Gameboy's Journal

[ChrisXKiss]

I somehow got a lovely beach makeout last night with a really cool girl. It was my last night at that particular hostel, in that particular city. There was this girl in the hostel I had seen a couple of times before, and from the moment I first laid eyes on her it was a distinct case of "with this one, something will probably happen (if we don't mess it up)" as succinctly described by @Ratata in his recent post.

First time I saw her, she suddenly appeared from behind me out of nowhere, surprising me. She had a hot petite body, slim, wearing very short jeans shorts, and a little summer top. I asked her "have you been there behind me all this time?" because I hadn't seen anyone behind me when I sat down. She explained she had been doing something behind a sort of counter that was there behind me (we were on the hostel terrace). I said "Seems like you live there" and she laughed, then ran off to somewhere. I had this feeling that it's on with this one, similar to the hostel girl I mentioned in my last post, but who was unfortunately gone the next day.

This one didn't leave though. I stayed at that hostel for about a week. Literally on my last evening there, I found her sitting by herself at a table in the hostel living room. She was fully painted and dressed up like for carnival, with two horns on her forehead and a gem in the middle. I said hi and told her she looks really pretty (an understatement / tease considering her costume). She thanked me and explained she works as a living statue, and was dressed up as a fairy. She seemed receptive, so I sat down at her table and we got to talking. This girl is super fun and outgoing, laughing a lot, and quite expressive. We talked about her work and about life in general, and had a great chat for maybe 2 hours with some interruptions.

At one point, a guy from the hostel staff told us a group of people were going out to play guitar in the street, and invited us to join. My girl (let's call her HBStatue) was interested. I was hesitant because I was leaving the next morning, and I still had to pack my bags. HBStatue said she wanted to get rid of her makeup first, so eventually the hostel group left without us, and we promised to find them later.

Long story short, I went to pack my bags, HBS got rid of her facepaint, and we went out to find the others but we couldn't. So I told HBS let's go to the beach instead, which was only a few blocks away. She was happy with that.

At the beach there was a cold wind blowing. I grabbed my girl and pulled her in. She laughed and was like "Ahh, so you're cold, huh?" but didn't resist. She melted into my embrace, turing her back towards me at first though. After some time of hugging and flirty bantery chit chat, I took her shoulders and turned her around to face me. I made eye contact, but she gave some token resistance at first.

She asked what would have happened if I didn't know her language. I answered with a straight face "Then we wouldn't be talking" (implying we would skip the talk and get right down to business) and she found that hilarious. After bursting out laughing, she gave me a big kiss on the mouth... and we ended up making out for an hour or two...

When things heated up too much, she pulled back and said nothing else was going to happen. At first I thought "sure, that's what they all say". I eventually invited her to my room nonetheless, but she was adamant she didn't want to do anything at the hostel since she worked there. She explained she was afraid of losing her job.

I understood that concern, and wouldn't want her to get in trouble for the sake of an ONS. Plus it was already after 1:30 am and I had to get up early. So I didn't insist much.

FWIW, she said if she was a guest instead of an employee, she'd have come to my room happily.

So even though it didn't go any further, I enjoyed the laughs, the cuddles and the kissing on the beach with her immensely. Last night ended a multi year dry spell of not being able to hook up with any girl except for money. So I'm pretty happy that I finally broke free from that particular spell. Took nothing less than a fairy to undo it... who would have thought!

I like how I stayed at the table with her and didn't eject. Ejecting too early used to be a sticking point for me.

Chase recently had an article titled something like "When it's going well with a girl, keep spending time with her", and it totally applies to me. I did several times have an impulse to just excuse myself and go to bed since I had to get up early the next day, but I consciously resisted it this time. I stuck in there until the time was right for the kiss, then went for it.

