Becoming more Attractive. (Alone at home)

[Brassfaced_Jim]

How do make yourself a more attractive and alpha man through actions you can take alone.

What actions can you take at home alone that would make you noticeably more attractive?

NO improving your physical appearance, be it: posture, tonality, fashion, presence, tonality, etc.

Why not this? alpha men are very much into their physical appearance , fitness , physical frame and muscles/bulk etc and their posture , tonality , fashion presence etc.
All of these things are top level stuff and key stuff!

Let’s begin:

1. Eat healthy and drink healthy.

2. Stretch daily.

3. Meditate Daily.

4. Cardiovascular aerobic exercise is best for mental health.

Yep all good. Yoga and mediation are great for state control. Maybe focus on those at home.

5. Read at least 1 hour a day of top self-help book.

I’d stay away from self help books tbh. There are so many varieties. Self help books don’t work.

9. Try new cool hobbies!!!
— Sky diving.
— Scuba diving.
— Ice Figure Skating.
— Travel around the world.
— Piano.
— Guitar.
— Singing.

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These are all pretty good and will add an attractive dimension to you .. but the top 4 are not ‘home alone’ lol.

 

[James Cruse]

There's so many things you can do, I won't list them all here, but here's a few that work for me and that I've recommended:

• Lifting heavy weights at least twice per week (more is better) - this certainly relaxes me, raises testosterone, reduces cortisol (stress hormones) and re-engages your mind & body and can be done at home alone.
• Aromatherapy - highly relaxing and calming. Use a waterless diffuser for best results (wood essential oils have been very effective, in my experience).
• Walking (8,000+ steps per day, even around your house) - gets the blood flowing and muscles working. Regular blood flow is so under-rated, while walking doesn't tax your cortisol into stress like alot of other exercise.
• Yoga and Stretching - I do both of these seperately every week and have for years. You can go to a class or just get a yoga app on your smartphone and do it yourself at home. Highly relaxing while challenging your mind to be calm under some physical stress. Yoga is like super-charged meditation.
• Reading quality FICTION novels - you can read them or listen to them as audiobooks. Gives your brain some imagination and adventure aswell as fuel for ideas for your own life and the choices you make, even if you're not consciously aware of it.
• Grounding in Nature (on grass/sand, around trees, the ocean and in the sun). If you can add getting into clean saltwater at the beach, even better. Grounding with bare feet on ground while breathing in the trees improves human health and has certainly improved mine. Getting plenty of sun for vitamin D in the body (a hormone) and swimming in the salt water ocean does certainly improve your body, skin and frame of mind.
• Writing (not "journalling") - just dumping your thoughts and ideas into something coherent that you can step back and analyse as an observer of them, because they're outside your mind. It'll also clear space in your mind to renew and think about new things - because the act of writing them or typing them somewhere means they're out of your mind now and you can change those ideas, edit them, improve them and let them go and stop dwelling on them. This is a very under-rated tool that so few people pay attention to. Even writing your own fiction would be helpful here, if you want to go that far.
• Creating anything - making something, writing something new, building something, making music, whatever. Give yourself some projects regularly to actually CREATE something original, rather than reproduce or copy or imitate. It's a way of adding more respect for yourself and how you view how you think about yourself and improve your internal standing of yourself. Sometimes you can ask someone for help in your project, and that's ok too.

There's plenty of others - but these are some that I use off the top of my head.

 

[D. Gately]

Reading quality fiction def underrated. Gives you tons of ideas and things to talk about.

 

[GreatManKos]

Getting women is about specific social skills, your looks and logistics. General self-improvement won't help, except for maybe meditations / Eastern philosophy as they help with getting those necessary skills. Your main hobbies could be watching anime, play dota 2 and live in your mom's basement, this won't stop you from getting girls if you have game and looks. The idea that self-improvement helps you getting laid (at least significantly) is very flawed. There's a lot of stuff you can do for your own sake, but in the end you learn how to get girls by going out and trying to get girls (and well having nice looks, body language, etc).

 

[D. Gately]

Another looksmaxxing newbie has joined the chat.

I know self-improvement helped me dramatically to get hot college girls both externally [adding muscle] as well as improving my inner game.

I do agree that logistics are often critical.

 

[GreatManKos]

Another looksmaxxing newbie has joined the chat.

I know self-improvement helped me dramatically to get hot college girls both externally [adding muscle] as well as improving my inner game.

I do agree that logistics are often critical.

