LR German Tourist Tangoes Into Bed

[James D]

I was on a video call with my sister while walking in a touristy street with Chinese lanterns.

As I'm crossing a road, I notice a blonde girl in a mini leather skirt throwing glances my way.

We cross the road together and I kinda follow her although it was not my initial route. I wrap up the call with my sister and place myself next to the girl. She was standing and waiting to cross another road.

With my left hand, I slowly reach and tap her arm.

She turns to me, big smile and takes out her airpods.

Me: Excuse me...
Her: Yes? (smile)
Me: I was... over there (I point back to where we were)...on a call with my sister... (gesture to my phone)...when I saw you...
Her: Oh!
Me: ...and thought you looked absolutely ravishing.
Her: Oh thank you!
Me: I kind of HAD to come say hi...what's your name?
Her: Nancy. And yours?
Me: James (extend my hand)
Her: Nice to meet you!
Me: Likewise...so, what are you doing?
Her: You mean now?
Me: Yes.
Her: Ohh haha just checking out this street, apparently it's a must see.
Me: Ah absolutely. The lanterns are amazing, especially at night. They also have a food market thing going on.
Her: Are you from here?
Me: I've been living here for a while now. And you?
Her: Just visiting my friend. She's a flight attendant.
Me: That's cool! So does that mean she gets to visit you too? And where are you from btw?
Her: Germany! But no, we've never managed to make it work. This meeting here has been in the works since September!
Me: Damn! Well, good to see it finally happened!
Her: Yes we are so happy haha
Me: And you're going to meet her now? I see you have your maps out (point at her phone)
Her: Yeah I thought I'd walk by this street to check out the lanterns then get the metro.
Me: Got you got you. Well the metro is actually straight ahead and to your right. (i point)
Her: Oh thanks!
Me: All good. And hey, not sure if you're here for long...
Her: 4 days!
Me: Well 4 days...we should absolutely get together...a cup of coffee or something...
Her: Hmm well actually I have a tight schedule for the coming days but tonight maybe we could grab a drink?
Me: Sounds good. I know a nice little bar with a great vibe. Not too crowded. You'll love it.
Her: okay sure
Me: I'll send you the details via whatsapp
Her: sure

We exchange numbers and bid farewell.

I text her the bar location (5 min walk from my place) and suggest 7pm.

She answers back if 8pm is better and I say sure.

Fast forward to 8pm, she's actually late lol. But she does send a message telling me she got the wrong bus and is on her way. She shows up at 8h20 pm in different clothes, looking even sexier.

I greet her with a half hug and guide her to the bar, my hand on the small of her back.

We order drinks (she doesn't question my sparkling water order) and find a cosy place to sit.

We do some boring small talk information exchange while sitting really close to each other.

I don't say much except stare straight into her eyes and little approving "hmmms"

15 min into sitting down, we have this exchange:

Me: You said you love travelling right?
Her: yesss i envy Sara (her flight attendant friend)
Me: If you could go anywhere..where would it be?
Her: Hmm somewhere with lots of art and culture.
Me: Well, you're already in Europe! Just gotta visit the neighbours.
Her: Hahaha yeah but actually I haven't been around much.
Me: ahh?
Her: Not even to Paris!
Me: No way?
Her: Have you?
Me: I was there a few months ago.
Her: Oh wow! How was it?
Me: Ahhh...what can I say? The food is good, the women are gorgeous...what more does a man need?
Her: Hahaha yes exactly!

She kinda sways her body into me at that point.

Her: and where would you go?
Me: Hmm well I've never been to the Americas. I'd love to visit Argentina.
Her: Oh why? Because of football?
Me: Tango.
Her: Oh!
Me: Yes I used to take it.
Her: That's cool! what do you like about it?
Me: Hmmm you know, I love how everything between a man and a woman is contained in the tango. the man extends his hand...the woman can either take it or decline...it's up to her. if she does take it, then she steps in a shared space where he leads and she follows, while there's always full respect yet so much sensuality.