What I could have done better:
- Escalate more on the beach. Or text her later when back in the hostel to come to my room.
- Say less cringy stuff - there was one particular thing I said that I believe didn't land well, but I it didn't kill me either

She mentioned her birth year at some point, it didn't faze me since I am a few years older still lol. She's only 3 years younger than me, but she didn't look a day older than 40. She must be leading a healthy life style since her face was pretty much completely free of wrinkles. Only her white hair gave her away, but she made it work actually, even though it was the only feature of her that made her look kind of old (hair didn't match face in her case... though most of my exes after about 30 started dying their hair. This girl didn't, and it still looked cool on her, especially with the costume it felt like part of her persona.)

Lovely girl! It's rare for me to find a girl near my own age that I find hot, and that isn't crazy or taken. And a fun one at that. It's great to know that they exist.

Too bad I probably won't see her again since I'm already in a new city today. I have her number and social media though, so who knows.

That was beautiful, and really happy for you!

My first thought was also that maybe at the beach she would have done it, but you could never know, and I feel sometimes we have to enjoy the connections for what they are in the moment, no matter the result.

Saying it as someone who has felt bad in the past for makeouts that didn’t lead anywhere, but sometimes it is just the setting, the person, the general situation, and it shouldn’t take anything away from the beauty you shared.

And breaking through dry spells is one of the most frustrating and difficult things, you have kept going for long, so it is a real success, and I feel it can lead to even more in the future just by the energy you start radiating.

 

[gameboy]

Had a few good approaches on the beach over the last few days, made a field report for one of the more interesting ones instead of posting it here:

Brazilian on the beach

 

[iceberg slim]

I somehow got a lovely beach makeout last night with a really cool girl. It was my last night at that particular hostel, in that particular city. There was this girl in the hostel I had seen a couple of times before, and from the moment I first laid eyes on her it was a distinct case of "with this one, something will probably happen (if we don't mess it up)" as succinctly described by @Ratata in his recent post.

First time I saw her, she suddenly appeared from behind me out of nowhere, surprising me. She had a hot petite body, slim, wearing very short jeans shorts, and a little summer top. I asked her "have you been there behind me all this time?" because I hadn't seen anyone behind me when I sat down. She explained she had been doing something behind a sort of counter that was there behind me (we were on the hostel terrace). I said "Seems like you live there" and she laughed, then ran off to somewhere. I had this feeling that it's on with this one, similar to the hostel girl I mentioned in my last post, but who was unfortunately gone the next day.

This one didn't leave though. I stayed at that hostel for about a week. Literally on my last evening there, I found her sitting by herself at a table in the hostel living room. She was fully painted and dressed up like for carnival, with two horns on her forehead and a gem in the middle. I said hi and told her she looks really pretty (an understatement / tease considering her costume). She thanked me and explained she works as a living statue, and was dressed up as a fairy. She seemed receptive, so I sat down at her table and we got to talking. This girl is super fun and outgoing, laughing a lot, and quite expressive. We talked about her work and about life in general, and had a great chat for maybe 2 hours with some interruptions.

At one point, a guy from the hostel staff told us a group of people were going out to play guitar in the street, and invited us to join. My girl (let's call her HBStatue) was interested. I was hesitant because I was leaving the next morning, and I still had to pack my bags. HBStatue said she wanted to get rid of her makeup first, so eventually the hostel group left without us, and we promised to find them later.

Long story short, I went to pack my bags, HBS got rid of her facepaint, and we went out to find the others but we couldn't. So I told HBS let's go to the beach instead, which was only a few blocks away. She was happy with that.

At the beach there was a cold wind blowing. I grabbed my girl and pulled her in. She laughed and was like "Ahh, so you're cold, huh?" but didn't resist. She melted into my embrace, turing her back towards me at first though. After some time of hugging and flirty bantery chit chat, I took her shoulders and turned her around to face me. I made eye contact, but she gave some token resistance at first.

She asked what would have happened if I didn't know her language. I answered with a straight face "Then we wouldn't be talking" (implying we would skip the talk and get right down to business) and she found that hilarious. After bursting out laughing, she gave me a big kiss on the mouth... and we ended up making out for an hour or two...

