Ergon's Journal III

Ergon

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Part 1: https://boards.girlschase.com/viewtopic.php?f=15&t=13282
Part 2: https://boards.girlschase.com/viewtopic.php?f=15&t=15621

Many thing changed last year. I feel I grew up so much and had so many crazy experiences. In regards to meeting girls, many issues become less so, and certain ones came up more frequently.

I'm starting a new journal because I feel I hit a new level, and I went from a total newbie to a pure beginner.

Mid 2015 was my breaking point. it was the year I stumbled upon readings that changed my worldview and made me take matters into my own hands. (mainly Rumi, Nietzsche and other non-fiction books), I got involved in some hobbies, met a girl though that, got her number, and asked her on a date, which led me to the discovery of Girls Chase.

The paradigm shift process snowballed since then. 2016 was when I started my first journal and the newbie assignment. The theme throughout the year was doing my first cold approach and then some, then my first few dates, then gaining confidence in myself and finally improving my image along my fundamentals.

In 2017 I lost my v-card. I kept doing day game. I tried to figure out how to incorporate it into my day to day life, how important is to be consistent and finally how to keep AA at bay.

This takes me the current year: I have a few dates and LR's under my belt, over 100 cold approaches and the chances I talk with a girl each time I go out is high. However, lately I haven't been able to get a solid number nor get a girl go on a date with me. I've been on a dry spell for a few months and I've done poorly in all social situations (I've felt near the bottom in every group of people lately).

These are all issues I plan to solve this year, and you can be my witnesses. So to finish this intro, here’s a list of the goals for this year:

My goals this year:

1. Get a FB.
2. 8 lays (twice the number of 2017)
3. 3+ insta-dates.
4. 2 more same day/night lays
5. Beat porn/masturbation addiction (30 days streak)

Others:
Kick ass at job and social life
Build incredible pecs and abs
Hit a milestone in one of my careers (computers, math or music production)
Make game and seduction an even more integrated part of my lifestyle
 

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Inspiring note, Ergon! Your story certainly reminds me of my own. Regarding the fifth goal, though, I don't think it is a good year goal, since giving yourself the whole year to complete might make you procrastinate doing it. Just stop cold turkey today. Trust me, you can do it, and it'll be worth it.
 

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Alcman said:
Regarding the fifth goal, though, I don't think it is a good year goal, since giving yourself the whole year to complete might make you procrastinate doing it. Just stop cold turkey today. Trust me, you can do it, and it'll be worth it.

I am starting today. It's been difficult. I broke a 20 day streak last weekend. :( But I'll reset and take it day by day again
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FR: Girl on the fence about me:

One girl I met at the train stop was on the fence about me. The issue most likely was I hesitated when she asked me what was I up to. And then when she asked me where I was going. I didn't had any plans cause it was a holiday (Dec 31) and all I was doing was take a ride on the transit to hopefully talk to some girl (I had to make up some answers that were not very convincing)

Anyway, I invited her to grab a chocolate with me, she declined, but I suggested we grab it later next week. She said ok and gave me her number. She replied my icebreaker, I asked her out, she took a lot to reply (one whole day) and was also a bit aloof.

Then I did something silly and risky: suggested we meet around the area I live.

Her: can we meet near downtown the place you say is very far my home
Me: sure that work
[the day agreed] Her: Hi it was nice to talk with you the other day in the metro but I'm not very interested so we should cancel for tomorrow
Me: Got ya

The reason why this was a bad move is because I already had an idea how far she lived (we met on the line that took her home and talked about it), then I was trying to get too much compliance by getting her to meet me in my area, knowing quite well she was a bit skeptical from our face to face interaction….

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The past day's I've been going out to day game have been fruitful in that I've made a ton of approaches. However the problem is the same: I get no numbers, they either make an excuse like they've been seeing someone, or just flat out refuse.

Also I have not written down any of my interactions. Each time I've had time to write them down I've thought to myself "why don't I go out today again to daygame?". Thus I've gotten a bunch of reference points but I don’t get the lessons from them and I end up forgetting them

Another thought I've had is that I need to go back to the very basics. All my clothes look very worn out now, my eye contact has been terrible, girl don't seem to light up when I walk up to them lately. That's why I'm dedicating next week to find new clothes and practice eye contact one day, posture another and walk another (just like in the newbie assignment).