Her: wow that sounds nice!

Me: Yes it's amazing. The tango kind of restores the idea of sensuality how it should be: not a dirty secret but something full of respect and empathy. You can be sensual and respectful, wouldn't you say?

Her: Yes for sure!

A note throughout the date: we sat next to each other and there was a lot of touching. I can't remember where and when, it was throughout, with some pauses at times, and some longer lingering touches at other times.

Me: Would you like me to teach you some tango?

Her: Hmm is it difficult?

Me: Not at all. I'll teach you a 'close'. Hmmm... we need the proper setting tho. My place is 3 min away, we can pop by there.

Her: Haha ok but I'm not that good!

Me: Don't worry.

I lead her out of the bar, do the hand on the small of her back thing and we're at my apartment not even 5 min later.

She gets in, takes out her shoes and sits on the sofa without me saying anything.

Me: Come!

I motion her towards me.

She stands and I start teaching her some basic steps.

Me: Oh wait we need the music!

I play a random Argentinian tango on my phone.

We do a few awkward steps and I teach her the close.

Me: pretty good!

Her: hahaha I need more practice.

Me: you'll be a great dancing partner in a few sessions.

She smiles and we lock eyes.

I pull her in for the kiss.

She laughs while we kiss, or rather giggles, and we both fall on the sofa.

I had a condom already prepared for the date so we stay on the sofa and have the first round.

Then we head the bedroom where she wants to take a shower and then it's the second round.

P.S. I started the writing this report on my laptop then completed it on my phone cuz I'm gonna take a flight. if the writing is a bit weird, that's probably why.

 

[James D]

Edit (can't edit on phone directly) I didn't ask much compliance on the date and I think that was a mistake. It worked out because she was apparently into me from the get-go but some compliance wouldn't have hurt

 

[AJAK]

You're killing it! I like how you directly complimented her at the beginning. She really appreciated it and it was a good one. Some write on this forum that it lowers your value when you say direct compliments like that but I don't think most girls are thinking about it in terms of high/low value blah blah. It seems to be mostly about emotions when it comes to girls and you're in if you can trigger the right emotions.

 

[James D]

You're killing it! I like how you directly complimented her at the beginning. She really appreciated it and it was a good one. Some write on this forum that it lowers your value when you say direct compliments like that but I don't think most girls are thinking about it in terms of high/low value blah blah. It seems to be mostly about emotions when it comes to girls and you're in if you can trigger the right emotions.

It's not that direct compliments lower your value.

It's that most guys are terrible at delivering compliments, thus lowering their value.

Mindsets like "if I compliment her then she will like me" or "all I've gotta do is have the balls to compliment her then it's up to her" sets you up for failure.

Are you new here? I feel I haven't seen your username before. Search up "neo direct" on the forum. Chase has an excellent forum post on what constitutes a good direct opener Vs a bad one (neo direct one)

Girls will definitely slot you into high Vs low value. They don't think it as consciously as we flesh it out here but doing low value things will play against you.

How are direct compliments working for you?

 

[AJAK]

It's not that direct compliments lower your value.

It's that most guys are terrible at delivering compliments, thus lowering their value.

Mindsets like "if I compliment her then she will like me" or "all I've gotta do is have the balls to compliment her then it's up to her" sets you up for failure.

Are you new here? I feel I haven't seen your username before. Search up "neo direct" on the forum. Chase has an excellent forum post on what constitutes a good direct opener Vs a bad one (neo direct one)

Girls will definitely slot you into high Vs low value. They don't think it as consciously as we flesh it out here but doing low value things will play against you.

How are direct compliments working for you?

Kind of new you can say. I'm in the process of starting cold approach and I read that you're one of the best daygamers here so i've been reading a lot of your posts and i've learnt a lot.

I will be using direct compliments from now on when I approach. I did my first approach yesterday and I will write up a field report on it.

