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First Asian Girl

Kvothe

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God it feels good to write one of these.

So I met this girl last week, and did a direct approach. It was notably good, because I got her to lean into me while trading numbers, since she was Chinese, and her phone had last name first.

Scheduled a date originally for Friday, but moved it to today.

We met nearby-she was about 30 min late coming from school. I went for a hug, and she didn't notice and walked past lol. I just patted her on the back instead. We walked and talked as we moved towards the bar, and I was doing a good job deep diving on her. What was good was that I barely talked about myself, outside of a couple of stories that I told. We talked about how she worked with dogs while an intern for special needs children. And I teased her a little bit.

At the bar, I suggested we sit next to each other, instead of the usual spot in the corner where it was harder to get incidental touch. I asked her what her drink of choice was, and she asked me back. I used this opportunity to start seeding the pull. I also mentioned that I'd make it for us sometime. I ordered us drinks, and our legs were touching for almost the whole time. I continued deep diving, making jokes along the way. She was leaning in often and was visibly enjoying herself. She made an offhand comment about her cat being naughty, and later her friends being naughty, and I told her she seemed to have a lot of naughty friends. She said she did, and I told her she must like that. She also said her fantasy was to have a lab coat (in that she had once wanted to be a doctor), and I joked that most people had different fantasies. Then I suggested that lab coats weren't very form fitting, and made some jokes that they'd be a lot better if they were. She was laughing pretty well at all the sexual humor.

There was a decent amount of touching, and when I ribbed her, she would push back in a flirty way. I moved the conversation to the discretion frame quickly, just saying that I liked being in the city because no one judged you and you could keep things private if you so desired. I also asked her if she was close to her parents, and we went deep into that, and how she felt that her parents cared more about her results in life than her as a person. I think I did a good job bringing this back up by agreeing with her that distance is important, and that once you move out, you can meet people who like you for you, and who want the best for you.

We also talked about dating in the city, and she mentioned how she hadn't been dating in a while, and I told her I enjoyed it because you always meet new people and have exciting adventures. I told her I enjoyed being single for that reason, because it was almost like a huge adventure, and I wasn't ready for that adventure to end (boyfriend disqualification). She nodded ahead and I moved past the topic.

A little while later, I suggested we grab some plum wine nearby. We're walking and I do what Grand Pooba suggested and put my arm around her shoulder and pull her to me-she accepted happily. Along the way we'd show each other things on our phones and huddle close to each other. A block away from the wine place, I think fuck it, and ask her if she'd be down for a change of plan, and suggest I mix us some Blue Hawaiians instead. She says sure, and we head to my place instead. I make sure to not make it awkward.

Once we reach my place, I have her take her shoes off, and also get her jacket and hang it up. I then give her a tour of the place, and then have her mix the drinks for us. I'm pretty physical here, grabbing her around the waist and stuff. We make the drinks and I take them to my bedroom. I tell her to make herself comfortable while I use the bathroom. I come back, and close the door, and show her some of the stuff. We spend a lot of time on my map, and then we sit back, and it's silent. There's only one thing to do, so I kiss her. I make sure to pull back first, and keep it going. She's really hot and heavy, and this time I don't make the mistake of talking too much. Our clothes start coming off without any resistance, and I go down to eat her out, and she's writhing around a little bit. I tell her to tell me to fuck her, and she does. Unfortunately my dick decides to go soft on me, so I have to go back to making out. This goes on for two condoms, and I have her suck my dick until I'm hard, then have her put it on me, and just stick the dick in her. I don't get really hard until I start talking more dirty to her about how she likes the feel of my dick inside her (clearly my dick reacts well to aggressive dominance). We fuck for a few minutes then sadly I nut early and it's a little disappointing.

I'm slightly worried because when I pulled the condom out, I felt some cum dripping, so I kept the condom to inspect later. I didn't find a break, so I think it's more likely that as I was pulling out, my dick went a little soft and so it pulled some cum out with it. In the future, I'm just going to pull out as soon as I cum.

Anyway, first sex in almost two months, and first time I've orgasmed in a month. Feeling clearheaded for the first time in a while.

While talking, I focused on slowing my rate of speech to make it more sexual, and I think it worked somewhat.
 
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Hector Papi Castillo

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I went for a hug, and she didn't notice and walked past lol. I just patted her on the back instead

Ouch. But good save. Awkward shit like this is funny always in reflection xD

he made an offhand comment about her cat being naughty, and later her friends being naughty, and I told her she seemed to have a lot of naughty friends. She said she did, and I told her she must like that. She also said her fantasy was to have a lab coat (in that she had once wanted to be a doctor), and I joked that most people had different fantasies. Then I suggested that lab coats weren't very form fitting, and made some jokes that they'd be a lot better if they were. She was laughing pretty well at all the sexual humor.

