I feel inferior to other men. I will resolve such feelings and not care about other men. I am already better than them, and I know it. I will be the best guy a girl has ever had.
- I will be the most Alpha and Non-needy I’ve ever been.


On my Side, Big Lifestyle Changes to Make:
- Quit smoking weed. In turn, I will quit and be disciplined about using porn. I want no weed use until August 2020. Two exceptions: Feb 14-17, and May 21-25.
- I will start exercising again 3 times a week.
- I will commit to seeing a trainer once every two weeks, and will enroll in a TRX class.
- I will quit drinking, except when I see girls on a date. Even then, I will limit myself to at most two drinks. Been drinking too much beer lately (I love the taste of craft beer) and I have to end it for the sake of my health.

I am also interested to try the "invite one girl home every day" challenge, for sixty days.
 
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Tuesday Feb 12, 2020

Just got started today. I felt quite sick this morning and evening, so didn't do the 5 I hoped, but I still approached which right now is the most important.

On the way to a meeting I approached two women; this was one of my first approaches in many months. I was looking super sharp today; both girls stopped and gave me time of day, but I ejected quickly after the approaches even though I should have followed up.

In the evening while running errands I made one more approach, a cute girl going to a 6pm meeting, did the same thing - short convo, ejected without going further.

Tomorrow I will try for five approaches.

EDIT:
Last night I didn't go out anymore, I had a gigantic headache and just went home to sleep. Have an international FB staying at my place these days - she leaves next week. She came over and even though we talked about going out, I was already in bed and eventually we just escalated to sex. I fucked with her on top, and then tried a variation of sideways doggy style. This time I made it a point to fuck her really deep, especially in the last position, and I also made a bigger effort to grab and grip her. She really likes choking, so I choked her hard as I fucked her. In the end she came twice, and our orgasms synced at the very end. I think it was a good change to go harder and grip her harder and more, I've been getting too soft in bed.

Sex: 1x today, she came twice.
Total drinks today: 2 wines. Too many.
Did I smoke? Yes.
 
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Wednesday Febuary 19, 2020

Last morning my FB left, so I'm finally single again. She taught me a lot while she was staying with me for several weeks; I'll break that down soon, as well as give an update on the last couple days (I've already fallen behind on my journal, lol)....

I did a total of three approaches today, below the five I wanted. However, the second girl hooked super hard and texted back quickly, and responded to my first text. She was a cute Chinese girl who lives in NJ, and seemed to find me attractive. So I'm going to try to set up a date with her today.

I met up with my friend @Kvothe and we spent an hour and a half doing exercises on intent (premise, sexual framing, sex talk) as well as persistence and compliance. I think both were really helpful as they're both areas I need to work on like crazy. He also revealed to me, after I was vulnerable about some insecurities, is that my biggest issue is that I don't believe in myself - instead, I should do this, trust in my instincts, and don't second guess. I think he's actually right here - but more on this later.

Sex: 1x today. I didn't go down on her.
Total drinks today: 1
Did I smoke? Yes, when I got home and before sleeping.
 
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Quit smoking weed. In turn, I will quit and be disciplined about using porn. I want no weed use until August 2020. Two exceptions: Feb 14-17, and May 21-25.

I'm curious what's the reason that you're smoking weed in the first place?

Also I believe you can quit it if you want to. I recall you wrote a article on GS about creating routines and setting up goals, which included a Excel template. That was really inspirational and it helped me setting my own goals.
 

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I'm curious what's the reason that you're smoking weed in the first place?

I guess I really like weed. Or, it's my addictive personality. Either way, it's a huge conflict for me - I love it, but it interferes with my game and life.
 

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I met up with my friend @Kvothe and we spent an hour and a half doing exercises on intent (premise, sexual framing, sex talk) as well as persistence and compliance. I think both were really helpful as they're both areas I need to work on like crazy. He also revealed to me, after I was vulnerable about some insecurities, is that my biggest issue is that I don't believe in myself - instead, I should do this, trust in my instincts, and don't second guess. I think he's actually right here - but more on this later.

