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This might be something that only ethnic guys go through and maybe white guys don't go through it as much. I've started to notice something in recent months I've wanted to write about for a while but didn't due to the abundance of race threads. Lets see if this ends up being tame enough.
I've almost exclusively pursued white women in the past few years despite not being white myself and some of the white women I've been with have ethnic friends. In the US there is this strange phenomenon where women who assimilate into "American" culture tend to often dislike men of their own race. I used to think it was just a thing among Asian women but quite a few Indian and Middle Eastern women I know are like this too.
So it is not really normal in the US for an ethnic guy to do well with white washed ethnic girls.
So the area I live in is more on the younger end and is typically the place where people fresh out of college in their 20s move to. Lots of younger bars and clubs to where it is pretty much college 2.0 in many ways. After a while, the neighborhood tends to get small despite the many people in it, you start seeing the same faces over and over again. I've taken girls out on dates at some of the local places and you start seeing a lot of the same people there. I find it to be true of bars I run night game in as well, you start seeing the same people a lot more.
One thing I noticed early on is that whenever there are Indian, Asian or about any girls other than black or white in the area, I get stared at a lot. I look away to find a couple of Asian and Indian girls just looking in our direction, a date I had even commented on it and said she found it funny.
Now about the white girls I see who have ethnic friends.....
This is where it gets fun.
One of the girls I am seeing has a couple of Latina friends and some Middle Eastern friends too, they are immediately curious and asking me more than enough questions of "where are you from?" and such. Then when I see them again and my girlfriend is not around, they get real touchy and start asking "so have you dated a brown girl before?", I answer with a generic "well race doesn't matter to me", that frustrates them and they say "then why haven't you dated a brown girl before?".
At first I thought it was maybe some anger but then I realized it was something different. One of the friends of a girl I smashed a few times is this Persian chick who is dark enough to pass for a light skin Indian woman, she grabs my arm one time when the girl is nearby and pulls it towards her while giving me a seductive look. I look at the girl I am seeing who gives a whatever look, she seemed indifferent. The friend keeps asking me questions while hanging on to my arm. We chat a bit but she is real flirty with me.
Ask the girl I am seeing later on about it, she says "ya she is not flirty at all most of the times". I am not used to being treated like this by women so this kind of threw me for a loop, run into her a few more times and she is flirty, might be teasing?
Then it happened this morning.
I was out for a jog and do some stretches nearby. A couple of girls (both kinda Indian or latina looking, could not tell but one was cute) look in my direction and one of them who has seen me around says to her friend "he is trying to stay in shape for those white girls don't look at him" as her friend laughs. I mean it was a whatever sort of moment but still.
It has happened to me more than enough times though.
One of the bars I regularly go to for night game, big enough bar, attracts a diverse crowd and some people go there regularly.
I was walking around outdoors and someone smacks me on the ass, it is one of the girls and I think she is Latina, not bad looking but not really my type either, I've seen her a few times. So I look at her and give her a confused look, she talks to me and we chat for a bit. Then when she tries escalating I tell her I have to go see my friend who will be pissed if I don't see him, she actually says "okay so I am not white enough for you".
And then a week ago I was at this place, its a restaurant/bar in the neighborhood and there are these girls in a group, mixed group with Asian, Indian and a couple of brown girls who I think could be latina or Middle Eastern. A lot of these girls I have seen before in recent months, once again the neighborhood gets small. One of the girls who was Latina looking comes over and actually opens me, smiles asking what is up and plays with her hair as her friends look on.
I play it cool and chat with her but I am kinda hungover from the night before lol. But this girl is actually escalating with me, not really my type but she is kinda cute. So I chat with her and let her do the talking but they get me my food, I got a to go order. She asks me "why not sit down to eat?", tell her I got a to go order because I have too much to do, asks me what is keeping me busy, tell her life and then tell her stay in touch while going for a light hug. She says we should but I walk away, she stops me saying "you said stay in touch, how are we supposed to do that?" with hands on hips as her friends watch and a couple laugh. I take out my phone and give it to her so she can put the number in.....
Find out she is actually Indian but just really light skinned, might try to close her and actually take her out on a date.
Closing thoughts.
I know for at least a couple of these women, especially the Persian women who grabbed my arm, that they do not go for men of their own race. The Persian girl actually said that she usually doesn't go for anything other than white guys and when one random brown guy came up to her to chat, she shut him down hard. I kinda laughed about it and she rolled her eyes saying "Persian guys", then went back to being all happy and chatting with me....
I've always noticed that when the girls I get with have ethnic friends, those ethnic friends are swarming me and if the girl even leaves me alone with them for a second, the friends are getting touchy and asking me a bunch of questions. The white friends she has are usually indifferent or not nearly as hooked.