Yeah, she was fishing for you to take that bait. Good job.

I also asked her if she was close to her parents, and we went deep into that, and how she felt that her parents cared more about her results in life than her as a person

So she's a feely person, rather than achievement person. This is most girls, but if you do run into achievement-girls, then u either gotta switch ur frame to that, but only if you have that frame (you're successful or actively pursuing success in some field), OR you can go full lover-boy and be like "I just like to have adventures and live life," which is a bad frame if you want to stay with her, but great if you want quick sex (and ofc this can get her super wet for you and then after weeks of sex she'll want to date). But good job catching that she wants to be a "rebel," so from here on out frame yourself as a rebel who cares about living life and having fun.

Like this

We also talked about dating in the city, and she mentioned how she hadn't been dating in a while, and I told her I enjoyed it because you always meet new people and have exciting adventures. I told her I enjoyed being single for that reason, because it was almost like a huge adventure, and I wasn't ready for that adventure to end (boyfriend disqualification). She nodded ahead and I moved past the topic.

Good framing.

A little while later, I suggested we grab some plum wine nearby. We're walking and I do what Grand Pooba suggested and put my arm around her shoulder and pull her to me-she accepted happily.

Good move. Props to Varoon for teaching you this. I love doing it. Also you can transition into holding hands from here. What I like to do is offer my arm in the old gentlemanly way and have her interlock her arm into mine, and then a minute later, I'll just hold her hand. It's a bit romantic and can lose you some more "serious" girls, but works well with girls like this.

A block away from the wine place, I think fuck it, and ask her if she'd be down for a change of plan, and suggest I mix us some Blue Hawaiians instead. She says sure, and we head to my place instead. I make sure to not make it awkward.

Compliance stacking + adventurous "let's do something else!" Perfect for this girl. You're doing wonderful.



Once we reach my place, I have her take her shoes off,

;)

I don't get really hard until I start talking more dirty to her about how she likes the feel of my dick inside her (clearly my dick reacts well to aggressive dominance). We fuck for a few minutes then sadly I nut early and it's a little disappointing.

You thrive on dominance and don't like when you don't have it. I'm the same. You might want to lose this a little in the long-term so you don't muck it up with more "tough" girls who are less emotional.

As for nutting early, don't be embarassed. Switch the frame to "Fuck you're so hot that I couldn't help but cum!"

Never feel guilty about getting your nut. Does a king get upset when he gets what he wants? No. She's there to serve YOU.

While talking, I focused on slowing my rate of speech to make it more sexual, and I think it worked somewhat.

Good. She's definitely an "arousal" based girl (some girls are similarity based, within the SAC system, but she's def a lust girl).

Overall, fantastic job. You'll iron out your sexual insecurities as you get more experience. No worries.

Oh and I'm sure I've told you this before (you've been on the forums a while, IIRC?), but I love your name.

The only author better than Rothfuss right now is Vox Day. I seriously suggest you check out his Arts of Dark and Light books. It's his retort to RR Martin's Fire and Ice shit. And it's FAR better, cuz Vox includes transcendental values into his work, rather than the grimdark cynicism of Martin's soulless work.

GET IT!

Papi
 

Kvothe

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Thanks @Hector Papi Castillo

But good job catching that she wants to be a "rebel," so from here on out frame yourself as a rebel who cares about living life and having fun.

I'm not sure it was me catching it so much as it was me accidentally hitting it properly. I'll definitely try to notice and take advantage of this pattern going forward though.

Good move. Props to Varoon for teaching you this. I love doing it. Also you can transition into holding hands from here. What I like to do is offer my arm in the old gentlemanly way and have her interlock her arm into mine, and then a minute later, I'll just hold her hand. It's a bit romantic and can lose you some more "serious" girls, but works well with girls like this.

Why would you lose more "serious" girls?

You thrive on dominance and don't like when you don't have it. I'm the same. You might want to lose this a little in the long-term so you don't muck it up with more "tough" girls who are less emotional.

What do you mean "lose this a little"/why is that something I might want to lose a little? And what's the process for that too?

Oh and I'm sure I've told you this before (you've been on the forums a while, IIRC?), but I love your name.

Thanks haha, I've switched up my nickname a couple of times, but I'll be settling into this for a while. I think you'd appreciate my journal name as well ;)
 

Gamenoob92

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God it feels good to write one of these.