Eh, I'm more about game-maxxing and I'm in the game for 10+ years... I know a some guys focusing on self-improvement without getting girls, and vice versa, literal baboons getting laid very hot chicks. You basically confirmed my point by mentioning "adding muscle" (i.e. improving your looks) and inner game (aka social skills). Both things you mentioned fall under the things the thread starter excluded from what should be discussed here:

Rules for what you can list as advice to do:
No inner game adjacent materials or books.
NO improving your physical appearance, be it: posture, tonality, fashion, presence, tonality, etc.
No actual PUA products or drills.

I myself recommended some inner game books in another thread, ha-ha.

 

[mirror]

This was just a theory I wanted input on.

I mean a guy who watches anime all day every day versus his identical twin who reads self help books for several hours a day. Surely the one who reads is more attractive?

Do it for yourself. If you like yourself , you can do more than before

 

[Brassfaced_Jim]

In my experience I don't get an 'aura' lift by reading self help books and such. I get it by expressing myself strongly according to my identity, and doing the things I love with gusto.

I'm kind of suspicious myself of the majority of the self help movement, which seems to me to veer toward a compulsive self-consciousness and loss of touch with oneself, as opposed to a positive self-awareness and self-acceptance, which are good and valuable things.

The way I see it, Man is an animal of action, and he knows himself and becomes himself through action, and builds his concept of himself by watching himself in action and seeing his effects upon his environment. The most useful reflection a man can do is that which follows his decisive action, taking into context the results and evaluating them.

The idea of filling his head with abstract notions and concepts that are not related to his immediate experience, in order to shift his reality in some positive way, is (again in my humble opinion and experience) a very ineffectual enterprise.

Truth.
Self help books are whack and a fallacy. They don’t really work at all. cos the brain can’t learn things that way.

Studies have shown the people most likely to buy the next new self help book by author X .. is the person who bought the Authors last self help book.

So its a guy buying book 1 “the 10 secrets of a successful life” .. reads it , and then buys the follow up “the next 10 secrets of a successful life” etc

if book 1 worked, he wouldn’t have to buy book 2.

 

[Brassfaced_Jim]

Eh, I'm more about game-maxxing and I'm in the game for 10+ years... I know a some guys focusing on self-improvement without getting girls, (guyA) and vice versa, literal baboons getting laid very hot chicks. (GuyB)

truth.
I’ll apply a tag to these 2 types , A and B.

guy A is shy and nerdy , reads books on self improvement and does some stuff, but doesn’t apply the right way, or take right actions. still doesn’t get girls.
He remains ‘passive’ let’s say.
He’s an introvert that needs to become more extroverted , active and assertive , through ‘winning’ interactions with people.

guyB is a ‘Baboon’ - there’s a few kinds.
(Need more info from you on this which type)

-He can be a Caveman Baboon , who is tall with a big frame, and very assertive, he’s attractive as he has ‘Protector’ Value for women. (I know a guy like this. He is a 6’5” Macedonian Warrior type guy. But he’s thick as a plank of wood. He did shit in school etc not very intelligent. I’m not sure he can even read tbh .)

-he can be a Cheeky Baboon type.
The cheeky monkey fella. Very extroverted , mr cocky funny , always teasing and messing around w women , mischief maker , making Fun wherever he goes .
Great/high social value guy. Also into interesting and cool shit usually re hobbies, movies, music.

Is this broadly what u mean re the Baboons getting laid with very hot chicks?
im assuming it’s the Caveman Alpha type

need some kind of photo examples please if possible. Or movie stars that look like these guys IRL.

 

[Will_V]

Truth.
Self help books are whack and a fallacy. They don’t really work at all. cos the brain can’t learn things that way.

Yes, the brain learns by real-life pain and reward, and the subconscious cannot be duped for long.

Studies have shown the people most likely to buy the next new self help book by author X .. is the person who bought the Authors last self help book.

Yeah, a lot of self help stuff is sweet nothings in your ear.

I don't know if it's a recent thing, but lately I noticed a rise in social media of the secondary character of self-help - the Subject. You'll have some youtuber who becomes famous by consuming self-help content on behalf of his audience. So now you have guys getting selfhelped by watching guys getting selfhelped by selfhelp gurus.

Sounds like some kind of four dimensional porn movie.

So its a guy buying book 1 “the 10 secrets of a successful life” .. reads it , and then buys the follow up “the next 10 secrets of a successful life” etc

if book 1 worked, he wouldn’t have to buy book 2.

