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First new lay of the year coming from the distant past.
Date planning
I had started few weeks ago to text happy new year to most of my female whatsapp connections and of all the girls, I noticed that there was one that instantly proposed to have a drink one of these days.
When I realised on Thursday that no other date was sure for Friday, I proposed to that girl to meet on Friday evening for a drink.
She told me she could let me know for sure on Friday at lunchtime so I told her that’s fine. Next day around 12 she asked me what time suits me, I told her 19:30 and she sent me a text: [name of a bar] at 19:30.
I felt it wasn’t the best sign to simply give me a bar she wanted like this, it was also in the middle of the city so not the best place if I wanted to pull, but I thought why not, let’s just go and enjoy the vibe, I have only been in one two dates th month anyway.
So without a lot of expectations I went downtown, she was a bit late, then she got in without realising I was waiting outside, but eventually we found each other outside the bar.
Backstory
Interesting moment because I had not seen her since the approach. And when was the approach? 1st August 2024. Yes, 1.5 years ago, daygame stop with a genuine compliment, small chat and number close.
After that approach I had proposed meeting for a drink back then, she asked me how old I was, I said 28, she said I was too young for her, and wished me a beautiful life. I texted back this:
“Oh why do you say that? I don’t know your exact age but I felt the energy between us. I rarely connect that well with younger girls, they miss some kind of mental maturity that I need to be able to communicate at the same wavelength”
Then she responded that ok we could go for a drink, but told me not to ask her age. After planning the date she cancelled on me a day before saying she had a flu.
Cannot say if it was real or because she had asked me earlier what is my ideal relationship with a partner, and I said chemistry and open communication and that it is a deep question to analyse over text.
It was for the best though probably because this date was planned few days after I had broken my hand and arm, and almost all my dates during that time were pretty unsuccessful .
My next message to her was for happy new year 2025, she responded and she proposed me to be her dance partner in some classes. Wasn’t an ideal scenario for me so I didn’t go through with this, answered days later and simply invited her to my theatre play. She said she would love to come, but don’t think she ever did.
My next text was this summer, a picture from my home country during vacation with no response.
And last communication was my current happy new year 2026.
So the only thing I remembered about her was that she was a short asian woman, older but fairly classy and cute for her age.
Date
When I saw her outside the bar on Friday I confirmed these, I’m pretty sure she had some plastic surgery too in her lips and face, but nothing extreme, anyway I was satisfied because she was a girl I would see myself happily having sex with.
And I sensed the same from her, by the way she looked at me, and touched my arm for no particular reason after the hug.
We went in the bar and sat next to each other, talked about a number of things, I don’t exactly remember the whole conversation or the the order of the topics so I will try to describe the feeling and the frames.
We started with things regarding our lives, I learned she is a divorced mother and she told me she is in a transition period of her life and was describing how now she goes a lot more after what she wants herself, compared to how it was for most of her life.
I supported that and expressed how important it is to live in the moment and do what makes you feel the best, then I got into how I love this in women too.
We got into male to female dynamics, and she said how she likes someone sophisticated, who appreciates culture and told me she remembered my shoes from last time we met and also some things we even talked about in the short chat back then.
She also said she doesn’t believe in just friends with benefits, she has done it but didn’t feel satisfied, and she mentioned how she doesn’t like black and white thinking.
I used all that, and told her how men make the mistake to only to go for sex or to not express any desire at all, and what matters really is the full experience when someone appreciates you truly, and that this is elevating the sexual experience too, and that’s how I want to live.
She herself mentioned something about not wanting a super serious long term relationship and it was easy to frame this as something I wasn’t up to either due to the age difference.
She also mentioned how in the New York that she lived before and had friends, everyone had these dating rules about first date for a drink, second for dinner, and third for sex.
I told her I don’t believe in this kind of rules, and you should go for something when you feel that it is the right time, and you can feel you can connect with the person and trust them.
Through all these I could sense she was looking at my eyes and then at my lips from time to time, I gave her some small touches, and at some point our hands also touched and I held hers sensually for a while.
Pull and close
I wasn’t exactly hoping for a first day pull after all this, and being so away from my place, but I did ask what kind of music she likes and mentioned that I play guitar and I could do it for her at some point.
We continued talking, circling around similar topics about life, interactions between men and women, what we like, and how dating feels, and I basically kept reinforcing the same frames of going after what you want, living in the moment and trusting your feelings, as well as how I enjoy mental and spiritual connection and how there is more beyond just meeting for sex which is what I desire. Last but not least, how it is perfectly fine to be with an older woman, since she was telling me anyway, how things have been changing in society regarding these age differences.
