Hi I’m new in the forum and have been active reading girlschase articles for a year and a half.. I want to thank this community and ask for help...
I am Mexican so i'll try to write in English the most consistent that i can...
So I met this girl trough facebook in august we talked a couple of days, sent each other pics and talked about having sex.. i picked her up from his place and ended talking for 6 hours with her and having sex 3 more.. the girl started to ask me if we were going to have a more serious relationship. i responded with telling her that i'll let her know on the phone.. i agree on seeing each other a second time i picked her again and went to my place ( living with my parents. they were not on home). So she sleep that day in my house. had sex all night with her and cooked some food. The next day she started to love bombing me telling me that i was the best and that she loved me. i told her that i was letting from town in the next few months so i couldn't have a serious relationship. i felt bad for the girl bc she wanted to be with me and she had a really nice personality. she insisted in giving her a chance to prove that she could be a good girlfriend and that if i still wanted to leave i could do it . so i told her i would think about it..
The next day after i saw her that second time i injury my ankle playing basketball very badly. i went onto have some depression bc i couldn't do anything and i was on my best moment meeting girls. (Had slept with 10 girls in June and July meet them all online). so when i told her that i was disabled bc of my injury she told me that she could come anytime i wanted to visit me. So i agree.
The relationship started to grow bc she was the only girl i was seeing at the time and she love bombing me every time she had a chance. she told me 2 months after seeing each other that she went through forced abortion when she was 16. i asked about that to one of his closest friends and she told me that it was all a lie. in November she told me that she got abused by her boyfriend and that she lied about not seeing him in months.. Told me that she stopped having sex with him a month before seeing me. i got mad about the situation and told her that i was disappointed at her and that if she had any plans about this relationship they were dead now ( she always proposed moving together and having family i always said no) she told me that she agree and that i deserved better.
we agree on seeing each other but i was clear that i was on a process of getting out of the relationship if she didn't fixed her life (she went from living with his mom to living with her grandparents to living with a friend) displaying more and more mental problems and reaching a point when she got obsessed with me.
On December 18 i stopped answering her messages for 4 hours. when i picked the phone she send me 20+ text saying she was feeling "Bad" ( an excuse to get in her blackmails to start answering again) i said to her that i was done with all that crap and that i wouldn’t talk to her until the next day. She kept telling that i didn't lover her bla bla.. i cut her and stopped messaging with her. at 9:30 she send me a text that she was at a store 2 blocks near my place and that if didn't talked to her she was going to tell all our relationship to my parents (my parents are strict Christian parents so the very act of having sex before marriage is obscene to them) i told her that i was not going to talk to her and that she should go away. She was clingy about talking with my parents they were not at home but any way i told her to go away bc i didn't wanted to deal with that shit. i live in a private neighborhood with fence all around the perimeter and with a guardhouse to enter. She passed the security guard and told me she was out of my house and that i should go out or she was going to call the cops telling that i hit her. as you can see this girl is in a bad mental shape at this point so i called the guard to tell her to take this girl out bc she was treating me. the guard came and took her out of the neighborhood and the girl called 911. When the cops told her that they couldn’t do anything she got upset with them. i received a call from the president of the neighbors association telling me that if i could come to the guardhouse to talk with the girl. i spent the worst hours of my life that night from 10 to 4 am trying to convince and begging to this girl to not kill herself or do any of the horrible things she was saying she would do. in the outside of the guardhouse there's only a road as i live on the periphery of my city so if i left this girl go i wouldn't know what could have happened to her. she begged me to stay the night since she said she had nowhere else to go. she told me his grandparents throw her out of his home a week before and she was living with this friend the past week which she said got into a fight and throw her out too. so i only wanted to save her life that night. we talked for about an hour more. she was in a better mood and told me to not say anything to my parents because of the consequences that i could be facing and because they never knew that i was in this relationship.
When she woke up i told her that it was time to leave. she responded that if i didn't accept her as my gf again she would kill herself so i spent 7 hours trying to talk to her and also grabbing her arms and taking any sharp objects that she tried to grab. i had enough so i called their family and they didn't take a lot action or responsibility . so i talked to his friend. she left her work to came help me to take her out of my place. she took her with his grandparents and later i talked with his grandma she asked me to explain her what happened i did and she told me that i was the good in the situation i told her that i just wanted her to be ok.
Next day this girl talked me on the phone and told me she was ok and wanted to meet. i said no and then she started talking nonsense so i told her that wont talk to her again and that the only way i was going to communicate with her was through his grandma or his mom. this girl believed that she was pregnant or was telling me that to stay with her. she proceeded to send me a pic of her walking alone in the night saying she was getting a pregnant test. i told her to stop telling bs and i blocked her on social media. i received a message from a gf of hers saying that my ex gf was with her and wanted to talk so i blocked her too and called the friend that came for her at my house telling her the situation and she got pretty upset too that his grandma let her out when she was clearly in bad mental shape. i talked then with his mom and she told me that she was ok and was at another's friend house and that she wanted to put his daughter on a mental health hospital bc she knew she was really bad.