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Since this session was last week I forgot a lot of details. But here's a brief summary of it.

1. We were both waiting the same stop. I wasn't warmed up so she didn't even hook. Went to high school, and not that pretty up close anyway.

2. She was waiting for a train. She wasn't interested because tried to put her headphones on. I just kept talking, unfiltered. She seemed older, probably thought I was too young for her by the way she responded. Said goodbye when her train arrived.

3. Waiting for the train. She gave me ioi. She tried to act aloof throughout, but I could sense it was forced. Because I wasn't that attracted I was chill and focused on my conversation. It flowed easily. Talked about her interest in medicine and Doctor's shows. I could've invited her to join me for coffee but I didn't. I guess I didn't feel that attracted.

4. Half Lebanese girl. Super gorgeous with a grungy style. It was in the university cafeteria. I saw her and after 5 minutes when I finished my lunch asked her if she always ate by her lonesome. She said yes. She made up some excuse about her being sick and not wanting to to eat with anyone else. I asked some question about why she probably got sick while I also sat in front of her. Good persistence and having a devil-may-care attitude.

My voice probably didn't match my attitude. I spoke to hesitantly and paused to much for words (I practiced a lot reading out loud and doing some drills the following days though).

She was a bit too dogmatic I soon found out. I feel that girls that are not very interested don't care talking about politics and their philosophies with you. This was probably the case. There were many things I could've challenged. Like when she said she farmed weed in California for a while, and when she said certain venue wasn't her style ("No you didn't" and "What kind of style is that?") I asked for her number and she declined. We obviously didn't click but good reference point.

5. Girl studying her masters, probably over 30. I felt there was an unbalance the whole interaction. Me being undergrad and younger than her. She asked me if I was boarding the same train at the end. I said no and let her go. I could've said yes but I think I auto rejected. I think it was mostly in my mind, and it would've been good conversation practice anyway.

6. Super talkative girl. I open with a compliment. She said thanks and I elaborated on it. Don't know if it was good we spent too much on the compliment topic. She was super talkative. (Although looking back, she didn't ask much about me). At some point I tried to make a slightly suggestive comment but didn't come out right because I was low energy (tired). She probably heard but ignored it.

She was quirky and kind of nerdy in a very cute way. She made a comment at some point about contact lenses that sounded a bit disrespectful to me but I handled too weakly: "You should stop watching so many horror movies, they're making you have silly ideas".

Friendly and everything, she declined to exchange numbers and grab a drink. Should've invited her for a tea right then. Should've challenged the "I'm seeing someone" too:
"how serious is it?"

7. Girl waiting for the bus. Ok from far, but super cute closer up. One mistake was looking down when she complimented me back (It was involuntary). Then I didn't take the same bus as her, cause I thought it didn't take me home, but I later found out it did >:[
 

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Sometimes I'm really inept. There's this girl at work (who's crazy but really hot) and tried to speak to me in Spanish saying something really sexual, and me, instead of encouraging her to explain me the whole sentence (cause I didn't really understood her spanish haha) corrected her on some grammatical error. Stupid. I was drunk also of course, but no excuse
This reminds me I have to review some of the articles about screening, qualifying and rewarding.

After working during the super bowl I got super drunk and went to a heavy metal concert at one of my favorite bars. Approached a lot of girls, but nothing great. I migh've creeped out one because I tried to be very physical but me being drunk might've been sloppy...

At the end of the night I approached girls still at the bar, which were not the most pretty ones. I had some momentum going so their reception was good. Unfortunately I didn't make invitations (and I should've). One guy with two girls shared a joint with me. I went for the kiss with of the girls but got turned down. Went home feeling sick. Then I really got sick with fever the next day.

This week trying to recover from the flu and making notes of articles I need to review. Also I'm studying my old journals and old notes to catch what I'm not doing that I used to do; I remember I had some great interactions with women one and a half years ago, but recent ones have been just meh. Might have something to do with feeling less anxious about social interaction thus putting less effort into them?