Thanks for sharing this tidbit with the rest of us. Really cool to see a guy as advanced as you are still has issues with self belief.

While working on your mindsets or "inner game" is often ridiculed, this forum gave me advice on how to fix some negative mindsets which has done wonders for me over the past couple days.

If you make those mindset tweaks WOW! It's scary to think you could become an even more lethal seducer man.

As for your marijuana use:

 
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Thursday February 20, 2020

I wanted to approach 5 girls in the day today, and 5 girls at night. My commitment is day game 4-5 days a week, and night game 3 days a week. I do travel often, so I might not be able to keep it up regularly in those weeks. Today, I also realized (again, technically) that my biggest impediment is just being willing to put in the effort - which I don't. I think I make too many excuses, and the moment I feel bad I want to eject and run away.

Anyway, I didn't approach any women in between meetings today, and instead of going out between 5-7pm like I planned - well, work calls ended at 5:45; then I just felt tired and wanted to sleep. So, instead I took an on-and-off nap between 5:50pm and 7:30pm - and then got up and worked a little more while cleaning.

Around 8:10 I decided I would leave and head to the bar where I would meet K - we decided to check out a Thursday night recommended bar in the city. I decided to walk most of the way instead of taking the fastest way - and I approached zero girls. Mostly there weren't any opportunities, it was just too late to go out. But, I did pass at least three approach worthy girls. I guess I'm rusty - I should have just done it.

When we got to the bar it looked like a gold mine - layout with a lot of different areas, even ratio, and attractive women. We practiced premise, sexual humor, sex talk, and also moved to different parts of the bar.

Approached one set that was talking right next to us. They were trying to take a picture of each other, and failing. I told them they looked adorable, then got into a super bantery and premisey conversation. One of the girls thought I was saying something sexual when I was just asking how they knew each other, and then I accused her of having a dirty mind. Somehow we didn't transition that set well and it ended soon after.

Then there was a girl who got a drink before me at the bar. She said "oh I know the bartender" and I should have challenged her. But I didn't. She talked to me for a few minutes, but I should have been more aggressive and flirty with her.

We then didn't approach for a while, and practiced conversation techniques for a while. I felt like going home around now - I'll have to fight that feeling in the future.

I did watch my friend K pull a girl - who approached him after 15-20min. That was cool, actually - we were in the middle of practicing compliance techniques, when suddenly a girl approached him. She came up to both of us, and then started talking to mostly him. She told us she's from Michigan; then turned away from me and faced him directly, and got into a direct convo. I saw the sign quickly - so after 1 minute I told him I'm going to the bathroom.

When I came back they were at the bar together, looked like it was going well. I approached another girl, but she partially deflected. For some reason I didn't feel that good - eventually that same girl came to the bar to get drinks for all her friends, but she never even remotely faced me even though she was right next to me. Then at some point I saw K and his girl leaving - and they walked out of the bar together and crossed the street.

I didn't stay much longer after that; felt pretty bummed out and tired. But, at least I went out. Shaking off the rust.

Sex: No
Drinks: 2
Did I Smoke? No
 

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I also have a love-hate relationship with cannabis. On one hand it makes me feel relaxed, and makes sex more enjoyable, but on the other hand makes me lazy and unproductive and also (in general) less able to interact with people socially. The key might be to be disciplined about WHEN I am consuming - only on certain well planned days and times to maximize the good while minimizing the bad.
 

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Friday February 21, 2020

I did zero approaches today. My mLTR F was coming over, so even through I originally planned to approach in the evening, I decided to sleep and clean up my apartment instead. In the end I barely slept - but it was a poor excuse to not approach anyway. I am still struggling with anxiety and motivation to go approach - and now that I've quit weed (I finally ran out this week) I'm also experiencing some of the withdrawal effects of that. Tough to manage, as I just feel way more needy than normal.