So after some time having all this, and knowing she was quite attracted to me from the beginning, I decided to simply go for a pull and see what happens. I proposed we go back and I play some music for her.
And she accepted immediately. Then I asked, since she was there with her car and I came by train, what would make more sense for her, and we decided to go back to my place with her car.
She left for the toilet, came back with a newly applied lipstick and more perfume, and we left the bar for the parking lot. During the whole time of walking to the car and then driving to my place, we just had some chats here and there about random stuff, some silences when she was driving, some music from the radio, and eventually we arrived.
I brought her in my place, she took her shoes off, she wasn’t drinking because of driving, so I just gave her some water.
I put on some sensual jazz on my phone, since she had said earlier she liked that, and I also asked if she is romantic, and brought in two new battery real-looking candles I bought and closed the lights. I could somehow feel that this was exactly her type of experience.
We sat at the couch, she rested her head on my shoulder and after a minute, I simply turned it and we started kissing. From there the escalation was very smooth without any LMR.
After some making out in the couch I picked her up and threw her on the bed, we started undressing and after some pussy licking we had sex.
First time feeling that I am a bit too big for a girl, kinda strange not being able to put all of yourself inside her, but the rest of the sex felt good, her body was also super good for her age, she had told me she was very sporty, and even her skin was quite smooth, probably the asian genes.
I didn’t last for too long, but it wasn’t that bad, I hadn’t had sex for a month+ so I was fine with it.
Aftermath
After sex was the only part I felt a bit strange about, because she seemed super withdrawn from me. She rested on the bed not even facing me, I tried to bring her close and hug her but she wouldn’t really, I asked her if she was alright, she said it was late and she had to leave, I told her that’s fine, dressed up, and went together with her downstairs to open my building’s door. She didn’t want me to go with her all the way to her car so I left her there.
I sent a message the next morning saying it was a lovely evening, and hope she got a good rest, but no response and even looks like she didn’t open it.
I meant what I said about liking someone for more than the sex itself and I wanted a full experience for her, she was also super into the whole thing and never resisted at all, so I was a bit perplexed when she felt so detached after sex and like she wanted to escape as fast as possible.
I just hope she is well. For me it was a good start for the new year, getting me back into the action after a short while.
And a proof that you never know when a girl will end up willing to meet. Can’t say that the probability of something happening after that long is very high, but as long as it exists, why not make use of it.
Date planning
I had started few weeks ago to text happy new year to most of my female whatsapp connections and of all the girls, I noticed that there was one that instantly proposed to have a drink one of these days.
When I realised on Thursday that no other date was sure for Friday, I proposed to that girl to meet on Friday evening for a drink.
She told me she could let me know for sure on Friday at lunchtime so I told her that’s fine. Next day around 12 she asked me what time suits me, I told her 19:30 and she sent me a text: [name of a bar] at 19:30.
I felt it wasn’t the best sign to simply give me a bar she wanted like this, it was also in the middle of the city so not the best place if I wanted to pull, but I thought why not, let’s just go and enjoy the vibe, I have only been in one two dates th month anyway.
So without a lot of expectations I went downtown, she was a bit late, then she got in without realising I was waiting outside, but eventually we found each other outside the bar.
Backstory
Interesting moment because I had not seen her since the approach. And when was the approach? 1st August 2024. Yes, 1.5 years ago, daygame stop with a genuine compliment, small chat and number close.
After that approach I had proposed meeting for a drink back then, she asked me how old I was, I said 28, she said I was too young for her, and wished me a beautiful life. I texted back this:
“Oh why do you say that? I don’t know your exact age but I felt the energy between us. I rarely connect that well with younger girls, they miss some kind of mental maturity that I need to be able to communicate at the same wavelength”
Then she responded that ok we could go for a drink, but told me not to ask her age. After planning the date she cancelled on me a day before saying she had a flu.
Cannot say if it was real or because she had asked me earlier what is my ideal relationship with a partner, and I said chemistry and open communication and that it is a deep question to analyse over text.
It was for the best though probably because this date was planned few days after I had broken my hand and arm, and almost all my dates during that time were pretty unsuccessful .
My next message to her was for happy new year 2025, she responded and she proposed me to be her dance partner in some classes. Wasn’t an ideal scenario for me so I didn’t go through with this, answered days later and simply invited her to my theatre play. She said she would love to come, but don’t think she ever did.
My next text was this summer, a picture from my home country during vacation with no response.
And last communication was my current happy new year 2026.
So the only thing I remembered about her was that she was a short asian woman, older but fairly classy and cute for her age.