Thinking about how to approach this girl at salsa too, who introduced herself to me and another guy last week. We couldn't keep talking because her class ended and ours was starting. Also thinking about how to ask out this girl at the churro store next to where I work. She was really friendly and tried to speak Spanish, yet I didn't know how to make a move her being at work.
 

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Tuesday

I've been trying to go out and meet with new friends and groups because friendships and social circle is something I'd neglected for a while. So I met with a friend, his roommate and his neighbor at a popular bar, but later we moved to their local bar.

• I started high energy but became low energy and more quiet as the night progressed. I guess because I didn't eat well and didn't rest well the night before.
• I was super hungry and I mentioned it to my friend's roommate and she took me to buy tacos at a bar nearby. I was very wishy washy/indecisive which didn't make me look good or attractive. She led me, which I also think, is weak. At this taco joint she ran into a guy she had hook up (I imagine) they began to talk and I was there just third wheeling.
• Back to the bar my friend had picked up his girlfriend and his girlfriend's friend. I introduced myself in a sloppy way due to being a bit tipsy. I was carrying a to-go box with the food I ordered at the other bar, and for some reason it made me look dorky. ( I looked out of place?)
• Roommate girl and the guy she ran into had now their own bubble (she invited him with us), and I think that made it look as if she had rejected me, even though I wasn't interested in her at any point. Negative preselection. Meanwhile this new guy had positive social proof, and roomate's and girlfriend's friend were both competing for this guys. It was bizarre to see. Roomate's girl eventually won, although I don't know how. Girlfriend's friend made this guy gave her a ride, but he came back pretty soon haha. Girlfriend's friend was cuter though, so it puzzled me.
• Anyway, at some point during the night we got kicked out of the bar because my friend, roomie and I were caught in the restroom doing certain substances. First time I ever done it, and my advice is it's not worth it.
• We went to chill at a guys basement but went to get some beers first. I tried to pay for the pack of beers because I felt a bit guilty we were kicked out. My card was rejected because I ran out of money. With funds or not I think it felt weird. Maybe seemed like I was trying too hard to win their approval. And I also had bough nachos to share with the group earlier in the night.
•Went back home around 2am thinking I make too many mistakes each time I hang out with groups.
 

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Realized that inviting a friend or an acquaintance out for beers is not hard, but finding a good wing man/sociable friend has been kind of. Will try to talk to more dudes and be more selective with who I go out.

After getting this new job I focused little on cold approach and more invested in developing language and quick thinking skills. Since I started working as a busser, sometimes server, I realized my communication and comprehension was not as good as I thought. Like for example I didn't know how to handle customers complaints at first and had a lot of awkward situations. Then there's this female bartender who could never understand me and neither I to her and we had a lot of conflict. Both situations have improved as I've done some drills like talk streaming, reading books with very colloquial language and listening to history/philosophy podcast (that really make me pay attention to each word).

Feel I'm the less attractive guy at work too. I've always known that I'm not good at handling groups and social circles, but I meditated about my issues last week and suddenly found one problem I very frequently have. I might start well, being serious and mysterious. Putting some effort into not messing up my reputation or acting and saying something too dumb, but then after I get a bit too comfortable I slip. I put much less effort and I get bored and I start acting weird, having awful fundamentals, getting too drunk or just revealing too much about myself. This is something that I'll think more about. How to not slip and how to take care of my reputation at all times and not simply turning it off when I get bored/ tired in a place.

In another note, I bought One Note and TDA like a few guys here and I'm really excited. I been doing the first assignments and besides tweaks in my fundamentals, I did one approach today and tested out new Chase's SAC model. Had a few epiphanies already, and I'm going slow with the course, but I suspect if I keep it up I might break the dry spell! Looking forward for the coming weeks. Will keep you posted
 

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Feels good to be back. A lot of things have happened in the past few months but just couldn't get around writing anything. I'm reaching a new level of consistency with girls but not quite there yet. Can't really turn them FR into LRs. So journaling and troubleshooting it is.

Today I went out again after a two weeks break. Only asked for the time to a lady and then saw a very beautiful girl with very well done purple hair.

-Hey I saw you here and wanted to tell you, you have the most amazing hair I've seen all day…
-Thank you [with a really warm smile] I did it myself..
-You did it yourself?
-Yeah [Train is arriving]
-You're like a hairdresser or something?
-[Still looking at me giggles] That's my train
-Ok, have a nice day
-[She processed it for a second] Have a nice day too!

