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[AspiringStoic]

I'm not thinking about quitting, I've been in the game for years now and it is my preferred way of meeting people. The only trouble is, it's not going past a number close, often times.

Maybe I should have pushed for the instant date on this occasion? The girl did say she wasn't doing much and just going to have lunch. But then I didn't want to seem like a guy with nothing on.

It's just, I would have thought a 10 minute interaction would have been enough. The only thing was I didn't plan the date in advance. I suggested one activity, then she said she had already seen it, so then I made a vague other suggestion which even I can't remember.

The problem is, the city where I approach is small so there are only so many girls I can approach. I do hesitate in non ideal situations to avoid a cringe approach as well. It is not the size of city where you can go crazy and approach every chick you see.

I was supposed to go up to London today but it's torrentially raining.

Also, London is far away and thus setting up dates is impractical and a lot of girls are not in London for long anyway. So day gaming in my local city makes sense, but the volume isn't there to deploy the skillset on a mass scale so every phone number counts.

How many approaches have you done in the last 3 months? How many numbers have you gotten out of those approaches? And have all of them not replied to you?


Dont tell me what you have done for years, just specifically for the last 3 months. Lets see if we can diagnose this.

 

[AspiringStoic]

I'm not thinking about quitting, I've been in the game for years now and it is my preferred way of meeting people. The only trouble is, it's not going past a number close, often times.

Maybe I should have pushed for the instant date on this occasion? The girl did say she wasn't doing much and just going to have lunch. But then I didn't want to seem like a guy with nothing on.

It's just, I would have thought a 10 minute interaction would have been enough. The only thing was I didn't plan the date in advance. I suggested one activity, then she said she had already seen it, so then I made a vague other suggestion which even I can't remember.

The problem is, the city where I approach is small so there are only so many girls I can approach. I do hesitate in non ideal situations to avoid a cringe approach as well. It is not the size of city where you can go crazy and approach every chick you see.

I was supposed to go up to London today but it's torrentially raining.

Also, London is far away and thus setting up dates is impractical and a lot of girls are not in London for long anyway. So day gaming in my local city makes sense, but the volume isn't there to deploy the skillset on a mass scale so every phone number counts.

How many approaches have you done in the last 3 months? How many numbers have you gotten out of those approaches? And have all of them not replied to you?


Dont tell me what you have done for years, just specifically for the last 3 months. Lets see if we can diagnose this.

 

[average_daygamer]

How many approaches have you done in the last 3 months? How many numbers have you gotten out of those approaches? And have all of them not replied to you?


Dont tell me what you have done for years, just specifically for the last 3 months. Lets see if we can diagnose this.

In the last 3 months? I don't know. That depends if I can go on a session or not and what the volume is like on that particular day. For instance, if you read my London field report, I did 13 approaches in a single session.

But London is expensive to get to and most of the girls don't actually live there, so it is not ideal for actually going on a date.

A lot of it depends on volume. When the uni's are off in my local city, the volume drops to near zero, or some local chavs whom you wouldn't want to approach anyway, if you are British, you know what I mean.

I can give you a more accurate example of what I did on my "pre Christmas push" last year, but that is not what you asked.

A lot of the time I am doing an approach here and there. I can't just spam approach for aforementioned reasons. There are a lot of teenagers who look older making it tricky to pick out the adults.

 

[AspiringStoic]

A lot of the time I am doing an approach here and there

Track your approaches, even if you do just 2-3 per week. Unless you have data, we cannot see patterns.

But from what you said, you it seems like you are not approaching consistently.

I am doing an approach here and there.

Can you get results at the gym from just doing "one set of some exercise here and there"?

I see from your previous posts that you are serious about working out. I am sure you have a plan and a routine. You are not exercising randomly "here and there".

So what makes you think you can get results in cold approach by just doing something here and there?

When the uni's are off in my local city, the volume drops to near zero, or some local chavs whom you wouldn't want to approach anyway

I am not saying your limitations are not legitimate.

But ask yourself if someone came to you and asked for advice on how to get buff and muscular but then said "well I dont really have access to dumbells or gym equipment. Sometimes I have it and sometimes I dont". But I really want to get buff so tell me "what is the best exercise to do or show me the perfect form".

Wouldnt you tell him:

"Hey, first and foremost you need to workout consistently. You cant just do something here and there. Working out with a plan and doing it consistently is WAY MORE important than obssessing over the best exercise or the perfect form".

Now apply this to yourself, you are the guy who is asking for the "best" exercise and "perfect" form while not having consistency and the basics down.

Until you find a way to go where the girls are and approach consistently few times a week, week after week, all the details about any 1 particular girl and how to get a result with her is useless talk.

If you want to do cold approach, places where there are sufficient girls to cold approach is your "gym".

So until you figure out a way to go to the cold apprach gym regularly you wont get results. Just like the way a guy who wants to get buff wont get results unless he figures out a way to workout regularly.

 

[average_daygamer]

I sent a 3rd text earlier today asking how her studies were going and how she was settling in her student flat. Still no reply, but she hasn't blocked me either, so maybe there is hope if I can come up with an interesting enough text. Or maybe she will start to look forward to my texts and warm to me? Does anyone have an idea why she would not reply but not block me either? I am thinking of sending a picture message next week or maybe a short video from the club I have from a previous night and asking if she would like to join me on a night out. Any ideas what she is up to?

 

[average_daygamer]

Well, she didn't reply to my 3rd and final text, so I guess no interest.

It's disappointing and I don't know why she seemed interested, then didn't reply at all. But she didn't block me after my 2nd text, I don't know if she has now, it is on a separate WhatsApp account and I can't be bothered to switch accounts to check as I don't want to think about it really.

It's just so odd a lethargic, honestly. Just not replying, odd.

 

[Just a Man]

I sent a 3rd text earlier today asking how her studies were going and how she was settling in her student flat.

Caring dynamic. I reckon you've now truly friend-zoned yourself.

She didn't block or reply because she didn't know how to pigeon-hole you and felt no need to decide.

She'll probably pop up when she wants a platonic favour.

Just IMO.

 

[average_daygamer]

Caring dynamic. I reckon you've now truly friend-zoned yourself.

She didn't block or reply because she didn't know how to pigeon-hole you and felt no need to decide.

She'll probably pop up when she wants a platonic favour.

Just IMO.

I doubt she will "pop up". In the previous no reply numbers I have gotten, that has never happened. In my big "pre Christmas push" last year where I collected 7 phone numbers, I never heard from the flakes ever again.

The idea with texting this girl multiple times was that she would eventually warm to me and maybe look forward to my texts and eventually reply to one.

But it hasn't worked. Maybe if I texted something else it might have worked, I think it's a good idea in concept and going forwards if I get a non reply I will text a minimum of 3 times instead of deleting the number after 1 non reply.

 

[Just a Man]

The idea with texting this girl multiple times was that she would eventually warm to me and maybe look forward to my texts and eventually reply to one.

But it hasn't worked. Maybe if I texted something else it might have worked, I think it's a good idea in concept and going forwards if I get a non reply I will text a minimum of 3 times instead of deleting the number after 1 non reply.

Well, I'd circle back to my earlier point that, if things begin with a positive first encounter IRL and that's when you take the number, then the only thing you need the first text to do is to set up a coffee (or similar) as the next IRL.

E.g. "Hey, it was nice meeting you. Do you fancy grabbing coffee some time? Let me know when suits you. I'm [around / fairly free / a bit busy but have some time] [next week /over the next few days]. [Your name.]"

This keeps it moving from one pleasant IRL to the potential next pleasant(er) IRL.