A Rant on Pickup and Women

[AspiringStoic]

Really think about this:

What do women/girls do to us that is so bad?

Like really....

Men do horrible things to women. Like:

They murder them.
Beat them up.
Abduct them.
Rape them.
Stalk them.

Women do none of these things to us. They just leave us alone.

Whats the worst things women do to men?

Whats the worst thing a girl has done to me?

- Ignored me and continued walking when I tried to talk to her.

- Acted polite but disinterested and did not answer me enthusiastically when in a conversation.

- Told me she is not in the mood to chat or talk.

- Told me she is not interested.

- Said no when I asked her for a date.

- Said that she has a boyfriend.

- Agreed to a date, gave me her contact and did not respond to me when I messaged.

- Suddenly stopped responding or responded very infrequently or after long intervals.

- Agreed to a date on text and then still did not come out or respond later.

Like really compare these to the kind of things men do to women!!!!

Is there even any comparison??

AT WORST, what they do is just LEAVE US ALONE LOL

So think about this the next time you feel "scared" to approach a girl.

Think about it the next time when a girl does ANY of the above things to you.

Just compare it to what men do to women and feel GRATEFUL for how NICE women actually are.

They represent absolutely no 'danger' to us except the ones we inflict on ourselves mentally, by ascribing our own 'meanings' to their actions.

No woman would come after you and actively try to harm you when you are just trying to get on with life and stay away from trouble.

No woman beats us up when we approach them.

The next time you feel you got a "brutal rejection", or get "flaked on" or get "ghosted" and you feel its the WORST THING that has happened to you,

The next time you feel that this whole pickup thing is so HARD,

Just think about how the WORST THING that happened to you is so tame in comparison to the WORST THING a girl has faced or has had to be scared of when it comes to dealing with men!!

Just think about it, thank your lucky stars that you were born as a man and carry on with your journey.

P.S. If some of you had bad divorces etc sure you might have had girls do "worse" things than what I wrote. But generally for a guy doing pickup what I wrote is all that applies.

We often think about how "easy" it is for girls, (the entire Manosphere is built on whining about this) but I think its high time we recognize that its worse for them in so many ways.

 

[bgwh]

You've been reading too much feminist fear mongering material. She's more likely to get hit by lighting than be murdered or abducted.

As for "being beat up", if you mean by random people, again, we're talking less odds than having a building fall down on you. As a guy you're far more likely to get beaten up by random peope.

And if you mean in relationships: women engage in as much (or more) physical violence (especially when one-sided). Think the Amber Heard kind where it's combined with psychological violence, while pummeling his head, and mocking him as being weak and that nobody will defend him coz he's the man.

You have to realize that women enjoy huge privileges in dating, and they'd like to keep them. This is one reason that they over-exaggerate dangers/disadvantages to such an absurd level.

 

[KJ Francis]

I think this is fair up to the lay. In terms of approach anxiety, it's for sure true your fear is way worse than the likely reality. Nothing bad will happen, and very beautiful girls are often really kind.

We can approach late night on the street, bring girls to our place, or go to theirs without much fear of safety risk. Comfort and trust are not as immediate for her.

 

[MuST0BtA1NSkR1Lla]

Really think about this:

What do women/girls do to us that is so bad?

Like really....

Men do horrible things to women. Like:

They murder them.
Beat them up.
Abduct them.
Rape them.
Stalk them.

Women do none of these things to us. They just leave us alone.

Whats the worst things women do to men?

Whats the worst thing a girl has done to me?

- Ignored me and continued walking when I tried to talk to her.

- Acted polite but disinterested and did not answer me enthusiastically when in a conversation.

- Told me she is not in the mood to chat or talk.

- Told me she is not interested.

- Said no when I asked her for a date.

- Said that she has a boyfriend.

- Agreed to a date, gave me her contact and did not respond to me when I messaged.

- Suddenly stopped responding or responded very infrequently or after long intervals.

- Agreed to a date on text and then still did not come out or respond later.

Like really compare these to the kind of things men do to women!!!!

Is there even any comparison??

AT WORST, what they do is just LEAVE US ALONE LOL

So think about this the next time you feel "scared" to approach a girl.

Think about it the next time when a girl does ANY of the above things to you.

Just compare it to what men do to women and feel GRATEFUL for how NICE women actually are.

They represent absolutely no 'danger' to us except the ones we inflict on ourselves mentally, by ascribing our own 'meanings' to their actions.

No woman would come after you and actively try to harm you when you are just trying to get on with life and stay away from trouble.