So the interaction was warm but could do a few tweaks:

-…I did it myself
-Good job. You got my attention… My name is Ergon
-bla bla
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-That's my train
-Skip it.
 

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I went out to do some day game yesterday afternoon feeling very unmotivated. My goal was only 3 approaches.

At the bus stop I asked for the time to a pretty girl.

Then I arrived to this beautiful park to take some pictures. There were two opportunities to go talk to a girl sitting by herself that I let pass

I still wanted to complete the goal, so I moved to a busy avenue. I walked into a bookstore, and lo and behold, I ran into a fellow pua from the local pua group. Let's call him Beewolf. I sent a selfie of us two to the group chat and 2 other fellows decided to come join us later.

Since I actually hadn't met the Beewolf in person before, I was telling him I like to be pushed to go approach. He pointed me two or three girls , but I was being a cry-baby and didn't actually go.
I did compliment a lady on her shoes matching her shirt though, that made me gain some momentum.

Then one of the two guys who were coming arrived. Let's call him Turbojet. He met us while we were resting and having a drink

Turbojet doesn't hesitate when seeing a girl he likes. He stood up and entered a store to meet one, which made my competitive side stir a little.
I saw a cute, exotic-looking girl so I stood up and ran after her to open direct.

I asked her what she was up to. She said some shopping. I asked her about a rag she was carrying, turned out to be a kind of chemisette. I teased her about it looking like a rag and then whether she could wear it in summer since the fabric was thick. I didn't smile and my voice sounded barely playful so she might've taken the teases seriously.

Anyway, we talked about what she did. She has her own clothing store. I asked what she had planned for later, which indicates how not in the moment I was cause she had already told me she was doing some shopping. We talked about where she had traveled. Then I mentioned that I had to get back to my friends but we should exchange numbers and meet later. She told me she had a boyfriend plus something I didn't hear. She wasn't convinced about giving me her number, and I forgot her name, so I ended up just getting her instagram. She then mentioned that we wouldn't meet cause she has a boyfriend. I'm actually trying to grow my instagram profile so it wasn't that bad.

Another girl, very hot and with good style walked by and I stood up again and ran after her, but she said thanks, continued walking and told me she had to rush off

Lesson Need to review what to say when girl says she's rushing somewhere. I saw somewhere a few strategies to handle this.

At another point I run up to a girl dressing a bit extravagantly but good looking, I told her she looked cute. The introduction was a bit bland. I asked how her day was going and she responded but told me she had to meet with her friend. I reponded ok and asked her something else.
I wasn't feeling sharp and that showed. She asked me how old I was. I asked her how old I looked. She then said because she was 18 but had a fake ID. I didn't know what to say so I mumbled something incoherent. She said yeah and walked away.

Lesson
The guys I was with told me I should've said:
-I'm 18 bla bla
-Oh, so you're legal!

In retrospect the girl didn't even look 18.

When the fourth guy arrived, PluckyTiger, we were inside a grocery store. I had never done an approach at a grocery store before so I asked them to teach me. I also needed some encouragement. Turbojet went and did one, then he pointed me to a girl and I ignored the girl he told me to go approach an incredibly sexy milf.

-[Grabbing a pomegranade] Excuse me, do you know any recepy that goes with this and tomato juice?
-Pomegranate?
-Yeah.
-Mmm, no I don't think I do
-Well, actually I'm not that hopeless. I just wanted to tell you you have an incredible look about you

She then made acted in between nervous and not knowing what to do. Since I was feeling quite happy for being my first I didn't pushed it and just wished her a nice day. At the end she said "Pomegrante and tomato juice? I'd never that one before… Meaning she probably thought it was only a pick up line lol.

After being in this grocery store for a while we went to another one. On the way there a girl with a guitar case caught my eye. I approched. It was ok although I still felt a bit stiff. At some point I was gonna grab a flower she had on her ear, she stepped back but I think she still felt excited about the boldness of the act. Then after she told me how a man had never approached her in public and asked for her number before, and me saying there's a first time for everything, told me "What if you're a nice guy"[while also almost putting her phone number in] to which I started rambling and not saying anything coherent.