She took me out to dinner and paid for the meal, then we came home and watched a movie. This time unlike before, she wanted to watch the movie rather than fuck - so we waited until the very end of the movie before fucking. F said she was about to have her period, so there was some PMS/girl anxiety going on; I had a feeling it also might have been how I handled V Day. Right after the movie finished I started to escalate. F has an extremely high sex drive, she is insatiable and cannot get enough - I really wanted to keep her up all night and also delay my own orgasm while I made her cum. I was able to do neither unfortunately - I couldn't keep my stamina up long enough to make her cum, I also know she felt pressured to cum, and in the end I came after like 20 minutes while she was riding me on top. In the past I've been able to go on for hours, but as I've aged I think my stamina and sexual ability has declined. The main issue is that she wants it really rough and hard, but I don't have the lasting power now to make that happen without keeping my cock fully erect. Once I start going down that path, I feel winded and all the blood drains from my penis to the rest of my body. The other thing is I kept saying dirty talk about her cumming, which put pressure on her to cum and I guess she just couldn't do it as a result.

I really think I need to start working out again to fix this issue. It also might be time to start TRT.

Around 2:30am we fell asleep. Woke up at like 6:30am, and immediately went to fucking her. This time she was extremely horny and didn't feel any pressure to cum - so she unleashed herself and kept on cumming. This time I struggled with stamina again, and staying hard. But - I did fuck her from 6:30am until around 8am. Sometimes it was slow, sometimes it was hard and fast. Did many different positions, she came really hard once and then three more times in other positions. Took short breaks in between - I always think she cums a lot more than she actually does, but the issue is that I bring her just to the brink of cumming and can't bring her over the edge many times, because of my lack of stamina. If I could last hard and fast another 30 seconds to a minute, every time, I'd bring her over the edge.

We then had a pretty vulnerable conversation about sex - where I told her that I recently quit weed, had a porn relapse, and also felt some insecurity around my own performance. She reassured me and told me that it's not good for her when she feels pressure to cum, and she doesn't. At the same time, I do make her cum, and she also has an extreme hunger for sex. I kept telling her that I really like that about her, and that I used to be able to go on for hours. On the flipside, I'm really good with oral - have no issues bringing any woman to cum that way.

Sex: 4x, I made her cum 4x total. The biggest issue for me was stamina - I had almost none.


Saturday February 22, 2020

Did not go out approaching in the afternoon. I was originally going to go out with a wing, but he dropped out and I decided to stay home and clean my apartment some more. I'm trying desperately to downsize as my apartment is just way too cluttered for my own comfort - I have way too many things.

At night I went out with my wing and his friend, who is a virgin. At night was did decently well - we hit four venues in all, stayed out from 10:15 until like 1:30, and approached three sets. That's a LOT better than I used to do - I'm basically starting at newbie level in night game, so I have a lot of work to do here to get better. Let's cover all of the sets:

The first set was a group of girls night out white chicks from Long Island - a blonde in the group literally just kept looking my way. At some point I saw her break off from her friends slightly and go sit at the bar, looking bored and looking at me. I broke off from my wings and went to the bar to approach her - right when I did, she went back to her friends. I got a napkin at the bar, then turned around and approached her anyway, in her group of friends. She responded warmly to my direct opener - about her fantastic hairstyle. Then I engaged the group, found out they're all childhood friends. We started joking about who is the biggest troublemaker, and it turns out it was my girl. Apparently she is a PA and works with men who have erectile dysfunction. Around this time my wings came into the set. The ED talk was a perfect segue into sex talk - but I made the mistake of not moving her before this. So once I started to go on with sex talk, I think it made her uncomfortable to be speaking about it with her friends around - I should have moved her to the bar first and spent more time talking about something else, and building up to that point. My wings left us alone, but eventually I thought I heard her say to her friends "help" and I walked away. I might have heard it incorrectly, because right after I left, I saw their whole group looking at me a lot and wondering what happened.

