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I had dynamics switched on me for the first time.
So a couple of days ago, I was supposed to go to a singles event and meet some cute girls. But that I can get done any week. My work schedule and my friend's work schedule left us very little time to meet and that day was pretty much one of those days where we could meet up. So I decided I'll go to a singles event some other time.
I got to the area early to sit at a bar with a couple of drinks. Next thing I know, an old woman in her 50s started telling me to unzip my jacket in an authoritarian manner but playfully too. She insisted and so I complied cuz why not. I wasn't sure, but something about this interaction tells me she may be trying to hit on me. I wasn't really into her, but I was curious to see how it would go down.
Throughout the interaction, there were key things I notice. She held my hand and even kissed it. She kept finding excuses to touch me. After a couple of conversations, she moved me by saying "let's go outside for a smoke" almost as if making a statement.
So we went out. During that time, I notice she was getting in my personal space. Ngl I was aroused by that, but I think I liked the context more than I liked her. She was so close to the point I was looking at her lips, but I was curious to see if she'd take the first step and try to kiss me. At some point, I ended up sharing something with her, like how most of the women I dated expected me to be the leader and make things happen, and I mentioned I'm looking for something more "niche". She responded with "I'm your niche, but you can't have me." (I realized later she was trying to do a push-pull, but my neurodivergent brain interpreted that differently).
We went back inside, her guy friend came, and so did mine. Though this was after we danced to her favourite tunes playing and stuff. She told me to get her number, which I did. Usually, when you get a girl's number, conventional wisdom would tell you you'd want to follow up with something that brings back positive emotions. I didn't do that, instead, all I did was text her my name and she replied with "wanna wtf".
And honestly, I wasn't really feeling her like "Oh I want her". But I respect her confidence and being so forthright. Half the things she did, the average woman wouldn't do. There were some things about her that I notice that killed the mood.
1. She was dominating the conversation. I could get a couple of replies here and there, but she'd just keep talking and talking. Yeah, women love to talk, and I'm more of a listener so this works out for me. I went out with a woman who talked a lot, but that's not the problem with me. I only care if I can follow along with her conversations, and actually feel like the things I'm saying has reciprocal value.
2. Sexual escalation wasn't there. I think "wanna wtf" could be her way of saying "wanna fuck" but even I felt that was way too strong. When it came to approaching, keeping conversation going, touch, flirting, escalation, compliance requests and all that stuff, she was a bit forceful but I think she does it really well. But sex escalation wasn't there. Perhaps she's one of those older women who's looking for a young sexy guy that's still dominant (which I'm not).
As someone who's been trying to lead with his feminine side (more info here https://www.skilledseducer.com/threads/does-cold-approaching-not-work-in-this-day-and-age.30823/) This was the first. I had women throw me signals before, but this was the first time I had direct interaction with her. I think what helped was I was wearing glasses at the time (thanks for the suggestion @Chase ), but I also invested in a pair of pants that supposed to scream feminine (like a soft wooled fabric where I can stretch my legs out far and wide). The rest of the clothes I have are also very light and bright with color, so it's still male-presenting, but with a more colorful expression. I still wear solids, but just more on the brighter side.
I don't think I'll be expecting an experience like this some other time soon. But honestly it's nice to experience this while I'm alive. Coming to think of it, I also had an older woman hit on me while I was in a bus in Ottawa, tho that one I can't seem to remember that much as it was a decade ago. But yea.
Has anyone else here had experience where they were fully seduced by a woman? Did I meet a really masculine woman, or is it an age thing for older women to be direct as they don't act subtle or use plausible deniability when it comes to sex?
So a couple of days ago, I was supposed to go to a singles event and meet some cute girls. But that I can get done any week. My work schedule and my friend's work schedule left us very little time to meet and that day was pretty much one of those days where we could meet up. So I decided I'll go to a singles event some other time.
I got to the area early to sit at a bar with a couple of drinks. Next thing I know, an old woman in her 50s started telling me to unzip my jacket in an authoritarian manner but playfully too. She insisted and so I complied cuz why not. I wasn't sure, but something about this interaction tells me she may be trying to hit on me. I wasn't really into her, but I was curious to see how it would go down.
Throughout the interaction, there were key things I notice. She held my hand and even kissed it. She kept finding excuses to touch me. After a couple of conversations, she moved me by saying "let's go outside for a smoke" almost as if making a statement.
So we went out. During that time, I notice she was getting in my personal space. Ngl I was aroused by that, but I think I liked the context more than I liked her. She was so close to the point I was looking at her lips, but I was curious to see if she'd take the first step and try to kiss me. At some point, I ended up sharing something with her, like how most of the women I dated expected me to be the leader and make things happen, and I mentioned I'm looking for something more "niche". She responded with "I'm your niche, but you can't have me." (I realized later she was trying to do a push-pull, but my neurodivergent brain interpreted that differently).
We went back inside, her guy friend came, and so did mine. Though this was after we danced to her favourite tunes playing and stuff. She told me to get her number, which I did. Usually, when you get a girl's number, conventional wisdom would tell you you'd want to follow up with something that brings back positive emotions. I didn't do that, instead, all I did was text her my name and she replied with "wanna wtf".
And honestly, I wasn't really feeling her like "Oh I want her". But I respect her confidence and being so forthright. Half the things she did, the average woman wouldn't do. There were some things about her that I notice that killed the mood.
1. She was dominating the conversation. I could get a couple of replies here and there, but she'd just keep talking and talking. Yeah, women love to talk, and I'm more of a listener so this works out for me. I went out with a woman who talked a lot, but that's not the problem with me. I only care if I can follow along with her conversations, and actually feel like the things I'm saying has reciprocal value.
2. Sexual escalation wasn't there. I think "wanna wtf" could be her way of saying "wanna fuck" but even I felt that was way too strong. When it came to approaching, keeping conversation going, touch, flirting, escalation, compliance requests and all that stuff, she was a bit forceful but I think she does it really well. But sex escalation wasn't there. Perhaps she's one of those older women who's looking for a young sexy guy that's still dominant (which I'm not).
As someone who's been trying to lead with his feminine side (more info here https://www.skilledseducer.com/threads/does-cold-approaching-not-work-in-this-day-and-age.30823/) This was the first. I had women throw me signals before, but this was the first time I had direct interaction with her. I think what helped was I was wearing glasses at the time (thanks for the suggestion @Chase ), but I also invested in a pair of pants that supposed to scream feminine (like a soft wooled fabric where I can stretch my legs out far and wide). The rest of the clothes I have are also very light and bright with color, so it's still male-presenting, but with a more colorful expression. I still wear solids, but just more on the brighter side.
I don't think I'll be expecting an experience like this some other time soon. But honestly it's nice to experience this while I'm alive. Coming to think of it, I also had an older woman hit on me while I was in a bus in Ottawa, tho that one I can't seem to remember that much as it was a decade ago. But yea.
Has anyone else here had experience where they were fully seduced by a woman? Did I meet a really masculine woman, or is it an age thing for older women to be direct as they don't act subtle or use plausible deniability when it comes to sex?
. Been there, done that, too much work).