Her: That doesn't sound like a very convincing argument. Bye [Leaving]

Later my pals told me, you should've just said "No, I'm not nice". I agreed.

Lesson Should make a list of common questions/shit tests. I did one last year. Need to find it and expand it.

At the entrance of the second store I complimented another 30-40-ish stunning lady on her sundress. I don't know really know what's up with my attraction for girls older than me. She said that it was really sweet what I said. I ejected again.

Lesson I should stick a bit longer with girls I really find attractive even if I feel intimidated.

At the end of the afternoon we checked another organic food store. I approached a girl direct which I felt was definitely too much for the environment. She said thanks but didn't smile. I just ejected. We all were feeling tired so we all went home.
 

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Last weekend I went with my pick-up pals to a street fair. We gamed for a good amount, I had a lot of fun pumping my state and everything. Learned a good technique called "gaming the wall" which consist of talking to the wall or whatever surface is nearby as if you were gaming it, and you don't filter yourself or pause or anything, for at least one minute.

During the whole day I never really got myself to approach girls with enthusiasm. I only talked with girl who were in groups that my pals opened. For some reason I've never known how to handle groups. I suppose being able to elevate my energy and inject more fun would be really helpful, but I don't know much more. Anyway..

Today, I had done most of what I needed to do for the day so I decided to hit downtown and game for 2 hours.

I announced to some pua pals that I was going to do 5 approaches and without ejecting early, as I did last weekend. I ended doing 10:

1.
Girl had a nice tan and an exotic look. Delivery was pretty good. Opened direct but forgot to say my name. Asked how her day was going and she told me she actually had to meet with some friends. I let her go.

Lesson: Inpired by this video. "Well, we should exchange numbers and meet when you're not in a rush"

2.
A girl wearing an incredible dress and a Persian look. I delivered the compliment pretty well. "I just saw you standing here and I wanted to tell you you look incredible today. I Love the dress".
Then asked what she was up to. She said she was meeting her husband. I said oh that's nice.

Lesson: I should've been more fun: Oh so you are having a date! That's a good reason to look great. Celebrating your anniversary? Well, I hope you have a wonderful time.

3.
From up close not my type, even though she did have a good style and cute eyes. I complimented her and introduced myself. I said she looked like she came from work. I asked what she worked at. I asked her to describe me a normal day at work (Just tried this today and it's great for making small talk). Then she told me where she was going and I think I could've dive deeper on this topic. I asked her about where she was from and I couldn't inject much fun. She said goodbye. She also said "yeah man" at some point, definetely a sign that she felt higher status than me throughout the interaction lol.

Lesson: Should've injected more fun into the conversation. Dive deeper into the event she was going to. And generated more tension through eye contact and other less smile. Set myself as not lower status

4.
Girl waiting for the bus. Responded pretty well to my compliment. We talked about her going camping and her working At a public relationships company.

Lesson: I should've made some fun assumptions about her camping and her job. Are you adventurous. Camping = adventurous. "PR? Sounds like lots of mischief without having to look bad in public"

5.
Saw a girl walking opposite of me. I opened slightly tapping her elbow cause she had headphones. "Hey I just saw you walking by and I thought you had the most elegant walk I've seen all day. You look pretty relaxed, do you come from the gym?" " Yes bla bla from X gym" " It shows, you seem like you're floating. So how do you like X gym". She asked me about where I was from and what I thought about the city. I asked her similar questions. We also had a very good conversation about parks, a shared interest. (her studying landscape architecture). The only not so good thing is that I was too factual. At the end her bus was coming. I said well we should take a walk at the park sometime. She said no.

Lessons: I have to be less logical. When talking about LA being very impersonal: "You like to feel connected with people". Parks: "How do you feel when you are at x park". Also should've gone for the number when talking about our favorites, instead of moving to park designers.

6.
Opened direct. We actually walked in the same direction. There was a point in which we were talking about being anonymous in big cities, Should've said "And that lets you misbehave a little without being judged or citizen". Other than that it was hard to relate.

Lessons: I could've flirted more when she said she attended social events to write about them. "Lots of great cocktails… and interesting men ;-) "

7.
Opened ok. She said she was rushing to her date. I asked tinder date? She said it was from outside.

Lesson: Should've said "Sounds intriguing" "Have a good time".