When things heated up too much, she pulled back and said nothing else was going to happen. At first I thought "sure, that's what they all say". I eventually invited her to my room nonetheless, but she was adamant she didn't want to do anything at the hostel since she worked there. She explained she was afraid of losing her job.

I understood that concern, and wouldn't want her to get in trouble for the sake of an ONS. Plus it was already after 1:30 am and I had to get up early. So I didn't insist much.

FWIW, she said if she was a guest instead of an employee, she'd have come to my room happily.

So even though it didn't go any further, I enjoyed the laughs, the cuddles and the kissing on the beach with her immensely. Last night ended a multi year dry spell of not being able to hook up with any girl except for money. So I'm pretty happy that I finally broke free from that particular spell. Took nothing less than a fairy to undo it... who would have thought!

I like how I stayed at the table with her and didn't eject. Ejecting too early used to be a sticking point for me.

Chase recently had an article titled something like "When it's going well with a girl, keep spending time with her", and it totally applies to me. I did several times have an impulse to just excuse myself and go to bed since I had to get up early the next day, but I consciously resisted it this time. I stuck in there until the time was right for the kiss, then went for it.

What I could have done better:
- Escalate more on the beach. Or text her later when back in the hostel to come to my room.
- Say less cringy stuff - there was one particular thing I said that I believe didn't land well, but I it didn't kill me either

She mentioned her birth year at some point, it didn't faze me since I am a few years older still lol. She's only 3 years younger than me, but she didn't look a day older than 40. She must be leading a healthy life style since her face was pretty much completely free of wrinkles. Only her white hair gave her away, but she made it work actually, even though it was the only feature of her that made her look kind of old (hair didn't match face in her case... though most of my exes after about 30 started dying their hair. This girl didn't, and it still looked cool on her, especially with the costume it felt like part of her persona.)

Lovely girl! It's rare for me to find a girl near my own age that I find hot, and that isn't crazy or taken. And a fun one at that. It's great to know that they exist.

Too bad I probably won't see her again since I'm already in a new city today. I have her number and social media though, so who knows.

Haven't been on the forum much lately but remember a while back you seemed like you might quit--was glad to log on and see you're still at it and had a smooch fest on the beach

 

[gameboy]

2 Hot Mexicans

Yesterday I had a great but platonic time with 2 Mexican girls that sat right next to me on the rather crowded beach. I kind of saw them out of a corner of an eye when they arrived, since I was lying down on my back in that moment. Both were slim, both very much my type physically and style-wise, and I saw one of them from behind with her tight but elegant transparent beach dress and hot body in a bikini under that, and OMG what a hottie.

I opened situationally: They bought drinks from one of the Moroccan guys that sell Mojitos and other drinks on the beach, and the guy asked them where they're from and then whether they had boyfriends. They said "no we don't need boyfriends". I found that funny, turned toward them laughing and said: "Don't need boyfriends, eh? Life is more relaxed when you're single!"

The one closer to me kind of just looked at me, in a somewhat evaluating way, for a second, then smiled. I followed up asking if they're indeed Mexican, and whether they are travelling here. We ended up chatting for about an hour, hour and a half. I had them watch my stuff twice while I jumped in the sea for a swim. We talked about each of our travels, what we liked and didn't like about each of our countries, and lots of other stuff.

At one point, during a pause in the conversation, I just smiled at the girl that was closer to me, and she just immediately gave me this super warm smile back. Talk about state transfer. What a beautiful thing!

I love it whenever this happens. It's such a magical, transcendental feeling. (is that a word?)

When we had already talked for about an hour, one of the girls asked me my age. I had her guess, she guessed 48. I said "Yeahhhh, almost!!" with a big grin, and she smiled proudly for having guessed almost right. I then told her I'm 52. She nodded and then said "We're 18 and 19. Now you have to guess which is which."