I've almost exclusively pursued white women in the past few years despite not being white myself and some of the white women I've been with have ethnic friends. In the US there is this strange phenomenon where women who assimilate into "American" culture tend to often dislike men of their own race. I used to think it was just a thing among Asian women but quite a few Indian and Middle Eastern women I know are like this too.
So it is not really normal in the US for an ethnic guy to do well with white washed ethnic girls.
So the area I live in is more on the younger end and is typically the place where people fresh out of college in their 20s move to. Lots of younger bars and clubs to where it is pretty much college 2.0 in many ways. After a while, the neighborhood tends to get small despite the many people in it, you start seeing the same faces over and over again. I've taken girls out on dates at some of the local places and you start seeing a lot of the same people there. I find it to be true of bars I run night game in as well, you start seeing the same people a lot more.
One thing I noticed early on is that whenever there are Indian, Asian or about any girls other than black or white in the area, I get stared at a lot. I look away to find a couple of Asian and Indian girls just looking in our direction, a date I had even commented on it and said she found it funny.
Now about the white girls I see who have ethnic friends.....
This is where it gets fun.
One of the girls I am seeing has a couple of Latina friends and some Middle Eastern friends too, they are immediately curious and asking me more than enough questions of "where are you from?" and such. Then when I see them again and my girlfriend is not around, they get real touchy and start asking "so have you dated a brown girl before?", I answer with a generic "well race doesn't matter to me", that frustrates them and they say "then why haven't you dated a brown girl before?".
At first I thought it was maybe some anger but then I realized it was something different. One of the friends of a girl I smashed a few times is this Persian chick who is dark enough to pass for a light skin Indian woman, she grabs my arm one time when the girl is nearby and pulls it towards her while giving me a seductive look. I look at the girl I am seeing who gives a whatever look, she seemed indifferent. The friend keeps asking me questions while hanging on to my arm. We chat a bit but she is real flirty with me.
Ask the girl I am seeing later on about it, she says "ya she is not flirty at all most of the times". I am not used to being treated like this by women so this kind of threw me for a loop, run into her a few more times and she is flirty, might be teasing?
Then it happened this morning.
I was out for a jog and do some stretches nearby. A couple of girls (both kinda Indian or latina looking, could not tell but one was cute) look in my direction and one of them who has seen me around says to her friend "he is trying to stay in shape for those white girls don't look at him" as her friend laughs. I mean it was a whatever sort of moment but still.
It has happened to me more than enough times though.
One of the bars I regularly go to for night game, big enough bar, attracts a diverse crowd and some people go there regularly.
I was walking around outdoors and someone smacks me on the ass, it is one of the girls and I think she is Latina, not bad looking but not really my type either, I've seen her a few times. So I look at her and give her a confused look, she talks to me and we chat for a bit. Then when she tries escalating I tell her I have to go see my friend who will be pissed if I don't see him, she actually says "okay so I am not white enough for you".
And then a week ago I was at this place, its a restaurant/bar in the neighborhood and there are these girls in a group, mixed group with Asian, Indian and a couple of brown girls who I think could be latina or Middle Eastern. A lot of these girls I have seen before in recent months, once again the neighborhood gets small. One of the girls who was Latina looking comes over and actually opens me, smiles asking what is up and plays with her hair as her friends look on.
I play it cool and chat with her but I am kinda hungover from the night before lol. But this girl is actually escalating with me, not really my type but she is kinda cute. So I chat with her and let her do the talking but they get me my food, I got a to go order. She asks me "why not sit down to eat?", tell her I got a to go order because I have too much to do, asks me what is keeping me busy, tell her life and then tell her stay in touch while going for a light hug. She says we should but I walk away, she stops me saying "you said stay in touch, how are we supposed to do that?" with hands on hips as her friends watch and a couple laugh. I take out my phone and give it to her so she can put the number in.....
Find out she is actually Indian but just really light skinned, might try to close her and actually take her out on a date.
Closing thoughts.
I know for at least a couple of these women, especially the Persian women who grabbed my arm, that they do not go for men of their own race. The Persian girl actually said that she usually doesn't go for anything other than white guys and when one random brown guy came up to her to chat, she shut him down hard. I kinda laughed about it and she rolled her eyes saying "Persian guys", then went back to being all happy and chatting with me....
I've always noticed that when the girls I get with have ethnic friends, those ethnic friends are swarming me and if the girl even leaves me alone with them for a second, the friends are getting touchy and asking me a bunch of questions. The white friends she has are usually indifferent or not nearly as hooked.