The other girls were waiting for their boyfriend or walked away after I opened.
 

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2018 In the mirror and the future.

2018 Goals review
1. Didn't expected it but got my first FB ever. It lasted about a month and a half, but it still taught so much.
2. Not even close. Got only 2 Lays this year but not for lack of trying. Definitely indicative of a few things. For the majority of this year I didn't have a clear mission or career I was excited about and that affected my mindset. Another thing was porn. And yet another is I have to be even more disciplined and systematic with seduction. Only in the past month I began making notes of each of my outings again and I don't actively study new material or work on my communication skills.
3. Accomplished 3 insta-dates. Could've have more but didn't take the opportunities.
4. Only one same night lay.
5. This is another big issue with me. Although I had my longest nofap streak so far (29 days), I had even longer streaks of too much porn. This one is very important to address since I only this year a realized what a difference nofap makes on my productivity, assertiveness, drive and motivation to socialize.
6. Definitely learned a lot working different jobs and I found a solid group of friends/wingmans in my city via the internet. Also, through just being social, found a mentor that helped me, little by little, unify my disparate interests into one unified mission and who also teaches me a lot about what motivates me, how people from my country think and how people in the US think too, in addition to practical skills like mural painting and other fascinating stuff. Moreover I kept strengthening my relationship with my friends in my old city. So I'd say that overall, I did and 7 out of 10 job in this goal.
7. Still can improve a lot with my physique (I'm 5'8 and 146lbs), but people have started complimenting me on my toned muscles.
8. Definitely hit a milestone in my career.
9. I still have trouble approaching when I don't go out exclusively for that, so I guess I not.

Top accomplishment
1. Had my first FB
2. Went on dates (separately) with three incredibly gorgeous girls and with the most interesting lives.
3. Found a solid group of friend in my city
4. Found a vision to strive for in my career and life in general
5. Got rid of social media and got much more productive and creative because of it.

Goals for 2019
1. 5 lays (1 more than my best year)
2. 1-2 new FB or open relationships
3. Expand to libraries, coffee shops and stores. (At least 1 date from each)
4. Meet 3 new girls each week (to make it a part of my lifestyle).
5. Complete 20 creative projects (each project involves a definite product)
6. Continue my bachelors
7. Make another source of income (either through digital marketing, business idea or creative projects). Become financially independent.
8. Beat porn and fapping. Have a 90+ days streak

Top lessons
Knowledge is power and each new skill is her tool.
Art can reflect, motivate, move, persuade and help to understand.
Exercise, productivity and creation are the antithesis of depression, ennui and existential angst.
Everyone has a complex inner world and life is much more interesting trying to understand their form
There's some really amazing women out there.

Best wishes for everyone's 2019.
 

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Sept 29.
My goal is to journal 30 minutes everyday for the following days.

Things I've done this month to improve in seduction and socially in general:
-Read an erotic romance novel (Beautiful bastard) Took some notes. Currentlly reading fifty shades and making notes as well
-Chatted with random strangers online, mostly women. It's anonymous. Took me a while
but kinda got a system to sext and flirt heavily with women (At least most of them I think haha)
unfortunately it's a bit time consuming.
-Have been collecting and organizing lines, quotes, questions, etc in digital notebook in an information gatering program (OneNote or CherryTree)
-Been listening to a lot podcasts to relax and better use my time.
-studied Todd videos (ex rsd), don't care much about his theory but his flirting lines and ideas are golden.

Yesterday, at the price of not getting much work done decided to hit downtown and do some approaches.

First girl was sitting, eating at the main square. I asked “you mind if I take a seat?”as I plopped down, and then told her she looked cute, which sounds weak but has work well for me with girls sitting. She blushed. I asked her how her day was going. Then moved to the topic of where she was from and I think I stayed too long on that topic.
Then I was super awkward when I told her I didn't know there was healthy food around the area, because she asked me how I didn't know if I had lived for several years here
Not very exciting talk off the bat. She was just visiting some friend. She excused herself and left.

