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Anyone resent their parents (especially their father)?

ElderPrice

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Curious if any of you resent your parents - especially your father - for being in the position where you've decided you need to go on the internet and learn seduction.

Do you look back and think if only your father taught you really anything useful, maybe you could've gotten laid much earlier in life... or maybe you could have started your same journey except years earlier... or maybe you could have married a keeper by now... Stuff like that.

Anyone?
 

naturalmikey

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My parents got divorced when I was young and I recently realized my mother, who I love dearly, turned me against my father. I feel like that generation understood female nature better than today. But teaching your children about the other sex is a privilege reserved for mothers and daughters thanks to feminism.
 

The Emerald Archer

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Curious if any of you resent your parents - especially your father - for being in the position where you've decided you need to go on the internet and learn seduction.

Actually I have quite a bit of resentment towards my father, but not because of anything seduction related. My resentment is towards my father for how he handled himself financially throughout my childhood, and how I don't believe he did a good job providing for our family.

He kind of screwed us all over in the past 6 years by investing over 100K in savings to go into a restaurant with his cousin and 2 of his cousin's relatives (who has a reputation for being shady and dishonest) while me and my younger brother were still in college, because he didn't want to even try to get a stable job even though that's what would have been best for the family.

Anyways, yeah man I have a metric shit ton of resentment for my old man and part of the reason I'm working on improving myself as a man (per this website) is so that I can be a better man to my future kids and give them a better life, especially financially.
 
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Michal

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I used to but I had come to peace with it. So nowadays, if he does not treat me like a kid, we are good.
Our home was ran by my mom really, so the resentment was more in terms of him yelling at us because he had poor social and parental skills. So as it would be, I had no real male model to lookup to when I was growing up. I had to look at my peers and kind of try to emulate what the cool kids were doing. As a result I was always the quiet kid, never really spoke up for myself because I was conditioned that if I defend myself, this bigger gorilla monkey will start swinging.
My mom was guarding a lot and providing. But not like overprotective. More of a to give us whatever we wanted, often as a reward. Like good marks at school. But school was easy for me so it was like, with fairly small amount of effort, I got "big" results. Which does not prepare you for life either.
But at some point, (hopefully) everyone realizes, just like I had to, that these are the cards I was dealt and it is simply only up to me to change it. And that is the only thing we can really do. How we come to that realization and acceptance is different. For me, it was to finish school as parents planned for me and basically become free.
So yea, they could have done a better job. But that is what I came to peace with, I am sure they tried their best they could have with the options and resources they had.

Seduction wise, even if our parents would understand girls more, nowadays the game is fairly different with the cultural changes. Back in the day, my father just asked my mom for a dance, so they danced, went to park together couple of times. Fast forward 3 years and they were expecting my big sister to be born. While their advice is not bad today "just ask her out" - there is more to it. It's like "just eat more" when you try to beef up at the gym as a skinny guy. Not to mention the whole new area of online dating.
But you can take this as a personal responsibility. If you want to have kids, and you want them to be successful in some area... one of the best ways to achieve that is for you to be successful first.

Edit: one last thing. If you think about, your father might have done a poor job teaching you about girls, but at the end of the day, you are here. So yeay you might have been total playboy by now if he taught you something, maybe not. But even if it was not his conscious effort, you still ended up somewhere where you can learn this.
 
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