Hey fellas
I was going to write here a long story about this girl in my class that I can't stop thinking about, but I'll try to make it quick:
So there is this girl I have an "obsession" for a year now.
I met her in my class in university.
She's the most gorgeous girl in there.
From what I can tell she's similar to me in several respects.
Although in some things I wish I was more like her which interestingly enough is how I used to be in some ways.
And also she has the best body.
She's my type of girl.
She started eye contact with me for several days.
I didn't talk to her.
She gets cold on me.
Months later I managed to do a group work with her in a class.
This was the first time I talked to her.
I was super nervous when I interacted with her.
The interaction was nothing special.
I was in almost in a "pea brain mode" when I talked to her.
I feel I also was a bit cold towards her.
Didn't want to show that I like her..... right?
Somehow she restarts to give me signs of interest later.
Pandemic starts.
Classes stop.
I stop cold approaching in general.
I find myself keep thinking about this chick for months.
Classes restart.
She gives a sign of interest.
I don't talk to her.
I don't even look at her.
I IGNORE her.
She gets cold.
We change shifts.
I'm not in her class anymore.
I don't have a chance to see her by normal means.
I keep thinking about her.
I get mad about what I did everyday.
I'm obsessing over this.
How do I get out of this?
I restarted cold approaching after this. I only approached 4 girls so far. No phone numbers from any of them though. Don't know how this will work out with this pandemic going on. The one girl that I managed to stop and have a longer conversation wouldn't let me give her a handclasp because of covid.
But the main point of this post is this:
Am I turning away from this girl because it's the rational thing to do or is it because I'm STILL being a coward.
I have to change this in myself. I can't keep being this weak shell of a man. I disappointed myself and her. It pains me.
She's in auto-rejection I'd assume. I know rationally that my chances with her at this point are slim. But emotionally I can't let this go. I didn't ever gave a sign of interest to this girl. I had this idiotic "persona of indifference" the entire time all to protect my ego.
My attainability is nonexistent... I would think. And since she's in auto-rejection, so is my value?
Yesterday came to my mind to text this girl. I got her phone number through my class WhatsApp group chat, she didn't give it to me, I didn't ask for it either. I could ask for some notes from to see how she reacts. To try to begin to bridge the gap that we have.
But this would be out of the blue. I'm not even a friend of hers. We're aquaintances at best. I could ask this to anyone.
Am I still being a coward for not doing this. Or is it the right thing to go cold approaching and try to forget about this girl?
I was going to write here a long story about this girl in my class that I can't stop thinking about, but I'll try to make it quick:
So there is this girl I have an "obsession" for a year now.
I met her in my class in university.
She's the most gorgeous girl in there.
From what I can tell she's similar to me in several respects.
Although in some things I wish I was more like her which interestingly enough is how I used to be in some ways.
And also she has the best body.
She's my type of girl.
She started eye contact with me for several days.
I didn't talk to her.
She gets cold on me.
Months later I managed to do a group work with her in a class.
This was the first time I talked to her.
I was super nervous when I interacted with her.
The interaction was nothing special.
I was in almost in a "pea brain mode" when I talked to her.
I feel I also was a bit cold towards her.
Didn't want to show that I like her..... right?
Somehow she restarts to give me signs of interest later.
Pandemic starts.
Classes stop.
I stop cold approaching in general.
I find myself keep thinking about this chick for months.
Classes restart.
She gives a sign of interest.
I don't talk to her.
I don't even look at her.
I IGNORE her.
She gets cold.
We change shifts.
I'm not in her class anymore.
I don't have a chance to see her by normal means.
I keep thinking about her.
I get mad about what I did everyday.
I'm obsessing over this.
How do I get out of this?
I restarted cold approaching after this. I only approached 4 girls so far. No phone numbers from any of them though. Don't know how this will work out with this pandemic going on. The one girl that I managed to stop and have a longer conversation wouldn't let me give her a handclasp because of covid.
But the main point of this post is this:
Am I turning away from this girl because it's the rational thing to do or is it because I'm STILL being a coward.
I have to change this in myself. I can't keep being this weak shell of a man. I disappointed myself and her. It pains me.
She's in auto-rejection I'd assume. I know rationally that my chances with her at this point are slim. But emotionally I can't let this go. I didn't ever gave a sign of interest to this girl. I had this idiotic "persona of indifference" the entire time all to protect my ego.
My attainability is nonexistent... I would think. And since she's in auto-rejection, so is my value?
Yesterday came to my mind to text this girl. I got her phone number through my class WhatsApp group chat, she didn't give it to me, I didn't ask for it either. I could ask for some notes from to see how she reacts. To try to begin to bridge the gap that we have.
But this would be out of the blue. I'm not even a friend of hers. We're aquaintances at best. I could ask this to anyone.
Am I still being a coward for not doing this. Or is it the right thing to go cold approaching and try to forget about this girl?
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