Other things I could've talked about:
-"Besides eating, sleeping and drinking, what else do you like to do that you really enjoy?"
-You missing dessert no? What's your favorite candy or dessert?
-You seem like someone who enjoys the little things in life. (Eating good with a great view)

-My eye contact wasn't good. It has to be longer and through the corner of my eyes. I don't look much into a girls eyes and comes off as too aloof.
 

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Sep 30 Monday
I seem to be moving forward. The class I'm taking is interesting and applicable for what I plan for my career later.
I might have the opportunity to build a project for a small business and that would be a huge step toward gaining some experience
freelancing.
I've been also assisting and even working at small events, with people who are much savyy socialy and business wise than me, so that has opened my
eyes to what I can do with the right skills and what my flaws are as well.
As I said, I been collecting flirty lines, gambits and such, like:

You look like trouble (opener?)
I'm sorry, that was the most devious look I have ever seen in my entire life (opener/banter)
I wouldn't forgive myself if I didn't come and say hello (opener)
You're such a kitty cat
So what's you're story, you're this feisty little thing, I kinda enjoy you, but I also kinda think that you might be terrible

Today, while having an unusually productive day, was able to throw in 3 approaches;
Well, first I was able to make some small talk with a teacher, which sounds ridiculous, but was good considering I need practice with small talk.
How was your weekend?
Pretty good, pretty eventful, but also didn't forget to review the material. How about yours?

There's a very hot girl that sits next to me. I caught her staring at me once after a joke was said in class. I was spacing out but
shoul've made a silly face or confused eyes because of the joke.

Later I approached a girl sitting who looked bored. I opened from too far and weakly
“You look bored”
-Not really
-You study art in this building
-No science.
[akward silence]
-well, I like the coat btw [ok, akward]
I think I should've grabbed a seat next to her. Say hi, and then ask her why she looked so amused {is sarcasm good here?].


Next girl was sitting outside working on something
-Hi
-HI [big smile on her face]
-I'm Ergon
-Im ESS
-is it short for xyz?
-No I don't think so.
Oh sounds very similar to the gem in spanish.
bla bla bla

So, what classes are you taking?
-photography, football, bio.
-football is nice, I've been never good at it, but I really liked playing it.
-yea, [something]

What are you up to?
-i have class in like 10 mins
-oh, I have to meet with a classmate to do some work, but we should exchange numbers and meet up later
-sure [she types in her number]
-ok, i'll send you something [i send her “hey this Ergon”]. Awesome, well I gotta get some work done, have a good day.
-yea you too.

(I feel like the goodbye was kinda rough, not very smooth. perhaps because my tonality was a bit off and i was having trouble getting the right words out.
Asking her what was her favorite drink could've been good as well. Then I would've been like, cool, we'll have [favorite drink] later. Ciao.

Third girl was at the tutoring center. She looked incredible and went and asked her if she was taking the class I was in {she obviously was not] but said not but asked me what class
was it. She was doing homework for a lower class and told me I could help her. She went over the problem but ended finding the mistake herself.
Then when she asked me how was my class I went on an incoherent ramble about how I should've taken it first before a bunch of other apparently easy but connected classes.
i don't even remember what I said, but I should've been briefer
“It's actually not bad, and quite helpful for what I want to do later, what classes you taking?"
-bla bla bla, actually going for forestry.
-oh that so? What made you interested in that instead of enviromental science or botany?
 

Ergon

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Wednesday June 24 2020

• Took a quick walk approached 2 girls
• First one sitting on the grass. Not very interested. She was giving me very short answers.
• I tried to open up with talk about being my favorite park but came across as weak haha.

• Second girl I saw sewing (or knitting?) on her yard. I walked past by, but I think I saw her smiling at me so after thinking it for 5 second I came back and just opened direct. "Hey I saw you and I was curious about what you were doing" Then I sat down in the grass near her.
• I then asked what she was up to. I tend to follow up with this question a lot. I wonder if I can think of some more good transitions.
• We talked about how she was escaping the heat inside her house. How I was also trying to escape the heat, taking a walk and how my fan was much smaller than hers.
• Could've asked for more investment. "What are you listening?, can I listen?" because she was wearing earpods. Also when she was showing me her embroidery could've got closer, touch the fabric. Maybe I could have sat next to her instead of in front of her?
• Closed with I gotta keep going but I'd like to take a walk with you sometime if you're down.
Sent her my name in a text immediately after she gave me her number
 

Ergon

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Today I went to the park and then to one of the more active streets to game a little


I'm not at my best because I broke a long nofap streak and kept relapsing for weeks. Beside that I'm adjusting my schedule to wake up earlier, plus worked out pretty hard. I was low energy.