Like @Kshatrap A.V. said, it's a refuge, one that requires constant sustenance.

 

[Brassfaced_Jim]

This was just a theory I wanted input on.

I mean a guy who watches anime all day every day versus his identical twin who reads self help books for several hours a day. Surely the one who reads is more attractive?

lol.
no buddy, these are just 2 introverted , nerdy, identical twin guys who both stay in the house all day.
one is a anime fan and the other a bookworm,
Both are attractive to (mainly) nerdy chicks who also stay in the house all day.

You mentioned the objective was to become more ALPHA male.

I have 2 brothers high in Alpha-ness.
Both were never at home growing up,
They were out of the house early and all day, pursuing goals, and being general Guns ourside in the Real World. the Social World , interacting and competing with other people and other men, to win things , to get their ‘Alpha’ status.

does that make sense?

so if you want to become more Alpha - do the opposite - get out of the house are sunrise and start learning ‘street knowledge’.

because ‘Street Smarts’ trump ‘Book Smarts’ 8 days a week mate,

and twice on Sundays. Haha.

 

[Kshatrap A.V.]

Another thing I can think of that will improve masculinity is solidifying beliefs in yourself and what you do.

Because if we are afraid of failing so we never try and face that phase... And where does it lead us to. Inaction, half-arsed interactions/escalation/actions, knowledge hoarding, information overload etc.

And idk if this strong belief can actually just come to one by thinking good thoughts alone. Belief in one self works differently for men than in case of women.

I think when it feels like the belief of "I can do it" comes from a deeper level spiritually in a way that feels divine or destiny..then, it's a different beast.

When you have a belief that no matter what the circumstances are, they won't break you and you will find a way in life. I don't think anything that is as manly as this to anyone witnessing.

 

[Brassfaced_Jim]

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because ‘Street Smarts’ trump ‘Book Smarts’ 8 days a week mate,

I have to post on cos this is a very important point.

there are 2 types of knowledge
- Street Smarts/ Social Smarts
- Book Smarts

broadly speaking , guys who are successful at x thing. After the fact, later In life write a book on it. Trying to reach it via a book.

when they rarely themselves, ever ‘ read a book on it.’ If that makes sense.

like for my own example . I was fairly introverted until my late 20s , but fairly cute so happened to get offers from women and was a serial monogamist mostly in LTRs. I never had a ‘player ‘ phase.

to learn’ pickup.. ‘ I had to go out to bars and clubs every weekend , 2-3 nights per weekend( Thurs-fri-sat say.) and practice experiment and wing w guys who were ‘good’ (some were very* good) and got results. And copy some of their styles.

so I learned way more than I ever could from a book/books.

later , I stopped the nightlife and focused on books and courses. And actually went backwards in ‘skill’.

a lot of being good at pickup or being ‘attractive’ is awareness of environment , awareness of behaviours of women in xyz scena and pattern recognition.

it can’t really be pre-learned from books.
Only cross referenced in hindsight to establish general trueisms found in books.

If that all makes sense.
It does to me.

guys good with women generally are high in street smarts/ social smarts and learned it that way. and learned it early in teen years. By being extrovert and having interactions. And all the bolded statements above re pattern recognition etc,

james

 

[Brassfaced_Jim]

@Water
I’m probably flogging the horse now.. but ..re your objective of ;

“How do make yourself a more attractive and alpha man through actions you can take alone.”

just the basis of this idea , becoming a more ‘Alpha’ man and linking it to alone/solo’..is kinda misunderstanding what an Alpha man is.

an Alpha man has big Social Value.
He is a ‘leader of the pack’ type guy, (..as the old song goes )

so .. in reality the guys featured on this website are your role models , if the goal is to become a more Alpha male,

I like this website , pretty funny cos it’s true.

Basically becoming what other guys may call ..a ‘Douchebag’

these guys are all examples of Alpha Males with high Social Value. Just model them.

good luck !

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Ps looks like the site is no longer active , but there’s a book you can buy on Amazon . I assume it’s full of pictures of them ,to role model

 

[Brassfaced_Jim]

Maybe model Sleepy Jerkenstein and get some face tattoos and wear your hat backwards. You may land a Cindy on your arm.

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[GreatManKos]

Is this broadly what u mean re the Baboons getting laid with very hot chicks?
im assuming it’s the Caveman Alpha type

need some kind of photo examples please if possible. Or movie stars that look like these guys IRL.