Next day i got a call from her mom in the evening telling me that my ex gf talked with his sister and she wanted to come and talk to my parents and show them their pregnant test and that she wanted revenge. she arrived at the guardhouse again. Got a call from the neighbor president telling me to stay at my home and that she will handle the situation so i talked with his mom and his grandma to come pick her up. they didn't wanted too but her grandma say she'll come. After an hour someone was knocking at my door and it was a little girl she told me that there was a girl in the guardhouse that wanted to talk with me. when i was explaining this little girl to not talk with her my ex gf was hidden at the side of the door and pulled it so she stated saying things to me again and that she was pregnant. she showed me the test which it was clearly faked. i told her that i would call the police if she didn’t go away she got aggressive so i called 911. she got into my bathroom and grabbed some scissors that where there when i was talking so i went after her and took them away from her. i talked to the neighbors president to come to my house to help. she did help me and told her to get away from the house and wait outside before the cops arrived which she did.
So the cops and the grandparents arrived and controlled the situation. the grandparents took her to a mental hospital that night. i got a message from the grandma telling me that she was left in the hospital. Next day i talked with the mom and told me more details. That she was going to spend from 2 to 4 weeks there and that she wanted to knew what was i going to do with my life. i told her that i was planning on leaving my parents house and that i felt really bad in this situation and that i wanted her to be ok.
Today i got several voice messages from the grandma saying that my ex gf went through a crisis yesterday ( it was his birthday) and the grandma wanted to talk to me. i told her what she needed and told me she saw all our conversations and that she wanted to sue me because of the photos and videos that she saw. the videos are masturbating videos of both of us and a couple more of videos of her cleaning the house in underwear and another of she cooking naked. both videos where recorded by me with her clear consent in the video and in the messages, the grandma told me that i was the guilty here and that i should take full responsibility of this situation and that she wanted money to cover the expenses of my ex gf treatment in the mental hospital or she would sue me so i understood this as blackmail from her. i told her that i will talk about the situation which i did for the first time with my parents and my brother. i responded with a long message to the grandma saying that i deeply felt bad from this situation but i couldn’t give them money. she responded saying that she will show the videos to the psychologies from the hospital and that wanted to talk with my parents i did not respond to her messages.
My parents want to talk to them and maybe offer some money something that i don’t agree a lot. i will also talk with a lawyer to know if I’m in any danger about this situation. I’m also considering going with some relatives in another country but i don’t know.
I’m asking for help from you guys any thoughts on this situation there are any recommendations? i feel like shit but I’m staying positive about my life that it will get better...
I am Mexican so i'll try to write in English the most consistent that i can...
So I met this girl trough facebook in august we talked a couple of days, sent each other pics and talked about having sex.. i picked her up from his place and ended talking for 6 hours with her and having sex 3 more.. the girl started to ask me if we were going to have a more serious relationship. i responded with telling her that i'll let her know on the phone.. i agree on seeing each other a second time i picked her again and went to my place ( living with my parents. they were not on home). So she sleep that day in my house. had sex all night with her and cooked some food. The next day she started to love bombing me telling me that i was the best and that she loved me. i told her that i was letting from town in the next few months so i couldn't have a serious relationship. i felt bad for the girl bc she wanted to be with me and she had a really nice personality. she insisted in giving her a chance to prove that she could be a good girlfriend and that if i still wanted to leave i could do it . so i told her i would think about it..
The next day after i saw her that second time i injury my ankle playing basketball very badly. i went onto have some depression bc i couldn't do anything and i was on my best moment meeting girls. (Had slept with 10 girls in June and July meet them all online). so when i told her that i was disabled bc of my injury she told me that she could come anytime i wanted to visit me. So i agree.
The relationship started to grow bc she was the only girl i was seeing at the time and she love bombing me every time she had a chance. she told me 2 months after seeing each other that she went through forced abortion when she was 16. i asked about that to one of his closest friends and she told me that it was all a lie. in November she told me that she got abused by her boyfriend and that she lied about not seeing him in months.. Told me that she stopped having sex with him a month before seeing me. i got mad about the situation and told her that i was disappointed at her and that if she had any plans about this relationship they were dead now ( she always proposed moving together and having family i always said no) she told me that she agree and that i deserved better.
we agree on seeing each other but i was clear that i was on a process of getting out of the relationship if she didn't fixed her life (she went from living with his mom to living with her grandparents to living with a friend) displaying more and more mental problems and reaching a point when she got obsessed with me.