I got it right. But I saw my chances of anything happening go to nil at this point. I mean they did look young, and 2F sets are pretty hard without a wingman anyway. But both of them being teenagers? Forget it lol.

I did tease them and replied "oh and they let you travel by yourselves already?" but they didn't react to that. Somehow my teases rearely seem to land, I'm not quite sure why.

Apart from that tase attempt, the conversation was mostly platonic rather than flirty -- though it was a lot of fun all the time, and totally worth it.

The sun went down behind a building, and I asked them twice if they wanted to come along to find a spot where the sun was up longer, but they politely declined. So eventually I left. I did ask them how long they were staying, but got a vague answer like "just a few more days". I said "maybe I'll see you around here, I come to this beach a lot", but I didn't see a point asking for phone numbers. Gave both of them hugs and kisses on the cheeks, and we said goodbye with a smile.

Later That Evening...

I did see one girl sitting by herself later that eveing, and she looked over at me quite a bit. But even though she was okay looking, there were 3 or 4 things about her style that I didn't really like. And after the cute 2 Mexicans, she seemed kind of like the consolation prize... I didn't end up approaching that one. Guess I can chalk it up to AA, but also it felt like my "validation tank" that day was already full in a way.

Retrospection

I've always been a bit picky. Back when I went clubbing a lot in my 20s and 30s, friends would sometimes point out a girl to me and say "why don't you talk to that one, she's looking" but I'd be like "nah, not my type" lol. I did pick up quite a few girls in night game that actually were my type though, but those were always girls I noticed by myself. At least in my early 20s that was the case. Later as I got older, night game started giving me diminishing returns. I think the last time I got with a girl I approached in night game was in my mid 30s or so.

...Really?

No wait, just last winter I got two pecks on the mouth with a tall blonde German girl I met in a rock bar. Okay, that's not "getting with" a girl, strictly speaking. But I think there was potential for more... potentially.

She was quite attractive, and taller than me. Maybe 25-ish or so. I'm not sure if I journaled about her here. In case I didn't:

I saw her staring at me at the bar, and I opened asking her where she's from. She seemed quite into me, snuggling up close to me as we chatted and got to know each other. But then she got randomly angry at some point. I kind of shrugged it off as drunk silliness, and she went back to her friends.

I kept sipping my beer, un fazed. And indeed she came back to talk to me later, not angry at all any more. I felt she was interested so I just looked her in the eye and asked her if she wanted to make out. She said "we're not making out" but I did give her two pecks on the lips. I remember her lips were so soft! And I told her that. She said "and so are yours..." even though I didn't feel like that at all lol (i thought I had chafed lips)

Her friends came and she had to leave, and she said "Maybe I'll see you again some time." I should have SO gone for the number! But I was too mind blanked in that moment and didn't go for it. Rookie mistakes still happen at 52 apparently lol.

Get To The Point, Gameboy.

But I disgress!

The reason I'm making this post is: I still don't feel I approach all the girls (in day game) that I could, and often the reason for that is that I think they look too young. So I decided I'll just face that fear head on, and straight out ask them their age early in the interaction.

The thing I haven't decided upon yet is, how to follow up? I guess I will figure something out over time.

If she asks back, tell her my real age or make something up that's a little more acceptable but also credible, maybe 45?

Many girls guess my age correctly these days. One Korean I met on the beach said "30". That was nice, but she was most likely being polite. Or blind. Haha.

I don't like lying. But if it increases my chances of success? Hmmm.... still haven't made up my mind about that, either. But in general I'm very much a tell-the-truth kind of person. If you don't like me how I really am, I'll find someone who does.

Or maybe I should forget about the whole age thing completely... but right now I'm thinking, asking her straight up achieves 2 things: 1) signals interest 2) subtle neg (you're too young for me)

Approach I Witnessed Recently

And also I think it's quite normal. The other day I witnessed two boys approaching 2 girls on the beach and it's literally one of the first things they asked. It went something like "where are you from" ... "how old are you" ... "are you with more people" ... "what you doing later today"

They got the number btw. The girls were like 19ish, and the boys I think 22. Something like that. But later I saw those same 2 girls, talking and having fun and playing around by the waterside, with 2 different guys. Guess the 1st two boys were a bit lame, and they'll get flaked on when they text...