Date
When I saw her outside the bar on Friday I confirmed these, I’m pretty sure she had some plastic surgery too in her lips and face, but nothing extreme, anyway I was satisfied because she was a girl I would see myself happily having sex with.
And I sensed the same from her, by the way she looked at me, and touched my arm for no particular reason after the hug.
We went in the bar and sat next to each other, talked about a number of things, I don’t exactly remember the whole conversation or the the order of the topics so I will try to describe the feeling and the frames.
We started with things regarding our lives, I learned she is a divorced mother and she told me she is in a transition period of her life and was describing how now she goes a lot more after what she wants herself, compared to how it was for most of her life.
I supported that and expressed how important it is to live in the moment and do what makes you feel the best, then I got into how I love this in women too.
We got into male to female dynamics, and she said how she likes someone sophisticated, who appreciates culture and told me she remembered my shoes from last time we met and also some things we even talked about in the short chat back then.
She also said she doesn’t believe in just friends with benefits, she has done it but didn’t feel satisfied, and she mentioned how she doesn’t like black and white thinking.
I used all that, and told her how men make the mistake to only to go for sex or to not express any desire at all, and what matters really is the full experience when someone appreciates you truly, and that this is elevating the sexual experience too, and that’s how I want to live.
She herself mentioned something about not wanting a super serious long term relationship and it was easy to frame this as something I wasn’t up to either due to the age difference.
She also mentioned how in the New York that she lived before and had friends, everyone had these dating rules about first date for a drink, second for dinner, and third for sex.
I told her I don’t believe in this kind of rules, and you should go for something when you feel that it is the right time, and you can feel you can connect with the person and trust them.
Through all these I could sense she was looking at my eyes and then at my lips from time to time, I gave her some small touches, and at some point our hands also touched and I held hers sensually for a while.
Pull and close
I wasn’t exactly hoping for a first day pull after all this, and being so away from my place, but I did ask what kind of music she likes and mentioned that I play guitar and I could do it for her at some point.
We continued talking, circling around similar topics about life, interactions between men and women, what we like, and how dating feels, and I basically kept reinforcing the same frames of going after what you want, living in the moment and trusting your feelings, as well as how I enjoy mental and spiritual connection and how there is more beyond just meeting for sex which is what I desire. Last but not least, how it is perfectly fine to be with an older woman, since she was telling me anyway, how things have been changing in society regarding these age differences.
So after some time having all this, and knowing she was quite attracted to me from the beginning, I decided to simply go for a pull and see what happens. I proposed we go back and I play some music for her.
And she accepted immediately. Then I asked, since she was there with her car and I came by train, what would make more sense for her, and we decided to go back to my place with her car.
She left for the toilet, came back with a newly applied lipstick and more perfume, and we left the bar for the parking lot. During the whole time of walking to the car and then driving to my place, we just had some chats here and there about random stuff, some silences when she was driving, some music from the radio, and eventually we arrived.
I brought her in my place, she took her shoes off, she wasn’t drinking because of driving, so I just gave her some water.
I put on some sensual jazz on my phone, since she had said earlier she liked that, and I also asked if she is romantic, and brought in two new battery real-looking candles I bought and closed the lights. I could somehow feel that this was exactly her type of experience.
We sat at the couch, she rested her head on my shoulder and after a minute, I simply turned it and we started kissing. From there the escalation was very smooth without any LMR.
After some making out in the couch I picked her up and threw her on the bed, we started undressing and after some pussy licking we had sex.
First time feeling that I am a bit too big for a girl, kinda strange not being able to put all of yourself inside her, but the rest of the sex felt good, her body was also super good for her age, she had told me she was very sporty, and even her skin was quite smooth, probably the asian genes.
I didn’t last for too long, but it wasn’t that bad, I hadn’t had sex for a month+ so I was fine with it.
Aftermath
After sex was the only part I felt a bit strange about, because she seemed super withdrawn from me. She rested on the bed not even facing me, I tried to bring her close and hug her but she wouldn’t really, I asked her if she was alright, she said it was late and she had to leave, I told her that’s fine, dressed up, and went together with her downstairs to open my building’s door. She didn’t want me to go with her all the way to her car so I left her there.
I sent a message the next morning saying it was a lovely evening, and hope she got a good rest, but no response and even looks like she didn’t open it.
I meant what I said about liking someone for more than the sex itself and I wanted a full experience for her, she was also super into the whole thing and never resisted at all, so I was a bit perplexed when she felt so detached after sex and like she wanted to escape as fast as possible.
I just hope she is well. For me it was a good start for the new year, getting me back into the action after a short while.
And a proof that you never know when a girl will end up willing to meet. Can’t say that the probability of something happening after that long is very high, but as long as it exists, why not make use of it.
