I'm recently divorced, back into dating again in my early 40's
Have had little problem meeting women and getting numbers online, in clubs, at the supermarket, outdoor cafe, etc.
Pretty good at building tension on text and getting dates.
Had 5 dates this week with hot women.
NOT going for full closes on dates, more interested in short-medium term girlfriends/lovers.
But I Keep running against the same problem!
1st date goes well. I don't use routines, I have tons of legit life stories to DHV and build rapport and I get on with women very well. Mostly I am good at making them laugh and getting them talking while I listen. I make them comfortable, build rapport and sexual tension, show leadership, good kino and more often than not escalate to substantial goodnight kissing or making out mid-date. I send a short flirty text after the date saying I had a good time, always reciprocated enthusiastically.
Problem is—after these great first dates, quite often the trail goes COLD. No second date, total freeze out.
Example: A few days ago took out this hot architect / belly dancer to a wine bar. She opened up to me a lot. We moved to a second location with a fireplace, comfortable couch and few people. Serious making out and groping on the couch. Her: all doe-eyed and invited me to go see her belly dance a few days later. Friended me on Facebook. Made plans to go salsa dancing next time. Couple hours after the date, sent me enthusiastic text about the date.
After the date...almost total freeze out. Asked her out again 4 or 5 days later, got blown out. Tried to bump back and tease her into accepting, but failed.
What I do not understand: How does a great date turn into total freeze out so fast, without warning?
Maybe I should just go for full close every first date, and not have this problem anymore!
A woman's opinion: My sister says maybe they feel guilty/weird about giving up so much of themselves emotionally and physically on a first date....but she is quite conservative, and most of these girls are NOT.
Any thoughts/experience/advice on this gents?
Have had little problem meeting women and getting numbers online, in clubs, at the supermarket, outdoor cafe, etc.
Pretty good at building tension on text and getting dates.
Had 5 dates this week with hot women.
NOT going for full closes on dates, more interested in short-medium term girlfriends/lovers.
But I Keep running against the same problem!
1st date goes well. I don't use routines, I have tons of legit life stories to DHV and build rapport and I get on with women very well. Mostly I am good at making them laugh and getting them talking while I listen. I make them comfortable, build rapport and sexual tension, show leadership, good kino and more often than not escalate to substantial goodnight kissing or making out mid-date. I send a short flirty text after the date saying I had a good time, always reciprocated enthusiastically.
Problem is—after these great first dates, quite often the trail goes COLD. No second date, total freeze out.
Example: A few days ago took out this hot architect / belly dancer to a wine bar. She opened up to me a lot. We moved to a second location with a fireplace, comfortable couch and few people. Serious making out and groping on the couch. Her: all doe-eyed and invited me to go see her belly dance a few days later. Friended me on Facebook. Made plans to go salsa dancing next time. Couple hours after the date, sent me enthusiastic text about the date.
After the date...almost total freeze out. Asked her out again 4 or 5 days later, got blown out. Tried to bump back and tease her into accepting, but failed.
What I do not understand: How does a great date turn into total freeze out so fast, without warning?
Maybe I should just go for full close every first date, and not have this problem anymore!
A woman's opinion: My sister says maybe they feel guilty/weird about giving up so much of themselves emotionally and physically on a first date....but she is quite conservative, and most of these girls are NOT.
Any thoughts/experience/advice on this gents?