  • The first girl looked at me as soon as I arrived to the park. I run up to her and pivoted in front of her to compliment her on her glasses
    "Hey, I think you're one of those people that looks good with glasses. And I wanted to say hi"
    She was like 'sorry, Im just here for a walk'.
  • Second girl told me she had a boyfriend plus I could've open when she was almost facing me and that would've been more confident
  • Third girl told me she had a boyfriend. I joked "you're not looking for another anymore?"
    She responded that she used to be non-monogamous but was sticking to just one guy now. I think I could have explored this topic much more but didn't know how. Instead I was like "Curious, what's you're favorite park?" She told me and I told her but that didn't go anywhere.
  • Four girl was kinda receptive but I complimented her hair and then I got nervous and complimented her jacket lol. She got a bit off put because it sounded like double compliment.
  • Then i went to the business avenue. There were groups of hot girls but didn't felt like I could open any of those group. Then I saw this girl. She was making as if about to enter a vintage store but hesitated and that's when I open making a comment about her fashion. Things went well because we talked about art and hobbies, and even a city that I know pretty well. Then her friend arrived almost as I was about to grab her number. I introduced myself to the friend. She asked how we had met, and the girl I approached told her I complimented her style. I feel I could've joked how we met in kinder garden and shower together or something lol. I was too low energy so I wasn't thinking fast. We discussed her style to because she looked new york. Then discussed what state she was truly from.I got very factual at some point but I still managed to be charming enough I think. The friend was like very polite and say ok we gonna go in shop. And I was like cool. Then I turned to my girl and say 'hey we should stay in touch. Then I got her number. A few hours later, Idk what I was thinking but I accidentally called her. Then I messaged her on whatsap
    I like that you have a sense of humor miss trift lady (this is the nickname she gave herself in my contact)
    i butt dialed you lol
    I think the accidental call was a mistake and then the way I texted her was another lol.
    How I should have texted: "I love how your friend was trying to build you up"
    This because the friend was saying how she was very good with Spanish

Sticking points
: Texting. I don't know how to handle my texting. I have had so many girls respond to my icebreaker but then don't to my second text. The GC template for texting doesn't work for me anymore neither. It might be because my text got too rigid and haven't learned how to adapt to specific interactions. For the next two months it will be my focus
 

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Today I talked with a cute reporter. We talked about her sense of style. Then I asked what she was up to. She seemed like a pretty awesome girl and I just paid attention and asked questions about what she liked, where she grew up. She had a nice vibe and so eventually i told her I she needed to meet with a friend but that we should grab a drink sometime and exchange contacts. She did and that was it.

Second girl was kinda rowdy. A musician who didn't give me a ton of compliance. I think she didnt understand everything I told her, but we still related on some things, like on her being a musician and me having a lot of musician in my family.

Third girl I complimented her style. I asked what she was up to and she said she was on her way to something but that she should give me her number. I made a mistake and played it cool (wasn't really thinking though). Yeah, i think we could make some space to grab a drink. Anyway, I asked her if she lived around the area and then got her number.

Fourth girl was dressing super sexy and was super responsive to compliments. I tried not to overdo it tho. The conversation reached a lull eventually and she asked me if I wanted her number. I got it and we parted.

Afterwards I did about 3 or 4 more approaches but they didn't go anywhere. Two of them were eastern European and I thought I got a bit too excited about it and it showed lol (I've had a few crushed with Russian and Ukranian girls lately)

The texting I feel was bland. I texted them:

~Ergon
Ergon ;)
Hey, it's Ergon. Save my number : )

Last girl texted me as I gave her my number


Hey, It's [Name]!
-Ah, my favorite brunette
-hahaha oh thank you!
-taking it easy tonight I assume

no response after that
We shall see if the other girls respond, but I feel I'll need to learn to craft better first messages
 
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