Dealing with a girl's self imposed ASD

[Fluxcapacitor]

Dudes! So this has happened a few times to me in the past few weeks. Looking for thoughts on how to handle it.

Situation in night club: pre opened girl with eye contact, got good response, could see the attraction. Open girl/ group.

Girl is interested and it's going well. I win over her friends and they're cool with me can see that we've hit it off and even encouraging her to get with me. Girl then goes nervous/shy and will then keep with her friends in a self imposed ASD?

They've been given a greenlight an don't take it?

I've turned it around by either they comply to dance with me and let me isolate like that or to just move with me. If they don't comply (yet keep giving AIs or IOIs) I know they want me to overcome the resistance but they don't make it easy.

When this happens I usually just walk off an let it go an meet other girls. Every time a have done this the girl either comes back and re opens or her friends do. If I'm short on options or really like her I'll accept this otherwise I'll make them work a bit harder and I have had success with this.

I can't help but think I shouldn't have to potentially be using jealousy plots to get a girl that's interested in me to get with me after her friends have even encouraged it. Any thoughts?

Really weird behaviour dudes

 

[Chase]

Fluxcapacitor-

This is usually a value issue. Her friends approve, but you're a little tame for her and she's wondering what else she might be able to find that night. You just didn't come across strong enough for her. Happens more in nightclubs because women are so ADD and really hoping/looking for an animated, exciting guy. If your energy levels aren't matched perfectly to the venue they can go "Eh, he's nice, but I'm not feeling excited."

When she sees you talking with other girls, she realizes you were actually pretty okay and maybe she made a mistake passing you up. So she warms up to you more. She might talk to her friends and say "There's that guy, he seemed pretty cool", which is when you get the friends re-approaching you for her and trying to pull you back in.

Sometimes it can be an attainability issue. But usually when you see it, it's just her thinking "Hmm, maybe I can find a guy a little cuter than him if I hold out", then realizing after 30-60 minutes alone or getting approached by drunk unattractive guys that actually you were a pretty good catch, then seeing you talking to other girls scares her into thinking she might lose you (while boosting your attractiveness at the same time, thanks to the preselection).

You're handling it perfectly making them work a little to get you back.

If you want to avoid having it happen, focus on matching your energy level more to the venue and going a bit above. It helps.

Chase

 

[Fluxcapacitor]

Chase dude! Thanks for the response.

Could the value and attainability level be that I'm too high and to unattainable? Or is it exclusive that I'm too attainable and to low value?

Just a few situations I've experienced that have came to mind seem to be that we have a "it's on" moment or a "love at first sight" experience but they seem incredibly shy and nervous. I win the friends over to stop any blocking later on but run into a shy/nervous barrier which seems to be a theme lately. (With and without their friends).

In another thread hue asked if it was shyness or submission and there's a lot of signs of submission. They are generally smitten but slam on the brakes.

I can overcome the shyness barrier with some perseverance or by building compliance. Occasionally I'll break the sexual tension so that I can pick it up later which can help, but if I do this, set up a date (because of bad logistics) the date usually never happens.

I'll definitely focus on matching my energy to the venue and then going a little above. Thanks for the advice!