A rant about LMR from girls. I don't want to chase nor to go to prison.

[razir110]

Please forgive me for a slightly bitter post, but I need to share my thoughts with you.

Basically, you have a great date, invite her home, she comes, you try to escalate and face a lot of resistance. This post is specifically about LMR at YOUR PLACE you are very close to sex, you are excited, you like her, you want her.

It happened to me recently and I've been trying to talk to myself to see why it bothers me so much. And now got why it bothers me so much. Because women are being really silly, not to use stronger words, by imposing heavy LMR.

So she wants to play hard to get, to test you bla bla bla. Ok ladies... two things:

One: I don't chase anyone in my life. Not to mention women. I won't be sitting there next to her for 50 mins trying to get a kiss. You don't want it, great I have 10 more girls I will meet. Bye. Women are constantly losing great guys due to this, I am pretty sure. A bit of resistance, the typical "check mark" resistance is ok, but heavy LMS is just plain stupid.

Two: Do you know how much is the jail term for sexual assault? Even sexual harassment? All the courts and laws are against men btw. Whatever happens she is the victim and you may spend months of your precious life in courts over some stupid b*tch. I DEF don't want to be involved in any of this stuff due to some girl that was playing hard to get. I get to the point when I would have to use more physical force to escalate, this is when I stop. Again, she lost a guy over this silly female "I am not a slut" ritual taken too far.

I get why girls have to play a bit hard to get, but I am angry at women who take it too far and essentially make you put yourself in sketchy situations. And then when you "fail to escalate", read "stop because you aren't a chaser and don't want to go to jail" she considers you a weak man.

Sorry if this is a bit bitter because it is, but damn guys, don't have a point here?

Please let me know your opinions!

Best!

 

[foggy]

MY DUDE

there's a difference between chasing and persisting.

men who persist:

1. act now and not later
2. lead, and always progress towards the end goal
3. are willing to walk away.

You just said yourself that you're willing to walk away and fuck a bunch of other girls, how could you be chasing in this case?

Also, apply this question to your situation: "would this girl I'm with do this thing herself to keep things going / moving forward, or not?" Yes = not chasing. No = chasing. If you got a girl in your bed and she's expressing sexual interest in you, I'm pretty sure she wants sex just as much as you and you're not chasing.

But how could she want sex just as much as you but still throw up resistance? This is where the evolutionary biological sexual response of women comes into play. Ahem, big term I know. I sort of just made it up, I think. I'm tired tonight.

Men persist, women resist. It's hardwired into us! If women didn't have a natural tendency to resist, then they'd get fucked by any guy who walked up to them. Well, almost any guy. And that's not good for them. See, they got babies to make. And if they let any guy fuck them, they might end up with faulty offspring.

Last minute resistance is also expected when you look at the overall sexual goal of girls. Girls predominately seek relationships. Guys predominately seek purely sexual relationships. There's no value in a purely sexual relationship for a girl. So of course she's gonna resist, unless you're a smooth guy who builds a strong relationship with her quick and get her projecting about the two of you in the future, before you even have sex.

Ya know what I mean? Those silly girls can't help it but throw up resistance! They aren't trying to anger you!

 

[dcman]

Before bringing a girl to my place I make sure through Kino and talk that we are going to have my house to have sex . when facing a strong LMR I find it better to stop escalating and ask the reason for it . Based on this I would decide what would be better to proceed address her concerns and then proceed or ask her to leave the place ? On occasions when I stopped escalating and told them to leave there was a turnaround in their attitude. It conveyed to them that I am not planning to see them again. she gets to decide either to continue forward or risk losing not seeing me again.