Outlook

Planning to field test this idea over my next few approaches. Worst case I get ignored or blown out, or have a friendly platonic interaction that can still be a lot of fun like with the 2 Mexican cuties.

 

[gameboy]

Pretty brutal rejection today. It was my only approach of the day.

I was on the beach, near 2 cute girls that had caught my eye and that I was low key considering talking to. Nearby, there was another girl, kind of fat, with a little dog.

I went for a swim, and when I came out of the water, 2 waitresses from a cafeteria I frequent had joined the chubby one. The 3 girls were talking amongst each other and didn't seem to have noticed or recognized me.

I waited for a moment, then approached them in a confident, energetic way. I expected them to be at least moderately friendly, but I only got very brief, one-word responses.

After maybe half a minute, 2 of them started to continue their previous conversation in a low voice, completely ignoring me. At that point I realized I wasn't welcome and ejected.

In hindsight I'm not sure they even recognized me. Still, one way or another, this stings. I even know the name of one of the girls, and I've had a number of good friendly conversations with her. She was normally quite warm, and always seemed happy to chat with me.

No idea what happened today. Could be they confused me with someone else? I'm sure they have lots of clients in the cafeteria.

I did listen in to their conversation for a few seconds before approaching, and it didn't sound like they were talking about anything super heavy or serious.

Maybe I should have approached in a more low key way, addressing the one I know the name of directly, and asking her if she recognized me. I'm pretty sure she didn't. Either that, or she was in a really weird mood today, who knows.

Anyway, in the end it's all learning experiences. Today stung pretty bad, but I guess some days must be shit so others can be awesome.

 

[Jamster]

2 Hot Mexicans

At one point, during a pause in the conversation, I just smiled at the girl that was closer to me, and she just immediately gave me this super warm smile back. Talk about state transfer. What a beautiful thing!

I love it whenever this happens. It's such a magical, transcendental feeling. (is that a word?)

Yeah. A DaZzLiNg smile from a young hottie is a tremendously affirming thing. Even when it leads nowhere.

When we had already talked for about an hour, one of the girls asked me my age. I had her guess, she guessed 48. I said "Yeahhhh, almost!!" with a big grin, and she smiled proudly for having guessed almost right. I then told her I'm 52. She nodded and then said "We're 18 and 19. Now you have to guess which is which."

"I dunno. Stand up. Turn around slowly. BIG smile. Now, try to look mean."

THEN make your guess.

I got it right. But I saw my chances of anything happening go to nil at this point. I mean they did look young, and 2F sets are pretty hard without a wingman anyway. But both of them being teenagers? Forget it lol.

In my 50's I had a LOT better luck with undergrad age babes than I did with women in their 30's. The teen's biological clocks are telling them it's time to experience ALL of life. The 30's clocks tick differently.

I did tease them and replied "oh and they let you travel by yourselves already?" but they didn't react to that. Somehow my teases rarely seem to land, I'm not quite sure why.

Seems to me that is too close to judgy granny territory: "A girl like you needs to worry more, travelling alone. Tsk, tsk."

Apart from that tease attempt, the conversation was mostly platonic rather than flirty -- though it was a lot of fun all the time, and totally worth it.

Yeah. That's what make game worthwhile to me, too.

Later That Evening...

I did see one girl sitting by herself later that evening, and she looked over at me quite a bit. But even though she was okay looking, there were 3 or 4 things about her style that I didn't really like. And after the cute 2 Mexicans, she seemed kind of like the consolation prize...

Yeah. Serious issue with gaming the young ones. Hard to savor the mutton after you've sniffed at some lamb.

