boyfriend disqualifier woes

[Ree]

Man i got a really sweet ride,and most of my dates push me hard into the boyfriend zone,they resist sex hard,but then text m about how they had a good time and ant to meet up again.
I feel like i just dont have enough data on boyfriend disqualification ,should it be done explicitly or through action,should it be done before the date,at the begining of the date or during lmr?
what is the best boyfried disqualifier?

 

[Fluxcapacitor]

Ree dude! It comes from the frame ya set an the vibe ya give. Everything has to be congruent. Ya can't say ya a lover an act like a provider an ya can't say ya a provider an act like a lover. Ya words an actions will do this.

Then again it doesn't matter how much a lover vibe ya give if they want ya to commit. Ya mentioned a sweet ride, if they see ya car an think oh he's good a need to keep this one ya fucked. They will slow down an try to get ya to be a boyfriend.

It should be set before, continue throughout an then if ya need it for LMR. If ya wait till LMR ya possibly not congruent. If ya don't set it before there's false expectations throughout. Be consistent dude!

 

[Ree]

Ree dude! It comes from the frame ya set an the vibe ya give. Everything has to be congruent. Ya can't say ya a lover an act like a provider an ya can't say ya a provider an act like a lover. Ya words an actions will do this.

Then again it doesn't matter how much a lover vibe ya give if they want ya to commit. Ya mentioned a sweet ride, if they see ya car an think oh he's good a need to keep this one ya fucked. They will slow down an try to get ya to be a boyfriend.

It should be set before, continue throughout an then if ya need it for LMR. If ya wait till LMR ya possibly not congruent. If ya don't set it before there's false expectations throughout. Be consistent dude!

i feel ya,i think i may be a little bit incongruent

 

[NewBeeWinner]

Ree,

Hey bro. I totally get the woes of disqualifying yourself as a boyfriend. As Fluxcapacitor said, a lot goes with your vibe. But you can also say/do things that disqualify you as a boyfriend.

Remember: a lover is a loser with sex appeal

Here's 5 important questions to ask yourself:

1) Do you move fast with women? (are you hooking quick, getting a number/moving her quick, taking her on a date quick, closing on the first date when possible?)
2) Are you sexual with women / accepting of their sexual nature? Are you non-judgmental? Do you communicate this subtly in conversations and with strong eye contact and touch?
3) Do you lead women to the bedroom on the first date and handle their objections along the way?
4) What do you tell women about yourself? Are you in a good job, with an amazing house and hopes to move up the ladder? Or are you a photographer on the side, making your way through only visiting this town for the moment because you love the vibe of the people? (don't lie to a girl, but reframe how you talk about yourself)
5) Are you mysterious and keeping the conversation on her or do you talk about yourself a lot?

You can actively disqualify yourself by saying you're not looking for anything serious / are taken / just got out of a relationship. You'd be surprised how many girls are OK with that - and then you can add in that you'd be open to things growing in the future.

Think through these and do some more reading on GC and you'll find your answers.
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Best,

NBW