Don't shit where you live/work

[Rain]

I'm talking about living in units. Next door had a party last night and had left a note two days before letting me know about it. So I asked them what time it starts. I did not ask if I could come.

So two questions:
1. Since a note was left, but no invite on the note, it was probably best that I did not ask to come?
2. Is asking someone out who lives in a next door unit, is that generally a nono? I do have an excuse to go over there ie how did the party go, can I move my car back now, and I could then ask out, or even steer the conversation towards finding out if they are single, or drop a hint somehow, but yeah is dropping a hint or showing any interest way too risky/awkward in a next door unit situation?

 

[Hector Papi Castillo]

Be careful, but do it. I hooked up with a chick in my building who had a bf and it was lots of fun. I was quite aggressive with her too. Also madeout with a different chick in my apt building.

Currently dating a girl from my new apartment building.

Fuck it man. Life is short.

People who say don't shit where you eat don't have much fun, if I'd have to guess. Too preoccupied with propriety.

Hector

 

[Rain]

Just to clarify, it's only two units total. ie it's not a big apartment complex. It's also a good place to live, quiet, good neighbours, deifinitely cheap rent. Its also not just her living there, its her and her sister and her sisters partner.
If those things don't change your response, how would I go about doing it carefully? I'd have to try and ask for her sister specifically I guess.

Me: Hey, how was the party?
Her: bla bla
Me: Oh true. I thought about heading out last night but fell asleep. I heard a couple of people but it wasn't too bad lol. Were there a lot of single people there?
Her: bla bla
Me: I'm not a big drinker so that makes it hard to meet someone. What about you, do you have a partner?
Her: Assuming she says no
Me: Would you like to have go out and have a game of pool
Her: If she says flat no, then I can then try and smooth it over by asking
Me: Before I forget, are any of your guys taps/shower leaking?
Her: Yes/no
Me: Rigthio. My shower has been dripping for a week now so I'll call the real estate tomorrow. Have a good one

Of course, If those new details I mentioned above, ie the fact its only two units makes it too risky I'd happy avoid. I'm also a little bit awkward but I'm working on that. I do have approach anxiety but in the last year I have gotten over it a little bit eg approaching in shops/pubs. This isnt approach anxiety this is more a case of I like living here without awkward.

 

[Drck]

Don't shit where you eat mostly applies to something that is important to you, which could be for example great $$$ job that you might have and that you don't want to lose. Messing it up and facing the possibility that you might lose it just because of some pussy doesn't worth it. Apartment? You can easily move to another place should some troubles happen...

 

[Rain]

Well, turns out they have to move out. So as they were loading up the vehicle I took some rubbish out and on way back said hello by chance perfect timeing haha. Otherwise may have just gone knocked on door because, well I'd rather get it over with instead of waiting around in case they left.

2set
me: Hows going
them: how going
me: Just wondering what date are yous moving out by?
them: Have to be out by xyz
me: ah ok i think I saw it available on abc
me: so I may have the place to myself for a few days
them: ok?
me: do you dye your hair?
her: smiled yeah I do or used to
me: looks good
her: thankyou
me: would you like to grab a drink sometime?
her : *points to her housemate* I'm with her. [Her housemate has really male type haircut, a girls name, and they go everywhere together so I did have a feeling they might be together]
me: oh ok
her: sorry
me: so was just wondering, will there be any cats left?
her: just the orange one. we are taking the grey one and the other couple is taking the black one
me: oh yeah they were looking for the cats a few weeks ago *points to the street*
me: so the ones with collars on?
her: can't remember what she said
me: ok I dont mind them but I don't want to run them over so
her: *silence* [dont think she said anything hard to remember sometimes]
me: ok I'll leave yous to it!
them: see ya

Maybe should have asked out 6x months ago before her partner moved in or possibly before she had even met her partner who knows. Who knows if I was her type. Or if she even goes for guys. Still unsure if I would ask out a new neighbor because of risks. Its only 2units total.

On the other hand ,well done to me, would have been to chicken to do this 2years ago or more, so at least I risked rejection at some point.