LR German Tourist Tangoes Into Bed

[ChrisXKiss]

Dance has a very strong frame of being innocent though. How do you manage the transition from the hard boundaries of the dance, to kissing? Especially in the dance community, I’m sure you know that everyone is concerned about the leader not being creepy. I know it’s something else when dancing alone, but still the girl might be surprised that you went for a kiss. It’s like you’re forcefully changing the vibe from social/romantic to sexual, is that a good thing?

As someone who has been part of dancing communities I would say that obviously if you go social dancing the focus is the dance and even if a girl likes you, it would be super uncalibrated to go for a kiss then and there.

It’s like going to a co-ed sport game and grabbing your teammate for a kiss while playing. It is weird and you will be rejected and most probably talked about for trying something like this.

If you are one on one with a girl though in a date, it should be again pretty obvious that there is a romantic/sexual element to dancing together. Especially if you do it somewhere in private or spontaneously.

KJ Francis mentioned some of the points that set this expectation here. As long as you keep it man to woman enough that the girl knows it is some form of date and not just two besties hanging out, it should be fine.

I’ve danced with multiple girls, either in public during the date or back in my place at the end of it and none of them found it forceful or unexpected when I went for a kiss eventually.

For a lot of them it was in fact the perfectly plausible deniability to come close and have a kiss.

That’s why I also don’t believe you need to be any great dancer to use it for seduction in this context. Just by knowing the basic waltz step, you can tell the girl how it makes you feel, why you love it, then propose to show her and simply do it to bring her close when you want to escalate.

Just don’t show her the correct head position if you pick Waltz because you’ll end up looking away from each other lol.

 

[James D]

Dance has a very strong frame of being innocent though. How do you manage the transition from the hard boundaries of the dance, to kissing? Especially in the dance community, I’m sure you know that everyone is concerned about the leader not being creepy. I know it’s something else when dancing alone, but still the girl might be surprised that you went for a kiss. It’s like you’re forcefully changing the vibe from social/romantic to sexual, is that a good thing?

It's not at all community dancing.

It's barely even dancing.

Non tango dancers view tango as this cool thing they've seen a couple times in movies that sets a magical romantic moment.

It makes them curious, they realize they've always wanted to try and they get really excited by doing anything (example the close) that gives them a feeling they danced.

It's like when your dad made you drive the car at 10 in an empty parking lot.

For that context, the tango is really just a disguise to get close to her, touch her, get compliance by teaching her how to move.

Now, if I were to run into a real tango practitioner... then I'd probably change course. Hasn't happened yet tho.

 

[KJ Francis]

Non tango dancers view tango as this cool thing they've seen a couple times in movies that sets a magical romantic moment.

With a rose held by the stem in the mouth!

 

[mirror]

I was on a video call with my sister while walking in a touristy street with Chinese lanterns.

As I'm crossing a road, I notice a blonde girl in a mini leather skirt throwing glances my way.

We cross the road together and I kinda follow her although it was not my initial route. I wrap up the call with my sister and place myself next to the girl. She was standing and waiting to cross another road.

With my left hand, I slowly reach and tap her arm.

She turns to me, big smile and takes out her airpods.

Me: Excuse me...
Her: Yes? (smile)
Me: I was... over there (I point back to where we were)...on a call with my sister... (gesture to my phone)...when I saw you...
Her: Oh!
Me: ...and thought you looked absolutely ravishing.
Her: Oh thank you!
Me: I kind of HAD to come say hi...what's your name?
Her: Nancy. And yours?
Me: James (extend my hand)
Her: Nice to meet you!

She was into you from the getgo, this snippet says enough.

 

[mirror]

Dance has a very strong frame of being innocent though. How do you manage the transition from the hard boundaries of the dance, to kissing? Especially in the dance community, I’m sure you know that everyone is concerned about the leader not being creepy. I know it’s something else when dancing alone, but still the girl might be surprised that you went for a kiss. It’s like you’re forcefully changing the vibe from social/romantic to sexual, is that a good thing?

There is a difference between official classes and just randomly impromptu dancing with someone or teaching someone.
It´s fairly easy if you know how to check for signs of compliance and are capable of recognizing the turning point in which she gives in.

@James D Disagreed on your view of the Tango. A very good Tango means you actually are insanely attuned to your partner and barely have to do anything to lead and she has to do barely anything to realise what´s happening.