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Best response to staying the night? (After sex)

Fluxcapacitor

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Dudes! I slept with this girl last night (met her a few days ago, kept in contact, first time sleeping with her last night) and after she went and cleaned up she came back, jumped into the bed naked (I was starting to put clothes on) looked at me with bambi eyes and asked "what are you thinking?" I assumed she meant about staying or leaving. She might have meant in general haha.

I was caught off guard with this I was thinking if I tell her I'm staying it looks clingy and needy (but I took her actions to imply she wanted me to stay) and if I tell her I'm leaving I set the lover tone but maybe insensitive to her.

I said I was thinking of going and letting her get some sleep. This way I done what I wanted but made it considerate to her.

Have you ever been asked this? What's the best way to answer? Since thinking about it this morning I thought I could have been more playful and teasing with the answer but other than being fun dont know what this would achieve.

Thanks dudes!
 

Fuck This

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At hers? If it is a late night and I've been drinking I'd usually spend the night, and tell her I've got to boogie out in the morning. Besides I like waking up and having sex in the early morning. The morning sex usually is better because you know what gets her hot and you can really lock her in.

If it is not a bed where we had sex, or say the middle of the day, then I'll make sure she gets to where she needs to. Car hookups, Daylight shag sessions, etc.
 

Grand Pooba

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I have no objections to a girl sleeping the night on the first night - especially if you can fuck her multiple times. It dramatically increases the odds you’ll see her again.

if you’re vying for the FB role, then after the second time/day you see her, after she’s already converted into a girl you’re seeing, she should not sleep over at your place. You can still sleep over at hers.
 

Fluxcapacitor

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@Fuck This and @Grand Pooba dudes! we were at her place, in her bed and it was 6.00am (we got back to hers about 3.40 and would have started getting physical about 3.45ish, foreplay then fucking an had no concept of time Haha) I don't know if we'd have had morning sex after that an I never had anymore condoms so bounced.

I would like to convert her to a FB if I see her again. I think the performance in the bed room might have helped. Never been asked what am thinking before!

If I see her again would I be best to flip this an ask her? Or better to be playful and frame it that she wants me to stay?

Thanks dudes!
 
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Grand Pooba

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@Fuck This and @Grand Pooba dudes! we were at her place, in her bed and it was 6.00am (we got back to hers about 3.40 and would have started getting physical about 3.45ish, foreplay then fucking an had no concept of time Haha) I don't know if we'd have had morning sex after that an I never had anymore condoms so bounced.

I would like to convert her to a FB if I see her again. I think the performance in the bed room might have helped. Never been asked what am thinking before!

If I see her again would I be best to flip this an ask her? Or better to be playful and frame it that she wants me to stay?

Thanks dudes!
The safest path is to see her at her place and then leave. Alternatively, if she wants go see you at your place, warn her that you have an extremely early morning the next day and you’ll need a full nights sleep after you see her. She’ll get the message most likely.
 

Dimension

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I don't think there is wrong answer in this particular case .. Whether you say you leave or stay , both are fine . Most likely she wanted more sex .

Oh and i've been in the situation more times that i can count ,when girl is staying over and lot of the times they were off work days , they never want to leave : Need to make up some excuses to get rid of her , because most of the time you don't really feel like you wanna spend extra day/night woth her anyways ..But that's how i am .. Need some lone time after rough night.2 out of 10 times you feel little bit more than just sex and there can also be some feelings involved , but i guess that also depends how wild and great was the sex ?
 

Fluxcapacitor

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I don't think there is wrong answer in this particular case .. Whether you say you leave or stay , both are fine . Most likely she wanted more sex .

Oh and i've been in the situation more times that i can count ,when girl is staying over and lot of the times they were off work days , they never want to leave : Need to make up some excuses to get rid of her , because most of the time you don't really feel like you wanna spend extra day/night woth her anyways ..But that's how i am .. Need some lone time after rough night.2 out of 10 times you feel little bit more than just sex and there can also be some feelings involved , but i guess that also depends how wild and great was the sex ?


Dimension dude! I think your possibly right with there not being a right or wrong answer here. I have a feeling there were some feelings involved with this one for her. The sex was pretty wild and great and she was super submissive and compliant to everything. The look in her eyes at times during and after was pretty amazing to be fair, the thought of it is pretty exciting! Haha

Not been a second time since, I've been well under the weather but I'd like to set this up as an FB
Thanks to @Grand Pooba and @Fuck This for advice on the safest path!
 
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