We relocated venues to another spot which had a 3:1 ratio of women to men; most women were in groups. We hung back here and had drinks towards the back. Eventually a duo Asian and White girl came into our vicinity - I approached both while they were laughing with each other, telling them they look absolutely adorable together. Asian girl immediately hooked and came to my left, with a lot of incidental touch. She said she's from Oakland CA and started bragging about it, and then talked about living in DC and loving that too. For both, I said I'm an East Coast New York guy and we'll never get along - but what I meant as a joke, I think she took seriously and that broke the connection. Should have been more positive, fun, and challenging.

I guess I didn't stimulate her well - but we also left the Alpha girl with the Newbie wing, which was a mistake. I should have known better and handled the Alpha girl, gotten her on my side - and moved the group. Instead, at some point the Asian girl disconnected, went to the Alpha girl, and they dragged the third girl to another part of the bar. Huge missed opportunity - the girl was cute and I knew she was super attracted to me.

It seems I have trouble hooking in the girls and then continuing the conversation in a really meaningful way.

Finally we took a cab to Venue 4 of the night, which has traditionally been a great place to meet single chicks. I approached one girl who was ordering drinks at the bar, another Asian girl, she semi hooked - but I hit a point where we stopped talking and then I ejected. That was a mistake - I need to take every interaction as far as I can and persist.

We all went home around 1:15pm. I felt shitty and really wanted to smoke - but with no weed to smoke now, I just put on a Brazilian movie and fell asleep after a while.

The good:
- My style and fundamentals are very good - girls approached me and looked at me, and found me extremely attractive.
- The exact kinds of girls I want, find me attractive before I even talk to them.
- I made three approaches, which is better than none.

The bad:
- Must stop drinking when I go out. 3 drinks was way too many.
- Sex talk in front of friends for Girl 1 was a no-no. Should have hooked her in better with her friends, and moved her to the bar.
- I didn't hook any of the girls well enough. Need to be smoother and more engaging.
- I didn't move a girl.
- My wing pointed out that my vibe is extremely dominating and charismatic, but I don't do enough to engage the other guys in the group, which makes their work more difficult. I need to be more proactive about setting up the play for everyone involved, not just myself.

Drinks total: 4 since Friday.
Did I smoke? No
 

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Sunday February 23, 2020

After going out Saturday night, woke up ridiculously late on Sunday at like 2pm. Night game really takes a toll on you.

Went out approaching from 5-6:05pm, made three approaches and got one number. I also let far too many women pass me by, maybe 4 missed opportunities in total.

After grabbing dinner, went out at 9pm to the bars in the LES. All are dead. I’m here at 10pm and already thinking of calling it a night, bored out of my mind and wasting time... it might be that I went out too early for a Sunday night.

edit - called it at 10:45, then made one approach on the subway and the girl didn’t hook. I’ll call that lack of practice, but also need to use the 3 keys I think in this kind of situation.

At least I went out, but it was a waste of time


Drinks: 2 total
 
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Monday February 24, 2020

Total of 8 approaches today in all, all Day Game. I got three numbers - one was fake, and two were real but I didn't go well enough in the approaches to get the outcome I wanted.

First approach was in the afternoon - saw a cute girl crossing the street after I left my house. Approached with my CW opener, and then started chatting with her as we walked along the street. She was ultra nervous, and as it turns out lives upstate and was doing some Christian mission here in the city. After finding out a little about it, I ejected before she could - I knew she was going to, so I hbeat her to the punch by a split second. The issue with her was hooking.

After that I had meetings from 2pm until 6:45pm. I thought the evening would be shot, but I pushed through and approached from 7pm until 8:45pm, approaching seven girls total. This is too late usually to approach for Day Game.

First girl was coming from the same building as me, walking to the subway. Used the CW opener. She loved it, but then we just started talking about work and I didn't add enough premise through the set - it felt more like a platonic potential business contact interaction (turns out we worked in the same industry) than something sexy and fun. After I qualified her twice and asked her out, she gave me her card which had her cell number on it. I then asked if she was single and suggested drinks - she said she was. However, the whole thing was backwards - I knew I wasn't going to hear back.