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[Jamster]

In hindsight I'm not sure they even recognized me. Still, one way or another, this stings. I even know the name of one of the girls, and I've had a number of good friendly conversations with her. She was normally quite warm, and always seemed happy to chat with me.

Use her name. If you can recall, bring up something from the conversation, in light teasing way. Help them recognize the good feelings of talking to you.

Don't ask if they recognize you, assume they do.

Call them on bad behavior. "What? You only wanna talk to me when I tip? Jeez, that's harsh." (in a jesting voice)

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[Skills]

Pretty brutal rejection today. It was my only approach of the day.

I was on the beach, near 2 cute girls that had caught my eye and that I was low key considering talking to. Nearby, there was another girl, kind of fat, with a little dog.

I went for a swim, and when I came out of the water, 2 waitresses from a cafeteria I frequent had joined the chubby one. The 3 girls were talking amongst each other and didn't seem to have noticed or recognized me.

I waited for a moment, then approached them in a confident, energetic way. I expected them to be at least moderately friendly, but I only got very brief, one-word responses.

After maybe half a minute, 2 of them started to continue their previous conversation in a low voice, completely ignoring me. At that point I realized I wasn't welcome and ejected.

In hindsight I'm not sure they even recognized me. Still, one way or another, this stings. I even know the name of one of the girls, and I've had a number of good friendly conversations with her. She was normally quite warm, and always seemed happy to chat with me.

No idea what happened today. Could be they confused me with someone else? I'm sure they have lots of clients in the cafeteria.

I did listen in to their conversation for a few seconds before approaching, and it didn't sound like they were talking about anything super heavy or serious.

Maybe I should have approached in a more low key way, addressing the one I know the name of directly, and asking her if she recognized me. I'm pretty sure she didn't. Either that, or she was in a really weird mood today, who knows.

Anyway, in the end it's all learning experiences. Today stung pretty bad, but I guess some days must be shit so others can be awesome.

as Jamster say they probably did not recognize you or remember you...


I would have open with "hey you guys are the girls that always take care of me at vesuvio, what a small world"

unless you always talk and flirt with them and you are 1000 percent sure they know who you were.... But man sometimes i see neighboors, or people from the past at clubs even girls i have slept with and i have no idea who they are...

 

[Jamster]

I get a good reception from off duty waitresses with, "There's always a special place in my heart for women that bring me food !"

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[gameboy]

In my 50's I had a LOT better luck with undergrad age babes than I did with women in their 30's.

That's a very encouraging piece of advice for next time

Thanks man!

 

[gameboy]

Went to the cafeteria with the waitresses that I felt rejected me the other day. Skills and Jamster, you guys were right, I think they didn't recognize me that day when I approached on the beach.

When I went to their coffee shop, all was normal. I didn't even bring it up since it was pretty busy, but the one I know best brought me the coffee with a smile that gave me a "nice to see you again" vibe, and not "I'm being polite because I'm at work and I have to". So all good on that front.

There's a lesson here though, as you guys rightly said: It wasn't ideal how I approached the group without addressing any one of the 3 girls in particular. Would have been way better to approach the one I knew best by her name, and then take it from there.

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On another occasion, I had a coffee with a few friends (actually they were all drinking beer, I'm the coffee person) and there was this girl that is kind of hot (awesome body, huge boobs and slim and fit otherwise, and not too old like most of the women in that social circle - I'd guess maybe late 30s. Also I like her fashion style). I'd seen her a few times before but up to now barely talked a few words with her. This time though, she was throwing me one fucking shit test after another.

It was a god damn barrage of shit tests! I stayed unfazed and smiled my way through it (thanks in no small part to this site). There were my 2 male friends sitting on my right, who were mostly just kind of watching amusedly, and this annoying cockblock woman on my left who I'd never seen before but she seemed to be a friend of HB.

