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So I happened to get a lot of girls in the past month or two. I've bedded three girls, excluding my girlfriend. Anyway, my family have caught onto things. Somebody told my sister that I was seen with another girl recently.
The other night when talking with my family, my father jokingly said "he obviously likes the female attention". My mother was there too, and when the issue of my current relationship was brought up, she said "you better not screw that up". In other words, when & if the relationship ends, it'll be my fault!
These remarks gave my younger sister (who was after a few glasses of wine) the confidence to step in! She rather predictably said "maybe you have intimacy issues". "Oh dear" I thought. She's recently been dropped by her bf, and is likely projecting some of her own issues. Her ex apparently has "commitment issues" now. She's also a sucker for romantic
movies, so you can guess where 'intimacy issues' came from!
My father was sitting across from me with a smile on his face at amusement from all this. I'm tempted to say something to these silly remarks, but I didn't. Instead I just maintained eye contact and arrogantly smirked. I later said "don't be a control freak, and don't be jumping to conclusions because someone said they saw me talk to a girl... you'll have to live your own life and get over your break up". That shut em up.
But I think there might be more remarks like this to come. Like the "do you think you'll ever get married?" one. And the point I'm making, is that these comments would come regardless of whether I'm cheating. If only they knew the way I think of things.
Ironically, 3 years ago when I was pretty much a recluse, no one really wanted to influence my life choices, but now that I'm getting a bit of action, it seems people want to "help" me. I think it's an attention thing. I certainly didn't see it coming. Has anyone else experienced similar attitudes from family members? Is it just a matter of ignoring such remarks?
The other night when talking with my family, my father jokingly said "he obviously likes the female attention". My mother was there too, and when the issue of my current relationship was brought up, she said "you better not screw that up". In other words, when & if the relationship ends, it'll be my fault!
These remarks gave my younger sister (who was after a few glasses of wine) the confidence to step in! She rather predictably said "maybe you have intimacy issues". "Oh dear" I thought. She's recently been dropped by her bf, and is likely projecting some of her own issues. Her ex apparently has "commitment issues" now. She's also a sucker for romantic
movies, so you can guess where 'intimacy issues' came from!
My father was sitting across from me with a smile on his face at amusement from all this. I'm tempted to say something to these silly remarks, but I didn't. Instead I just maintained eye contact and arrogantly smirked. I later said "don't be a control freak, and don't be jumping to conclusions because someone said they saw me talk to a girl... you'll have to live your own life and get over your break up". That shut em up.
But I think there might be more remarks like this to come. Like the "do you think you'll ever get married?" one. And the point I'm making, is that these comments would come regardless of whether I'm cheating. If only they knew the way I think of things.
Ironically, 3 years ago when I was pretty much a recluse, no one really wanted to influence my life choices, but now that I'm getting a bit of action, it seems people want to "help" me. I think it's an attention thing. I certainly didn't see it coming. Has anyone else experienced similar attitudes from family members? Is it just a matter of ignoring such remarks?
