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Ok so Chase has this article that we all know about Attraction's expiration date.
Now he also has this other article called something like 'Attraction is either there or it isn't.' In there he has this paragraph:
If a woman doesn’t feel it, she can never get it. Again, there may be a few exceptions, but I can’t think of any I’ve seen; if they exist, they’re very rare. You also cannot, in my experience, ‘lose’ attraction. I have had numerous attracted girls I messed things up with in a variety of disastrous ways over the years, but the attraction always remains there and you can always rekindle it with the right approach.
So if you can't lose attraction, then how does it expire?
Also from my personal experience I can tell that this paragraph is a far more accurate representation. I've seen this best on girls I didn't care much about. I could tell they were attracted to me. I would flirt with them heavily, I would chat over text with them, maybe I would even see them but I would almost never make a move on them since I wasn't really interested. So some might say that I made a lot of stuff that should turn them off: chat with them over text, move slow, become emotional, become rude and ultimately send them into auto-rejection.
What I managed to find out is that if I went into no contact or no more contact than required (since they were social circle girls like highschool colleagues, class colleagues, college colleagues etc.) for a couple of weeks, or a couple of months or even a semester, I would managed to re-approach them after that since attraction was still there. By that time, they have forgotten about my mistakes, the bond or rapport we used to have were gone but the attraction remained and it was as if I was approaching a new girl.
I've found out that you literally have to hit a new stage in your life where your tastes in women change (I guess it applies to them as well) in order for attraction die.
So what does Chase mean by saying that attraction has an expiration date because that article doesn't make a lot of sense for me. Yeah you can turn a girl off in many ways but unless you go psycho or full nice guy on her and completely creep her out, you should still be able to rekindle things with her because attraction is still there. It's just that you have to acknowledge what you did wrong, change those flaws in your game and re-approach her more or less differently than you did initially.
What do you guys think?
Now he also has this other article called something like 'Attraction is either there or it isn't.' In there he has this paragraph:
If a woman doesn’t feel it, she can never get it. Again, there may be a few exceptions, but I can’t think of any I’ve seen; if they exist, they’re very rare. You also cannot, in my experience, ‘lose’ attraction. I have had numerous attracted girls I messed things up with in a variety of disastrous ways over the years, but the attraction always remains there and you can always rekindle it with the right approach.
So if you can't lose attraction, then how does it expire?
Also from my personal experience I can tell that this paragraph is a far more accurate representation. I've seen this best on girls I didn't care much about. I could tell they were attracted to me. I would flirt with them heavily, I would chat over text with them, maybe I would even see them but I would almost never make a move on them since I wasn't really interested. So some might say that I made a lot of stuff that should turn them off: chat with them over text, move slow, become emotional, become rude and ultimately send them into auto-rejection.
What I managed to find out is that if I went into no contact or no more contact than required (since they were social circle girls like highschool colleagues, class colleagues, college colleagues etc.) for a couple of weeks, or a couple of months or even a semester, I would managed to re-approach them after that since attraction was still there. By that time, they have forgotten about my mistakes, the bond or rapport we used to have were gone but the attraction remained and it was as if I was approaching a new girl.
I've found out that you literally have to hit a new stage in your life where your tastes in women change (I guess it applies to them as well) in order for attraction die.
So what does Chase mean by saying that attraction has an expiration date because that article doesn't make a lot of sense for me. Yeah you can turn a girl off in many ways but unless you go psycho or full nice guy on her and completely creep her out, you should still be able to rekindle things with her because attraction is still there. It's just that you have to acknowledge what you did wrong, change those flaws in your game and re-approach her more or less differently than you did initially.
What do you guys think?