Second approach was with a London girl - she was walking super fast and I approached her. However, with her I spent 80% of the time talking about e, instead of her. She gave me her number and it was fun - and she liked my message. But this was another imbalance - instead of talking about her and qualifying her etc, spent too long talking about me. I probably won't hear back from her again as a result, didn't leave enough mystery and not enough of the right type of intent.

Third approach was with a very young girl in college - I had good positioning and a good vibe, but I suggested we grab drinks nearby too soon, before she was sufficiently invested. Another mistake here - she gave me a fake number and nervously ran away afterwards.

Approaches four through seven were simply for the sake of approaching. I had a huge missed opportunity with what I thought was the hottest girl - I approached her in the subway asking if the train goes to a certain station, but beyond that I didn't push it. This is one of my biggest flaws now I think - I still get too nervous and don't push for the girls I really want. Part of my mission this year is of course to address this....

Starting to feel the pain of this journey once again, but at least I'm shaking off the rust now. I think the biggest lessons were:
- Push harder, don't quit.
- Talk about myself less.
- More premise, more fun, use time constraints as well.
- Need to work on the hook.
- Approach hotter girls

On the good side, I went to the gym yesterday after the first time. Also, I didn't smoke or drink.

Tonight (Tuesday) I'm supposed to have a date with the girl I met on Sunday.
 

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Tuesday February 25, 2020

Total 6 approaches, day game.

First at a coffee shop around 1pm, girl was sitting working on a resume. Turned and commented that she’s got a stunning hairstyle, she thanks me, i turn and go back to working. Turn around 10min later start chatting with her. After deep diving for 2min she says she really wants to get her thing done, then she can talk. I say no problem and smile. I step out to take a business call, come back and talk to her again - tell her I have to run to a meeting, is she single? She said she’s dating someone kind of, I suggest we grab coffee, says she doesn’t give out her number but she’s always here working. I said I might come back sometime, maybe we’ll see each other again. She reiterated to come find her at the cafe.

girl seemed like a yellow, probably already getting dick is why.

Five approaches in evening, 5:15-6pm.

First walked by, looking at me. Turned and gave CW opener, she shyly looked down. Then i started talking to her, found out she’s from LA. But she didn’t stop - this was a mistake. Eventually we got to a light, stop and we talk. But then she walks on instead of engaging me, seemed very shy. It would have done me good to persist.

One useless approach.

Then saw russian blonde, opened her with CW opener, and she engaged me heavily. We walked and talked for about 10-15min, about eight or nine blocks, about all sorts of shit. Also saw her physically walking close to me. We reached a point where she asked where I’m going, I said i just finished a meeting and was headed home before grabbing dinner with friends and I should go. But qualified her on the convo ans suggested drinks, got her number. She told me she’s leaving on Friday for Russia for two weeks. I told her I’m headed on a work trip Thursday, but is she free Wednesday? Said yes, we agreed to drinks 7:30pm, told her I’d text with details.

Will see if she keeps it.

next ones sucked, myvoice was too high pitched. Gotta warm up my voice better before going out.

also im not hitting well with the younger hot girls, seem to be doing best withlate 20searly 30s

I have a date tonight with Sundays girl.
 

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Wednesday February 26, 2020

Today was a wild day at work - unfortunately I worked straight from 6:30am until 6:30pm, almost no breaks. Not only that, but also super stressful for virtually the whole time - tons of tasks and tons of running around.

In the end this meant I could only pull off three approaches in total, and two were in between heading to meetings. My vibe was stressed and not calm, so I found it hard to talk to the girls.

I had one girl I met on the PATH train, a Korean girl from Seoul who was traveling and showed a bit of interest in me. Her English was bad, so I had to speak super slow (and I couldn’t think of what to say) which made me struggle with setting it up in the right way. In the end she started to follow me, I had to break off to go to a meeting. I suggested we grab drinks, which made her extremely nervous and shy, she gave me her number anyway but didn’t text back yesterday. I think I did not have enough comfort for her before I asked her out - should have built much more compliance for at least five minutes.