The cockblock was sitting between me and HB, so I couldn't make any physical move. But HB was smiling a lot at me despite the shit tests. I left eventually because there was no way to isolate her in front of my other friends, but that was fun nonetheless

I'd bang her if I knew that nobody will ever find out... if/when I get the chance. Or maybe I'll just bang her anyway lol... (if it ever gets to that, who knows)... though they say don't shit where you eat... hmmm but I don't think I could resist if there's ever a chance hehe

Another cool thing: I think it was Will_V who wrote the other day, how he shows girls interest with his body language while qualifying them verbally. Well the HB did something pretty similar to me, except the shit tests were a lot more brutal than any tease I'd ever do on a girl. I guess she knows she can get away with it. And damn it... it actually felt good! Mostly because I know that the shit tests are just that. My old self would probably have felt disrespected or something lol.

She was doing this cute things that girls often do where they are sitting on a chair and will put their feet on the chair at the same time, you know what I mean? Also she was wearing a rather short peach colored summer skirt, so that added to the excitement... I wonder if they do that on purpose? I played it cool though, just parried her shit tests and smiling back at her through my sunglasses.

Was fun to be in that kind of situation again where the hottest girl at the table is into you. I think this proves that I managed to improve my fundamentals over this time I've been actively approaching.

Though I gotta say, on the approaching front, I've been slacking off this summer. Only been doing the occasional approach here and there. The other day I managed 4 but that's an outlier. It's super hot and that makes me lazy... It's almost too hot to have sex lol

But the city is filled with hotties right now, so I REALLY gotta get back into the habit of approaching a lot more. Remember how much fun it is when I meet a girl who is cool and open!

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And here's another story, from yet a different cafeteria (yes I drink lots of coffee : This is a cafeteria where I've been a regular for years. All the staff there knows me, and the girls working there are between friendly and flirty with me. All have bfs though (the ones that aren't lesbian).

There's this new girl working there, who's been there for maybe half a month. First two times I saw her she gave me "that look" (the one that says "this girl is into you"), but I didn't have a good opportunity to get to know her yet. She's may be around 25. Really cute face, Latina look but with rather blonde hair (might be dyed though).

So the other day, I went there, sat on one of the sofas and see that she's sitting on the sofa next to mine. She flashed a smile when she saw me, but then looked back at her phone. I asked her what she's doing here, she said she's on break but then looked back at her phone. I checked my phone too until my coffee arrived.

I remember to always open a girl that gives you an IOI, so when I got the coffee I asked her about an event that had happened the night before. She was super friendly and we got to talking throughout the rest of her break. She told me half her life story. Really cool chick, with an interesting background. Has lived in various interesting countries. Has a bf though, but this was another reminder that if a girl smiles at you or gives you some other kind of IOI, to always open.

This probably seems super basic. But there's a good chance that my old self would have sat there on the sofa next to her, without talking to her at all. I used to be quite introverted.

It would be awesome if I can get back to approaching at least a few times a day again from now on. Gotta get that momentum back.

 

[gameboy]

2 approaches today already, and it's still early in the day.

First was a warmup, and kind of a blind approach. I heard some girls walking behind me talk about something I'd been thinking about myself shortly before, so I turned around and asked them about it. One of them grabbed her purse a little tighter lol. Another one gave me a short polite answer and they kept walking.

Second one was a super hot girl I saw in the super market. Dressed in tight jeans shorts, short black belly free top, little black adidas sneakers and adidas socks. Saw her walking around and talk to one of the clerks, local language (noted).

I manged to place myself in the checkout queue behind her. Saw she was carrying some frozen fruit that I hadn't seen before, so I opened asking her "excues me, are those fruit any good?" She turned around to look at me. Wow what a beautiful face. Little thin nose ring also. No tats though as far as I noticed. HB10. She said "I don't know, I haven't tried them"

I said something like "I never saw those before, must be great to make yourself a smoothie" but she didn't seem too interested and turned away. Feels like she saw right through me lol but how clear is it really to those girls that we are interested in them as a person not just in their fruit? (pun intended)

A spot at the next checkout line became free so I switched over there, and she was gone when I was done paying.