On December 18 i stopped answering her messages for 4 hours. when i picked the phone she send me 20+ text saying she was feeling "Bad" ( an excuse to get in her blackmails to start answering again) i said to her that i was done with all that crap and that i wouldn’t talk to her until the next day. She kept telling that i didn't lover her bla bla.. i cut her and stopped messaging with her. at 9:30 she send me a text that she was at a store 2 blocks near my place and that if didn't talked to her she was going to tell all our relationship to my parents (my parents are strict Christian parents so the very act of having sex before marriage is obscene to them) i told her that i was not going to talk to her and that she should go away. She was clingy about talking with my parents they were not at home but any way i told her to go away bc i didn't wanted to deal with that shit. i live in a private neighborhood with fence all around the perimeter and with a guardhouse to enter. She passed the security guard and told me she was out of my house and that i should go out or she was going to call the cops telling that i hit her. as you can see this girl is in a bad mental shape at this point so i called the guard to tell her to take this girl out bc she was treating me. the guard came and took her out of the neighborhood and the girl called 911. When the cops told her that they couldn’t do anything she got upset with them. i received a call from the president of the neighbors association telling me that if i could come to the guardhouse to talk with the girl. i spent the worst hours of my life that night from 10 to 4 am trying to convince and begging to this girl to not kill herself or do any of the horrible things she was saying she would do. in the outside of the guardhouse there's only a road as i live on the periphery of my city so if i left this girl go i wouldn't know what could have happened to her. she begged me to stay the night since she said she had nowhere else to go. she told me his grandparents throw her out of his home a week before and she was living with this friend the past week which she said got into a fight and throw her out too. so i only wanted to save her life that night. we talked for about an hour more. she was in a better mood and told me to not say anything to my parents because of the consequences that i could be facing and because they never knew that i was in this relationship.
When she woke up i told her that it was time to leave. she responded that if i didn't accept her as my gf again she would kill herself so i spent 7 hours trying to talk to her and also grabbing her arms and taking any sharp objects that she tried to grab. i had enough so i called their family and they didn't take a lot action or responsibility . so i talked to his friend. she left her work to came help me to take her out of my place. she took her with his grandparents and later i talked with his grandma she asked me to explain her what happened i did and she told me that i was the good in the situation i told her that i just wanted her to be ok.
Next day this girl talked me on the phone and told me she was ok and wanted to meet. i said no and then she started talking nonsense so i told her that wont talk to her again and that the only way i was going to communicate with her was through his grandma or his mom. this girl believed that she was pregnant or was telling me that to stay with her. she proceeded to send me a pic of her walking alone in the night saying she was getting a pregnant test. i told her to stop telling bs and i blocked her on social media. i received a message from a gf of hers saying that my ex gf was with her and wanted to talk so i blocked her too and called the friend that came for her at my house telling her the situation and she got pretty upset too that his grandma let her out when she was clearly in bad mental shape. i talked then with his mom and she told me that she was ok and was at another's friend house and that she wanted to put his daughter on a mental health hospital bc she knew she was really bad.
Next day i got a call from her mom in the evening telling me that my ex gf talked with his sister and she wanted to come and talk to my parents and show them their pregnant test and that she wanted revenge. she arrived at the guardhouse again. Got a call from the neighbor president telling me to stay at my home and that she will handle the situation so i talked with his mom and his grandma to come pick her up. they didn't wanted too but her grandma say she'll come. After an hour someone was knocking at my door and it was a little girl she told me that there was a girl in the guardhouse that wanted to talk with me. when i was explaining this little girl to not talk with her my ex gf was hidden at the side of the door and pulled it so she stated saying things to me again and that she was pregnant. she showed me the test which it was clearly faked. i told her that i would call the police if she didn’t go away she got aggressive so i called 911. she got into my bathroom and grabbed some scissors that where there when i was talking so i went after her and took them away from her. i talked to the neighbors president to come to my house to help. she did help me and told her to get away from the house and wait outside before the cops arrived which she did.
So the cops and the grandparents arrived and controlled the situation. the grandparents took her to a mental hospital that night. i got a message from the grandma telling me that she was left in the hospital. Next day i talked with the mom and told me more details. That she was going to spend from 2 to 4 weeks there and that she wanted to knew what was i going to do with my life. i told her that i was planning on leaving my parents house and that i felt really bad in this situation and that i wanted her to be ok.
Today i got several voice messages from the grandma saying that my ex gf went through a crisis yesterday ( it was his birthday) and the grandma wanted to talk to me. i told her what she needed and told me she saw all our conversations and that she wanted to sue me because of the photos and videos that she saw. the videos are masturbating videos of both of us and a couple more of videos of her cleaning the house in underwear and another of she cooking naked. both videos where recorded by me with her clear consent in the video and in the messages, the grandma told me that i was the guilty here and that i should take full responsibility of this situation and that she wanted money to cover the expenses of my ex gf treatment in the mental hospital or she would sue me so i understood this as blackmail from her. i told her that i will talk about the situation which i did for the first time with my parents and my brother. i responded with a long message to the grandma saying that i deeply felt bad from this situation but i couldn’t give them money. she responded saying that she will show the videos to the psychologies from the hospital and that wanted to talk with my parents i did not respond to her messages.
My parents want to talk to them and maybe offer some money something that i don’t agree a lot. i will also talk with a lawyer to know if I’m in any danger about this situation. I’m also considering going with some relatives in another country but i don’t know.
I’m asking for help from you guys any thoughts on this situation there are any recommendations? i feel like shit but I’m staying positive about my life that it will get better...