So I met this girl last week, and did a direct approach. It was notably good, because I got her to lean into me while trading numbers, since she was Chinese, and her phone had last name first.

Scheduled a date originally for Friday, but moved it to today.

We met at Union Square-she was about 30 min late coming from school. I went for a hug, and she didn't notice and walked past lol. I just patted her on the back instead. We walked and talked as we moved towards the bar, and I was doing a good job deep diving on her. What was good was that I barely talked about myself, outside of a couple of stories that I told. We talked about how she worked with dogs while an intern for special needs children. And I teased her a little bit.

At the bar, I suggested we sit next to each other, instead of the usual spot in the corner where it was harder to get incidental touch. I asked her what her drink of choice was, and she asked me back. I used this opportunity to mention that I'm a licensed bartender, so she asked me my signature drink and I told her. I also mentioned that I'd make it for us sometime. I ordered us drinks, and our legs were touching for almost the whole time. I continued deep diving, making jokes along the way. She was leaning in often and was visibly enjoying herself. She made an offhand comment about her cat being naughty, and later her friends being naughty, and I told her she seemed to have a lot of naughty friends. She said she did, and I told her she must like that. She also said her fantasy was to have a lab coat (in that she had once wanted to be a doctor), and I joked that most people had different fantasies. Then I suggested that lab coats weren't very form fitting, and made some jokes that they'd be a lot better if they were. She was laughing pretty well at all the sexual humor.

There was a decent amount of touching, and when I ribbed her, she would push back in a flirty way. I moved the conversation to the discretion frame quickly, just saying that I liked being in the city because no one judged you and you could keep things private if you so desired. I also asked her if she was close to her parents, and we went deep into that, and how she felt that her parents cared more about her results in life than her as a person. I think I did a good job bringing this back up by agreeing with her that distance is important, and that once you move out, you can meet people who like you for you, and who want the best for you.

We also talked about dating in the city, and she mentioned how she hadn't been dating in a while, and I told her I enjoyed it because you always meet new people and have exciting adventures. I told her I enjoyed being single for that reason, because it was almost like a huge adventure, and I wasn't ready for that adventure to end (boyfriend disqualification). She nodded ahead and I moved past the topic.

A little while later, I suggested we grab some plum wine nearby. We're walking and I do what Grand Pooba suggested and put my arm around her shoulder and pull her to me-she accepted happily. Along the way we'd show each other things on our phones and huddle close to each other. A block away from the wine place, I think fuck it, and ask her if she'd be down for a change of plan, and suggest I mix us some Blue Hawaiians instead. She says sure, and we head to my place instead. I make sure to not make it awkward.

Once we reach my place, I have her take her shoes off, and also get her jacket and hang it up. I then give her a tour of the place, and then have her mix the drinks for us. I'm pretty physical here, grabbing her around the waist and stuff. We make the drinks and I take them to my bedroom. I tell her to make herself comfortable while I use the bathroom. I come back, and close the door, and show her some of the stuff. We spend a lot of time on my map, and then we sit back, and it's silent. There's only one thing to do, so I kiss her. I make sure to pull back first, and keep it going. She's really hot and heavy, and this time I don't make the mistake of talking too much. Our clothes start coming off without any resistance, and I go down to eat her out, and she's writhing around a little bit. I tell her to tell me to fuck her, and she does. Unfortunately my dick decides to go soft on me, so I have to go back to making out. This goes on for two condoms, and I have her suck my dick until I'm hard, then have her put it on me, and just stick the dick in her. I don't get really hard until I start talking more dirty to her about how she likes the feel of my dick inside her (clearly my dick reacts well to aggressive dominance). We fuck for a few minutes then sadly I nut early and it's a little disappointing.

I'm slightly worried because when I pulled the condom out, I felt some cum dripping, so I kept the condom to inspect later. I didn't find a break, so I think it's more likely that as I was pulling out, my dick went a little soft and so it pulled some cum out with it. In the future, I'm just going to pull out as soon as I cum.

Anyway, first sex in almost two months, and first time I've orgasmed in a month. Feeling clearheaded for the first time in a while.

While talking, I focused on slowing my rate of speech to make it more sexual, and I think it worked somewhat.
Inspiring stuff! I do daygame too. Haven't yet laid any girl from it yet though. Oh and just one thing, do you watch porn? I cut out porn because it was affecting my performance in bed. Maybe you should try that.
 

Kvothe

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Haha I have stopped masturbating, and yes it definitely helps. But it increases sensitivity so you’re more likely to cum faster because of that.
 

Tony D

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Congrats. It always feels good to end a dry spell. Re start the clock.
 
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