Abundance, Really?

[metalbird]

I thought getting better options with women would increase my sense of abundance, but if anything, it's only made the pool feel smaller and smaller over the years. I don't want to be so picky, but, it's not something I can switch off. I used to pursue average/below average women -- now I wouldn't get anything out of banging them, I'd honestly rather save time and jack off.

It's so rare that I meet a woman who impresses me anymore. And I'm not talk strictly about looks, I mean the whole package -- is she emotionally healthy and mature, is she loyal, do her values match mine, etc.

I really would like to find a woman to form a serious relationship with. I'd even like to have a family in the not-so-distant future. But the honest truth is the women that I would seriously consider are frankly the top 99 percentile.

For the record, it's worth noting these women are almost always very interested in me when they meet me if they're single, because I think I'm a pretty good catch too.

I really don't mean to be arrogant, and I empathize if anyone feels offenses at this perspective, but I'm trying to be real, and I hope some of the people here can relate.

 

[Fluxcapacitor]

@metalbird dude it depends on your aims. You've hit abundance of average girls and so you're aiming higher for a girlfriend type girl. If you can kill the low level stuff that it bores you and you're looking for someone who impresses then yeah that's fewer girls at that quality which narrows your pool.

The bonus here is you won't settle for something less. There's girlfriend quality girls out there dude and I'm sure you'll find them. Until then keep your skills sharp!

 

[Hiya]

I really think the same as you, having an abundance mentality is all good.. knowing you can get another girl.

However that said, say you live in a city population 1 million, how many single girls, in your age group, ethnicity type, similar status, not cluster B, are there? Possibly 50-100, who will be interested in you...

It's easy to bang any broad, from the local boozer or city clubs, but like you, I rather jack off than comprise my reputation with her.

I've had solid 9/10s asking for it and I sometimes cbfa with it. My guys friends say I'm swinging the other way, but it does nothing for my ego...

I think sometimes, your gonna have to compromise somewhere to find her... wether that be looks or status.

 

[DoWhatWorks]

This article is what you need @metalbird https://www.girlschase.com/content/absolute-abundance

Sounds like you've got your base level needs handled and you want to raise quality and get top tier woman consistently.

The next puzzle for you to solve is how can I consistently meet wife material girls?

This answer is different for everyone but to help you get there I'd be asking myself these questions:

1. How am I primarily meeting girls now? (Nightclub, Social Circle etc.)

2. What is my ideal high quality girl and where would she most likely be? E.g. A super smart marine biologist will be in a seaside town with a big university vs a sexy successful professional who will be based in a metropolis hub

3. What adjustments and changes do I need to make in order to consistently meet the kind of girls that impress me and are worth keeping around?

-This is the tougher question as it may mean you need to re-locate or improve yourself in certain areas that may not be up to scratch if you're being completely honest with yourself.

E.g. You're in great shape and doing well financially but your job is too time restrictive to meet these woman or you have a lot of free time but not enough money to have the lifestyle that attracts the woman you want.