Had a date both Tuesday night and Wednesday night. I’m writing up two FRs and will post soon. It’s nice to already be getting cold approach dates in the first week, but I always suck at closing on them - same issue I’ve always had. Tuesday girl didn’t text back even though I thought it went super well.

Good to be back, I really hope I can find a working system soon.
 

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Saturday February 29, 2020 to March 1 morning

Traveling for work out of town, my cousin in this midwestern city wanted to take me out on Saturday night and show me around town. We ended up hitting four different bars, and I approached four girls total. Still need to fix my issues around night game, but this was good practice because girls showed me far more interest than where I live. At the same time, I could have done a lot better.

First approach was at the second venue - my cousin's friend (there were three of us out) actually made the approach, but in the end the three of us talked to her together casually while she was ordering a drink. Didn't go anywhere and only partially counts as an approach anyway, since all three of us were talking to her.

Made an actual approach at the third venue. There was a two set, one cougar and one younger girl. I approached the cougar, who was looking for dick clearly - told her they both looked stunning. However, I still felt like I was warming up - after a receptive approach, my vibe was much lower than hers and I didn't have anything to add to the conversation. I saw the same girl go talk to another guy a few minutes later, and he sufficiently stimulated her and kept her engaged, then moved her to a table. Girl was in her late 40s but looked like a porn star - this experience made me realize I need to be far more dynamic and meet girls where they are mentally.

We went to a fourth venue soon after this - apparently this place closes at 3am, while other bars in the city close at 1:30am - meaning everyone comes here after hours. Over time the place got more and more crowded with people - including single and horny girls. I made three approaches here.

First girl I approached didn't go anywhere, I cannot remember now how I did it. Cute girl in her 30s, blonde. Later on after my other approaches I saw her checking me out over and over again.

Second girl approached me while I was ordering a drink at the bar. Cougar, in her 50s. LOL, what is it with cougars and me.... I guess she found me hot. This was the best set, and the girl was actually attractive even though older, with huge fake tits and very skinny body. We went into sex talk after like 5 minutes, and I remember her telling me about the guy she's currently seeing. I had her move and sit with me by the bar - and another set of guys kept trying to interfere with the set. I kept on ignoring them. In the end she gave me her number and told me she wanted to visit me in New York. I tried to pull, but she told me she was with friends and was also driving to Iowa first thing the next morning. The mistake here was also that I didn't persist.

Final girl actually approached me after I went to the bathroom - another cougar, white and in her early 40s. She immediately grabbed my waist and started talking to me. I had a good vibe going until she told me her age, and I told her she looked like she was 30. This was a mistake, I should have said 21 or some shit, and changed the topic. Whoops - lesson learned. This girl was also attractive and pullable.

In the end I drank one drink too many, and I didn't have the logistics to make a proper pull attempt since I was staying with my cousin.

The girl whose number I got, did text me after I sent her a SMN text, but didn't respond to my follow up.
 

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If my recent experience with a cougar tells me anything, is that they are sexual freaks once they find a guy they want to fuck. Good luck with the one in her 50's - I bet she will be fun in bed.
 

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If my recent experience with a cougar tells me anything, is that they are sexual freaks once they find a guy they want to fuck. Good luck with the one in her 50's - I bet she will be fun in bed.

You’re pretty spot on about this - some older women just have insatiable drives, and they know what they want as well as how to excite men. I don’t think she will get in touch with me, though...
<EDIT: Wow, and she texted back today...>

Monday March 2, 2020

Flew back this morning from the midwest city to my home. Approached one girl while connecting flights. Did this more for practice and warm up.

