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Are large crowds antiseductive?

DarkKnight

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While traveling abroad I have noticed that I get way more approach invitations in places with a moderate crowd. As if large crowds on itself are anti-seductive. Maybe because people are more on their guard? I have no idea. Any theories?
 

Fluxcapacitor

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DarkKnight dude! There not necessarily anti seductive but they have there own challenges. Context can help a lot. A find a gig is mostly anti seductive but a festival isn't an usually it's even a larger crowd at festivals. A crowded night club has a lot of distractions but that's mostly the environment itself an not just specific to the crowd.

Crowds usually gather for something which is usually a distraction, crowded places usually have people in groups or meeting others so they can be pre occupied in there own bubble or distracted. Guards can be up but the environment an context all play a part.

Depending on location an context it would change. Is the crowd moving or stationary? Going to or from an event? Is it specifically a crowd or a crowded area. A crowded bar could have a lot less people than a moderately crowded street. It's not number specific but environment specific.

Also ya could be distracted yourself in such crowds which makes ya miss AI's. Some situation would give ya more subtle AI's or more IOI's.

This aside theories are: guards up, distractions, pre occupied, moving, group social context making ASD an more difficult to isolate. Happy travels dude!
 
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DarkKnight

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Yo brother, I'm finally back in my hometown and as such can give decent replies since I am less in a chronic rush!

I think you have put up some pretty good variables. I usually meant the street where indeed people are mostly in a rush to get where they have to go. But I also meant places with a crowd. And yeah actually me being distracted myself and missing approach invitations is quite a valid point.
 

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Less crowd = less social pressure. Less people means less potential for trouble.

Remember that girls are acutely conscious of their social reputation (i.e. slut shaming). Giving indicators of interests in public can potentially fire back big time if it makes her perceived as an "easy girl". So in crowded places, they will tend to avoid this risk.

With less people around they can relax and allow themselves to "misbehave" a little.

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PS. That's why you should take your dates in low social pressure places.
 

DarkKnight

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Cool, I will keep the low pressure date tip especially in mind :)
 

naturalmikey

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Agree on social pressure. Lounge/dive bars are where I have most success. Wine bars around 8 pm are great date spots.
 
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