Paul Janka recommended just making it so the bed is the only place to sit.
My bed has only one small spot on it that people can get onto it (there are some wooden frames and also a table/TV and a wall blocking the other ways to get onto the bed. There's no couch. There's a desk for work and a smaller desk for a meal. Small apartment. Gonna move out of the apartment in a few months and then unfortunately go back to live with my parents for a while as I take some classes near home. On one side right next to the bed is a TV, which blocks off one side of getting into the bed. I feel pretty reluctant to move it any further from the bed, it is really at the best distance now.
For the few months before then, I'm trying to think about how I can rearrange things so the bed is the only place to sit and is easy for her to get onto. If not, I need to get her to that one spot where where one can enter the bed.
I feel like I have a few options:
1. Get her to sit next to me on that one small small part of the bed where people can enter it and try to escalate there
2. Get her to sit with me on the bed (so closer to the bed's center) to watch TV together, might meet more initial resistance than 1
3. Sacrifice my work desk in order to place the desk closer to the center of the room so it is somewhat easier to get onto it
What are your thoughts on what you might do?
Were I to rearrange my room from scratch, I would probably just have it be a bed with no wooden frames blocking ways to get in (its a futon with a second bed next to it combined), with and almost nothing else so she has to sit there like Paul Janka did. But it is sort of out of the question now to do this, not going to buy a new bed just for a few months
My bed has only one small spot on it that people can get onto it (there are some wooden frames and also a table/TV and a wall blocking the other ways to get onto the bed. There's no couch. There's a desk for work and a smaller desk for a meal. Small apartment. Gonna move out of the apartment in a few months and then unfortunately go back to live with my parents for a while as I take some classes near home. On one side right next to the bed is a TV, which blocks off one side of getting into the bed. I feel pretty reluctant to move it any further from the bed, it is really at the best distance now.
For the few months before then, I'm trying to think about how I can rearrange things so the bed is the only place to sit and is easy for her to get onto. If not, I need to get her to that one spot where where one can enter the bed.
I feel like I have a few options:
1. Get her to sit next to me on that one small small part of the bed where people can enter it and try to escalate there
2. Get her to sit with me on the bed (so closer to the bed's center) to watch TV together, might meet more initial resistance than 1
3. Sacrifice my work desk in order to place the desk closer to the center of the room so it is somewhat easier to get onto it
What are your thoughts on what you might do?
Were I to rearrange my room from scratch, I would probably just have it be a bed with no wooden frames blocking ways to get in (its a futon with a second bed next to it combined), with and almost nothing else so she has to sit there like Paul Janka did. But it is sort of out of the question now to do this, not going to buy a new bed just for a few months