Busy work day, and during it I also reached out to my FB to wish her a happy birthday. She didn’t text back - I screwed up a frame with her and it gave me tons of anxiety, and honestly messed up my mood. I know I shouldn’t give a shit, really. Long story how this came about, but ultimately whenever I show anxiety and neediness around women it backfires and bites me in the ass. What tends to happen is that ONE instance of neediness or anxiety rubs off on every sphere of my life, and it’s the most common time I lose girlfriends as well as business/money.

Dealing with my anxiety and neediness is actually a stated goal of mine - and if anything, I felt so angry about it today, I have to deal with it. The big issue is the anxiety and neediness is within me, I just haven’t found a good mechanism to address it in the moment it comes up.

Anyway, my goal this year is to kill my neediness and anxiety around women and sex. So this certainly makes me more motivated.

I still don’t know how.

All this put me in a bad mood, but I still went out and approached for 30 minutes. Three approaches, no numbers. After the second girl, I realized neither girl stopped - and stopping the girls is critical for me to have a chance. So I have to persist to make that happen, because girls don’t hook without stopping on the street.

Third approach went well, but she had a boyfriend. However, I did something I’ve always wanted to do, which is ask “how’s that going for you?” I usually always forget, but this time I remembered, so I’m happy about that.

We’ll see what tomorrow brings. I’m really craving sex. Haven’t had a girl in over a week, which has been the longest time since the year started.
 
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This has been quite a week...

Tuesday March 3 I had just four approaches and no numbers. Work was really tough and interfered with a lot this week.

My lone mLTR came over on Tuesday night and basically stayed with me until Wednesday late night. We had literally the best sex we've ever had together, roughly 8 times in that period, typically 40-60 minute sessions because she's super hungry for it. I found out a new way to make her orgasm which I'd never tried before - which was really using my thumb and fingers to rub her clit while I'm penetrating her. I've never seen her behave she did after - full body shaking orgasms that happened over and over. Lost count of how many times she came, but I'd estimate 60-70 times between all 8 sessions. In fact, in the morning of Wednesday, I fucked her in such a way that she was cumming every 2-3 minutes - and she told me straight up it's the best sex she's ever had in her life. I realized that I didn't make her feel pressured for sex and orgasms, I have started working out and my stamina is getting a little better, and my thumb on her clit rubbing her hard while fucking her really drove her wild. I'm feeling better about the way I perform now.

I got to work from home on Wednesday, so I also took two breaks to fuck her outside of calls. I had to leave for a meeting across town at 1:15, and came back at 4:15. In this time period I approached two girls, and got one girl's number while I was on the subway - we met on the platform, then I sat next to her on the platform. Started talking to her the whole way, learning she's an MFA from China now in New York, and then I helped her to the next subway (same direction as me) and we talked about grabbing drinks. I'm supposed to meet her tonight (Friday night).

Came back and fucked my MLTR again, but later at night after we slept a bit and had dinner, the MLTR talk came up. I gave my spiel, but unfortunately she did not accept it - we've been dating five months, and the timing was good, but she's ultimately looking for monogamy she said. After a long three hour talk (I'll post if I can find the time I never have, lol), I unfortunately had to let her go, on good terms, and probably she will not contact me again.
 

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Thursday March 5

Yesterday for whatever reason my vibe was really good, and so was my style. I wore one of my best looks - and girls took notice. I approached 2 girls during the day time, those didn't go anywhere but I mainly just did it so that I could warm up.

I wanted to go game at 5pm, but due to some work conflicts didn't get out till like 5:45pm. Immediately went out to go to a different part of town. On the walk over there, started walking alongside a very attractive woman, did my CW opener, and we went together into the subway and took the same train. She was extremely attracted to me so we kept talking and essentially was following my lead. I qualified her three times, got her number in the subway and suggested drinks this weekend, to which she agreed. She did text me back this morning.

Next I got off at my stop - passed at least two good leads which I should have gone after - on days with a good vibe, I really need to push harder when I see this - one thing I realized is that on days I have good vibes, I really should be pushing hard for THE hottest girls I can see, and take every lead.