 

[AJAK]

I also like how you were flirting non-verbally on the date by doing a lot of touching. Non-verbal flirting seems to be very powerful when done right. This is something that i'm going to be implementing into my strategy on dates.

 

[KJ Francis]

Two question:

1. When is the Netflix special? I feel like you could sell your LR's to a screenwriter for a collection of short stories. Even fully PG-13 fade to black at the end, but retaining your titles like anal in the park. It could inspire a generation.

2. Would you ever consider writing a comprehensive post on body language and non verbals? I don't think guys know how much practice you've put in developing certain aspects.

 

[James D]

Two question:

1. When is the Netflix special? I feel like you could sell your LR's to a screenwriter for a collection of short stories. Even fully PG-13 fade to black at the end, but retaining your titles like anal in the park. It could inspire a generation.

2. Would you ever consider writing a comprehensive post on body language and non verbals? I don't think guys know how much practice you've put in developing certain aspects.

About body language and non-verbals, I've actually started that post at least 5 times before scrapping it off.

It's a very hard thing to explain and I couldn't convey all the nuances in a simple way like Chase masterfully does with his writing.

Or perhaps I could try to write it in French, my native language, and have a skilled bilingual translate it.

You're right though, I did spend a lot of time working on non-verbals. That was especially after meeting and befriending a natural and seeing how much more advanced he is with his non-verbals and the effect it has on people.

And the Netflix special, I think they'll need juicier material haha.

Those day game cold approaches that end up in lays tend to be interesing ones indeed. Being a similarity guy (from Chase's SAC), I'm kind of geared towards finding that great vibe with girls and from that having a great, interesting interaction.

 

[KJ Francis]

Or perhaps I could try to write it in French, my native language, and have a skilled bilingual translate it.

I bet you could walk right into a languages building on a campus and find her

 

[Skills]

I had many lays similar to this, you go into isolation and bring the partner dancing subject, and then you dance (super brief) and escalate to sex.....

One of the reason i advocate have music playing pre going out at the home, so when you come in the mood is set...

 

[Kshatrap A.V.]

Me: Excuse me...
Her: Yes? (smile)
Me: I was... over there (I point back to where we were)...on a call with my sister... (gesture to my phone)...when I saw you...
Her: Oh!
Me: ...and thought you looked absolutely ravishing.
Her: Oh thank you!
Me: I kind of HAD to come say hi...what's your name?
Her: Nancy. And yours?

Definitely, the best way to open direct with all these pregnant pauses where she can get the chance to see your vibe and some even smile before the compliment is given. Personal experience and this even feels more natural to her than saying it in one go.

may it even build some tension.

 

[James D]

One of the reason i advocate have music playing pre going out at the home, so when you come in the mood is set...

That's a great idea!

 

[Skills]

That's a great idea!

Yeah been doing it for years....Also help them relax or in night game cont. The party atmosphere.... I don't know if you read my tribal elder journal i have a similar lay to this one....in her hotel room i used my cell phone cause was her room.... I used bachata vs tango...

 

[James D]

I don't know if you read my tribal elder journ

Haven't read. Where can i find it?

 

[Skills]

Haven't read. Where can i find it?

just tagged you is private

 

[ChrisXKiss]

Always enjoyable to read your reports @James D !

Something I notice here compared to other first interactions you have described is that it has even less explicit flirting, and it is basically a normal chat with a close.

Would you say that the more you improve the more you simplify things and let attraction work passively?

I've for sure felt myself that after a while of trying to tease a lot and use techniques when I started approaching, I gradually became way more chill in my communication.

The only thing I wonder eventually is what happens when the girl is not immediately into you in one way or another.

Because especially in street approaches, I always feel there is little to do to change the first impressions, and I sometimes wonder whether it even makes sense to think about how to do it or I should simply focus on getting this first impression as right as possible and work with what comes out of that.

And I love the kind of approach and seduction like in this report, it is very natural, it just feels to me sometimes like "yeah after a bunch of approaches of course I'll get a girl that shows some interest back, but is that all there is to it?"