She was buying several packs of frozen fruit, so I think it's likely she's buying them for some bar or something. So possibly works in the area. Could be I see her again some time.

I could have followed up with "So they aren't for you then?" and maybe she'd have said "no they're for work" or whatever. Also I opened from behind which is never ideal, didn't think of that.

I like how I found a way to approach when I felt the pull (of attraction) instead of making some excuse and succumbing to AA. I even came up with a spontaneous situational opener.

I usually don't have much time to think about strategies or whatever while I talk, it seems to just flow. I expect those things to get better and better with the approaching experience I'm gathering.

Good start to the day!

 

[iceberg slim]

2 approaches today already, and it's still early in the day.

First was a warmup, and kind of a blind approach. I heard some girls walking behind me talk about something I'd been thinking about myself shortly before, so I turned around and asked them about it. One of them grabbed her purse a little tighter lol. Another one gave me a short polite answer and they kept walking.

Second one was a super hot girl I saw in the super market. Dressed in tight jeans shorts, short black belly free top, little black adidas sneakers and adidas socks. Saw her walking around and talk to one of the clerks, local language (noted).

I manged to place myself in the checkout queue behind her. Saw she was carrying some frozen fruit that I hadn't seen before, so I opened asking her "excues me, are those fruit any good?" She turned around to look at me. Wow what a beautiful face. Little thin nose ring also. No tats though as far as I noticed. HB10. She said "I don't know, I haven't tried them"

I said something like "I never saw those before, must be great to make yourself a smoothie" but she didn't seem too interested and turned away. Feels like she saw right through me lol but how clear is it really to those girls that we are interested in them as a person not just in their fruit? (pun intended)

A spot at the next checkout line became free so I switched over there, and she was gone when I was done paying.

She was buying several packs of frozen fruit, so I think it's likely she's buying them for some bar or something. So possibly works in the area. Could be I see her again some time.

I could have followed up with "So they aren't for you then?" and maybe she'd have said "no they're for work" or whatever. Also I opened from behind which is never ideal, didn't think of that.

I like how I found a way to approach when I felt the pull (of attraction) instead of making some excuse and succumbing to AA. I even came up with a spontaneous situational opener.

I usually don't have much time to thinka about strategies or whatever while I talk, it seems to just flow. I expect those things to get better and better with the approaching experience I'm gathering.

Good start to the day!

Props for talking to hb10 at grocery store.

 

[gameboy]

Struggling with AA again. Been over a week since my last proper approach.

Also, I'm seeing few solo girls recently that I'm actually attracted to. Not sure why that is

 

[crnaosa]

2 approaches today already, and it's still early in the day.

First was a warmup, and kind of a blind approach. I heard some girls walking behind me talk about something I'd been thinking about myself shortly before, so I turned around and asked them about it. One of them grabbed her purse a little tighter lol. Another one gave me a short polite answer and they kept walking.

Hi, maybe to start the conversation with:
"Sorry but I accidentally heard what you said, and thought about that a couple of minutes ago, so I had to turn around" and smile. Then continue with what you were saying.

Second one was a super hot girl I saw in the super market. Dressed in tight jeans shorts, short black belly free top, little black adidas sneakers and adidas socks. Saw her walking around and talk to one of the clerks, local language (noted).

I manged to place myself in the checkout queue behind her. Saw she was carrying some frozen fruit that I hadn't seen before, so I opened asking her "excues me, are those fruit any good?" She turned around to look at me. Wow what a beautiful face. Little thin nose ring also. No tats though as far as I noticed. HB10. She said "I don't know, I haven't tried them"

I would try something like, "So, I like it when people are open to trying new things..." with a grin. Or, since she was a 10, you could say, "My friend tried it and said it was DISGUSTING," also with a smile. This might get a better reaction from a 10, IMO.

The point is that you yourself should have fun while doing this stuff. BTW, this should be the aim of every interaction. If there is no fun, the interaction will die — and it should die