However, after this I passed a redhead on the street, who noticed me and gave me eye contact. I approached her with the CW opener and she stopped immediately. Very good vibes - right after my approach she immediately started telling me that she noticed me, and that she went to a tantra workshop last night and felt extremely good vibes, spreading the wealth. I started talking about stuff I've done too in tantra - in the end I qualified her and built a connection. She was on her way to a store to pick up some yoga pants to do an LSD trip the next day; I proposed that since we have a great connection in the moment, we go grab drinks after she's at the store - I told her I was also going to a store, so we should grab drinks afterwards. Suggested a bar nearby - she suggested 7:30. We agreed, I got her number, and told her I'd text her later.

Next four approaches unfortunately didn't go anywhere - I kept approaching from 6:30 until 7:15. Got one number but she never texted back - and another approach was a girl whom I approached once before long ago, but she remembered and I had no good reaction. Totally killed my vibe and mood - in the end I realized I should have built off what she said and kept on going with it, which was "we've done this before," and I should have said "I guess I still find you attractive! How have you been?"

The instant date went really well though - I'm writing up an FR for it, but long story short - we met at the bar, had two drinks each, she revealed she's a bisexual hedonist basically, and though I invited her to my place and then to hers when she declined - we stayed on and had another drink together. Was lots of touching and stuff - I walked her back to her apartment at the end, and she kissed me. Then later she texted me, but my text back was kind of needy. We agreed to meet again on Sunday.
 

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Friday March 6

Just one approach today, did it for the sake of getting into a social mode only.

Had another date this evening, I think it went well. Will write up the FR soon.
 

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Starting up a journal again. I have a very bad habit of not consistently posting my field reports, and not keeping up with my journals and metrics. Hopefully let's change that this time and hit one post a day.

Since this is a daily journal, I will include adventures with my regular rotation as well.

My goals from now until the end of the year are:
- Find a consistently working process that works for ME to lay 8's and 9's that I meet in Day Game. I want a full working process that carries me from before the approach, all the way to me being hard and deep inside a girl. Whatever it takes.
- Approach only 8's and 9's. The goal is to meet, date, and fuck 9's, and 8's consistently and often.
- In addition to meeting sexy Korean, Japanese, Chinese, Filipina women; I also want to expand to Russian women, and American/European Blondes and Red Heads. I want to fuck my first ever red head.
- I will approach 5-10 women a day, 5x a week.
- I will commit to 3 nights of night game every week. Thursday, Friday, Saturday, or Friday, Saturday, Sunday.
- I want to meet and fuck, and eventually convert to a girlfriend, an Asian 9. Ideally Korean or Japanese.
- I want to be the best guy in bed all my women have ever had. In quality of sex, her sex, and the overall experience. I always provide hot sex and a hot experience.
- I will have either first or second day lays. The whole time I am with a girl, I will create desire within her to fuck me passionately.

On my Side, Big Lifestyle Changes to Make:
- Quit smoking weed. In turn, I will quit and be disciplined about using porn. I want no weed use until August 2020. Two exceptions: Feb 14-17, and May 21-25.
- I will start exercising again 3 times a week.
- I will commit to seeing a trainer once every two weeks, and will enroll in a TRX class.
- I will quit drinking, except when I see girls on a date. Even then, I will limit myself to at most two drinks. Been drinking too much beer lately (I love the taste of craft beer) and I have to end it for the sake of my health.

I am also interested to try the "invite one girl home every day" challenge, for sixty days.

Adding a few more goals here, now that I have more clarity on a few things:

- Learn to feel and act on sexual tension - in the moment. I will be excellent at feeling a girl out and acting on it, rather than following patterns.
- I will pace a girl's emotional state through the entire process, from start to finish.
- I will excel at escalating with nervous girls all the way to sex.
- I will master the escalation process when she's at my place, including dealing with LMR and nervous resistance.
- I will increase my empathy to detect a girl's state, and how to guide and release her feelings.
 
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