No, I just meant pretty bad looking guys in general, ha-ha. Ugly face, bad physique, minority race, sometimes all at once. I still remember from my childhood a man from my apartment complex who's chubby and close to having dwarfism (he's probably below 160 cm), with a tall, beautiful wife and two daughters, from speaking to his daughter he isn't very rich, either. When you're just living your life, meeting new people, etc, and if you observe objectively, you notice the pattern, you notice that it's not always the hottest guy who gets the girl, and when it comes to LTR it's not even the guy with the best game, either.

 

[PaulieFlyn10]

No, I just meant pretty bad looking guys in general, ha-ha. Ugly face, bad physique, minority race, sometimes all at once. I still remember from my childhood a man from my apartment complex who's chubby and close to having dwarfism (he's probably below 160 cm), with a tall, beautiful wife and two daughters, from speaking to his daughter he isn't very rich, either. When you're just living your life, meeting new people, etc, and if you observe objectively, you notice the pattern, you notice that it's not always the hottest guy who gets the girl, and when it comes to LTR it's not even the guy with the best game, either.

Here we go again. Each time a guy says another guy is ugly baboon face etc... it is usually one of two things: the guy is actually ugly. The girl is never actually hot... Seen this happen over a 100 times now

Maybe yours might be an exception... but history has usually proven otherwise

 

[Brassfaced_Jim]

No, I just meant pretty bad looking guys in general, ha-ha. Ugly face, bad physique, minority race, sometimes all at once. I still remember from my childhood a man from my apartment complex who's chubby and close to having dwarfism (he's probably below 160 cm), with a tall, beautiful wife and two daughters, from speaking to his daughter he isn't very rich, either. When you're just living your life, meeting new people, etc, and if you observe objectively, you notice the pattern, you notice that it's not always the hottest guy who gets the girl, and when it comes to LTR it's not even the guy with the best game, either.

Very interesting.
In this case I would think it’s the guys levels of Dominance.
This is like some kind of Dom-Sub relationship dynamic then.

I was told in my early teens “women love a Bastard”.
I have seen this play out in real life , for sure.

some women are very attracted to Dark Triad traits . It’s kinda a pure survival thing .

Dark Triad guys Survive through being very sneaky and cunning. Machiavellian manipulator types .

strange this example guy was not very wealthy. Unless he was relatively wealthy to her , and she being Hot and Poor.

maybe she was an ex stripper or sex worker type. (?)

it is a feasible scenario under those conditions in my mind.

like strippers - strippers can be very hot , but also very damaged . And love party drugs etc.

perhaps this guy was a drug dealer or had access to.

 

[Brassfaced_Jim]

I’ll just post one more .

i had a wingman/mentor here in Aus.
He was a short guy 5’7 / 5’8 ish I’d say
and a Brazilian guy.
He looked like a mini Scotty GLL.
Lots of colourful arm tattoos.


Had a decent face but moreso a “dominant face” . Like a ‘PIMP face’. Similar to RSD Juliens face actually. He had dark circles around his eyes. And generally looked untrustworthy and dodgy.

Definitely a lil BadBoy type character.

this guy was extremely high in Dark Triad traits and was a great manipulator and user.

And got compliance from women like I had never seen before.
He also did some extremely quick and sleazy pulls with women.

we nicknamed him “ The Street F..ighter”
That came from the original nickname “ The Street Fucker”

his Game in practice was very similar to Juliens actually. He was very BOSS, and commanding off the bat w chicks

I must study Juliens game in more detail and see if I can apply it to myself ….

 

[Brassfaced_Jim]

I’ll dihorrea post onward and I’m on a roll and don’t want to forget any points re this lil Brazilian BadBoy . And why I think he got success.

A lot of women are attracted to BadBoys.
Because they know BadBoys will “pull the trigger”.

when women are out in Bars & Clubs and they are particularly horny… (which is why a fair % are there in that environment tbh)
They don’t really want a long drawn out Gamey pickup process.

they are looking for a Dominant guy, with a super strong lead.

who will basically time-compress it all down for them . And just do the most necessary things required to pull them.

they can be quite happy (and relieved ) to be pulled quickly , and get to the sex .

but then they also will want a good throw down in the sack. Like a real Hot Fuck. A Dom-Sub/ porno ONS hot fuck.

So they will do lil tests on a guy if they are unsure. Or just in general ,cos they like the testy Banter.

this whole process is like a “surrender” for a woman. Like a mini-romance novel scenario,

Done this many times myself.
it’s the way the women want it to play out.
So that’s why women actually Test Men and give them Alpha Tests.