No woman beats us up when we approach them.

The next time you feel you got a "brutal rejection", or get "flaked on" or get "ghosted" and you feel its the WORST THING that has happened to you,

The next time you feel that this whole pickup thing is so HARD,

Just think about how the WORST THING that happened to you is so tame in comparison to the WORST THING a girl has faced or has had to be scared of when it comes to dealing with men!!

Just think about it, thank your lucky stars that you were born as a man and carry on with your journey.

P.S. If some of you had bad divorces etc sure you might have had girls do "worse" things than what I wrote. But generally for a guy doing pickup what I wrote is all that applies.

We often think about how "easy" it is for girls, (the entire Manosphere is built on whining about this) but I think its high time we recognize that its worse for them in so many ways.

Uh geez. You should meet my friend. Divorce lawyer who then got divorced and lost all his shit and now lives in a garbage apartment while the ex got the house.

Women when they divorce leave a lot of men in squalor.

 

[Skills]

I remember you:

Nice to see you back...

 

[AspiringStoic]

LOL

I meant this post merely as a motivating mindset for a guy struggling with Approach Anxiety and dealing with flakes, rejections, ghosts etc.

Not some post on why women are angels. I even made a note at the end of the post that it does not apply to people who have had ugly divorces and other horrible stuff.

Never thought this would lead to responses that I am a feminist and a white knight.

But anyways this is interesting!

We are all on a forum about trying to get women and a post slightly exaggerating the virtues of women in order to get one to approach more leads to such backlash.

 

[bgwh]

LOL

I meant this post merely as a motivating mindset for a guy struggling with Approach Anxiety and dealing with flakes, rejections, ghosts etc.

Not some post on why women are angels. I even made a note at the end of the post that it does not apply to people who have had ugly divorces and other horrible stuff.

Never thought this would lead to responses that I am a feminist and a white knight.

But anyways this is interesting!

We are all on a forum about trying to get women and a post slightly exaggerating the virtues of women in order to get one to approach more leads to such backlash.

Claiming that women are walking around constantly afraid of being randomly murdered or abducted will help you not have anxiety about approaching them? That feminist clap trap was the main reason I (and many guys) had AA for years. It's also one of the main things that cause creepiness and overthinking. You approach her thinking "Oh wow, she's afraid I'm going to abduct and kill her, how do I not act like a murderer, nooo I don't want to ruin her day by scaring her".

 

[Conquistador]

It seems like there is a moderately large subset of urban Western women who are pretty fearful about stuff like this. Not that there’s generally a rational, statistically grounded basis for their fears, but that’s to be expected obvs lol. Even guys refuse to do certain things that are safer than driving a car.



I think it has something to do with high uncertainty and an attempt to control that. Being physically small in the anonymity of a big city does things to some girls especially those with anxious or obsessive tendencies. You don’t see six-foot girls in small towns acting this way.
There’s also a definite socioeconomic component. The higher up or more sheltered a girl has been, generally the less street smart she is and thus the less confident.

Also, media of all sorts consistently promote these fears in girls. It’s part of our lame 21st-century urban white American culture. A woman is more likely to be murdered by another woman than by a serial killer, and boyfriends are probably 50x more dangerous than strangers, but it’s easier for the brain to think in such terms and so women direct their fears toward the most convenient outlets.

 

[DonGately]

I've never met a woman in a major city who ever talked about having these fears. Just the common-sense 'avoid bad neighborhoods' stuff.

 

[bgwh]

I've never met a woman in a major city who ever talked about having these fears. Just the common-sense 'avoid bad neighborhoods' stuff.

Ditto. I have had literally hundreds of female friends and never heard them have any of these fears. It's just feminists on reddit claiming that supposedly women everywhere have these fears on a daily basis...

The only chicks I have seen mention anything in that direction have been mid and ugly chicks. I once talked to a mid chick who kept rudely rejecting guys. I told her that it's inappropriate that she keeps rudely "rejecting" guys who haven't even shown any intent in the first place. And she said she had to let them know in advance what her "boundaries are" in order to "prevent being raped".

But nobody, none of those guys had any sexual intent in and around her. She had to invent all these hypothetical potential predators, just so she boost her ego by constantly "rejecting guys left and right". Again, guys who never ever had or showed any sexual intent in her.

Never seen a pretty girl go and dish out "safety rejections", it's always the mid and ugly chicks who are supposedly quaking in fear of guys lurking in the corners and trying to abduct them.

 

[DonGately]

Yep, there's a reason 8s are usually easier to pick up than 6-7s.