Doesnt respond to a text

[Korvager]

Hey gents,

Havent been on the boards in the while so maybe this'll be the start of a good trend.

Recently I've hopped on Tinder/Bumble and its been going pretty well for me. However with one new girl recently I came across a minor issue I havent really ever had to deal with. I matched with her on bumble and we had a small exchange before setting up a plan to get food later on in the week, and i grabbed her number. The next day we exchanged a few texts talking about our schedules and she told me hers. I then proceeded to suggest a day that works for the both of us and then after that she never responded. Attraction was high with this girl and she seemed quite eager from the get go, and on top of that I made sure to not waste any time with meaningless text conversations.

Any advice on ways I can go about this?

K

 

[Hue]

K,

This has happened to me before too. Could you write out the text conversation so we can better understand the situation?


Hue

 

[Regal Tiger]

This is a normal part of online dating, you're going to have women drop off of the face of the earth at all stages of the conversation. Like Hue mentioned, with the full conversation you can get much better advice, but here's some average everyday advice:


Wait at least a few days and then re-initiate the conversation. If you have something you've already mentioned in the conversation and can use it (callback humor) then use it. But if you don't have anything, or you just don't think anything that would be all that great, a general purpose text that I've used is just simply this:

Hey *her name* happy *whatever day it is*!
--> Hey *her name* happy late Thanksmas!
--> Hey *her name* happy humpday!
--> Hey *her name* I bet my weekend could beat up your weekend

Anything that's simple and somewhat fun works best. Again, this is general stuff though as we haven't seen your conversation. There might be something else going on.

If she meant to respond but forgot, then she'll reply about how sorry she is that she forgot to respond and she'll continue the conversation. If she just says sorry forgot to respond and doesn't continue the conversation, then next her. Either she's not interested in you/the date or she's just that self-centered, either way move on. If she's that self-centered she may come back around after getting ignored. Same is true if she's not interested. Chances aren't high either way, but it's the best play.


The re-initiating message doesn't have a super high chance of working out just because of the dynamics at play that you have no control over, but if she did mean to respond but legitimately forgot then you should have some smooth sailing the rest of the way, as long as you do everything else right.