So I'd be interested in how you approach it, if it is mostly about doing the approach, being cool and trusting that your attractiveness will bring enough initial results, and how it developed over time.

 

[James D]

Something I notice here compared to other first interactions you have described is that it has even less explicit flirting, and it is basically a normal chat with a close.

Would you say that the more you improve the more you simplify things and let attraction work passively?

I wouldn't say letting attraction work passively.

You still have to escalate, which takes the initial attraction she had and amplifies it to the point where she complies with sexual escalation.

The two main escalation tools were proximity and touch.

I didn't describe every touch I made (impossible) but left a note in the report that I included a lot of touching.

Definitely not passive!

yeah after a bunch of approaches of course I'll get a girl that shows some interest back, but is that all there is to it?"

So, no, that's no all there is to it.

You still need the attraction amplifier aka escalation.

If you don't, then you have a girl who's attracted to you, who finds you cool but feels like it's off to get sexual with you. That's boyfriend land.

Escalation, i.e. amplifying her attraction and leading her to sex, is the key thing here.

It's easier to write a report where the escalation was the lines I used. But with touch, all I can say is I've used a lot of touch.

However, I do think the bit where I talk about dancing worked as some sort romance gambit.

So yeah... don't let my simplistic writing make you think it's a question of finding a girl who's attracted only!

More to it than sitting and letting attraction work passively!

 

[KJ Francis]

I didn't describe every touch I made (impossible) but left a note in the report that I included a lot of touching.

pretty sure there is an actual James D Escalation Ladder. wouldn't expect it for sale until after the Netflix special comes out.

@ChrisXKiss here's an alternative:

Tactics Tuesdays: Sexual Escalation Script

What steps should you follow to get to sex with a girl? This sexual escalation script lays it all out, down to the timing of each move needed to bed a girl. We’ve got a guy over on the forum who’s struggled to make things sexual with girls. He’s a mechanical learner who can follow rules but has...

www.girlschase.com

the bit where I talk about dancing worked as some sort romance gambit

I was honestly thinking this upon first read... that it sounds very much like a gambit. It accomplished a LOT of good stuff:

- innocent on the surface, so the content can't be rejected
- communicates male leads female (light prizing)
- mentions her consent will be respected
- frames sensuality as completely positive, and then gets her buy-in
- becomes its own plausible deniability

all while getting her to visually fantasize about an arousing, sensual dance with this mystery romancer.

very seductive. then there's all the touch, eye contact, proximity, facial expressions, voice... check please.

 

[TrailBlazer]

innocent on the surface, so the content can't be rejected

Dance has a very strong frame of being innocent though. How do you manage the transition from the hard boundaries of the dance, to kissing? Especially in the dance community, I’m sure you know that everyone is concerned about the leader not being creepy. I know it’s something else when dancing alone, but still the girl might be surprised that you went for a kiss. It’s like you’re forcefully changing the vibe from social/romantic to sexual, is that a good thing?

 

[KJ Francis]

Dance has a very strong frame of being innocent though. How do you manage the transition from the hard boundaries of the dance, to kissing? Especially in the dance community, I’m sure you know that everyone is concerned about the leader not being creepy. I know it’s something else when dancing alone, but still the girl might be surprised that you went for a kiss. It’s like you’re forcefully changing the vibe from social/romantic to sexual, is that a good thing?

if this girl didn't expect to be kissed, she would have had a mental disability. otherwise if he didn't kiss her, she would have been PISSED.

see sexual frames:

Me: ...and thought you looked absolutely ravishing.

Me: All good. And hey, not sure if you're here for long...
Her: 4 days!

guide her to the bar, my hand on the small of her back.

Me: Ahhh...what can I say? The food is good, the women are gorgeous...what more does a man need?

the woman can either take it or decline...it's up to her

sensuality how it should be: not a dirty secret

A note throughout the date: we sat next to each other and there was a lot of touching. I can't remember where and when, it was throughout, with some pauses at times, and some longer lingering touches at other times.