Getting to a point where social life and friends get you hot girls.

[Indian Race Troll (IRT)]

I wonder if you ever get to a point in life where due to social connections and the social life you have built, you get hot girls as a result of that rather than trolling streets and nightlife all the time.

 

[Fluxcapacitor]

I've never got there, but it happens. The super rich and celebrities who hang in exclusive circles will attract hot girls by status, power, money, fame and by hanging out with people in those circles.

A really hot girl who happens to work as a model/singer/actress will be in these circles and you'll never see her because you're in different worlds.

Ironically most of the guys in these circles are clueless with women.

There are equally as attractive girls working normal jobs, but you'll have to walk the streets or hit night clubs to find them.

Unless your current social life provides a lot of hot girls through social circle you'll struggle. There's a thread discussing hobbies to meet hot girls and this is basically what you'd be doing.

For me, I don't meet a lot of girls training to fight. There's not many female fighters and fewer that are hot. My office job also fails to bring hot girls into my social life.

Walking the streets and hitting night clubs exist for everyone dude!

 

[Velasco]

If you have a ton of cash to burn + patience + willingness to host tons of afterparties you'll have a good shot at banging hot girls every weekend from the girls that the nightlife people bring to your afterparty. I'll talk to my wing later and see if he wants to share tips or what else (hidden costs) goes into it. I'll probably PM you.

 

[Indian Race Troll (IRT)]

If you have a ton of cash to burn + patience + willingness to host tons of afterparties you'll have a good shot at banging hot girls every weekend from the girls that the nightlife people bring to your afterparty. I'll talk to my wing later and see if he wants to share tips or what else (hidden costs) goes into it. I'll probably PM you.

I always find that nightlife circle thing tough to navigate tbh. Maybe @naturalmikey can give me his thoughts on DistantLight's posts as they seemed encouraging from RSD.

The problem becomes that you run into a lot of dudes and bland girls. It always seems like the guys with big crews met them still earlier on in life or through work that offers access to that life. Hobbies that are sports related fall flat for me socially. I can meet girls through photography and those things but even then, it is more sex and not as much social prowess.

Closest I get is by old college friends but I want to cut them out since I want to get past college mentally.

 

[Hue]

Social circle game is a thing. I thought this was common knowledge?

My lay with a cocktail waitress from NYE was mainly due to social circle, my current MLTR is from the same circle.... and then I banged the hostess from the same circle several months ago.

I still used game in getting all three of these girls. You can learn game really, really quickly from going out and practicing in night life or day game, then applying your understanding of women and seduction to other avenues in your life... adapting as needed.

To get the hottest girls you need to be the top dog in the group. If you're not inherently an awesome high value dude from day one (or have already established yourself as the alpha) then you might need to work the social dynamics of that group to make it happen / get what you want, or you could go out work hard to raise your value... it's not a whole lot different than some of the things you need in your seduction journey in general.

An in-shape, gifted athlete with trained hand-eye coordination is going to do pretty damn good if you put them into most sports. To be the best of the best in that arena though, you need to really specialize and learn nuances of the sport. Same goes for the nuances of day-game, night-game, social circle, or online game.

 

[FunGuy]

Firstly, I suck at social circles but I have some observations. I am curious to hear knowledgeable people's opinions. I am not trying to bring negativity to this topic, just trying to see if anyone can relate or have some ideas.

Let me quickly recap some of the things I have tried but failed.. So firstly I tried being that guy who hosts events, the problem is that people strongly prefer doing this thing in a very small group they strongly click with (1-2 people) vs a group of 6 + people who they only casually speak to. The only time a huge amount of people would consistently show up is when there was a good excuse for stuff, like a birthday etc. Secondly, most people burn out way too quickly. Most people can easily go 2-3 months without the need to do anything social, finding people who are actually down to do stuff is extremely challenging.

I feel like social circles are difficult to sustain once your past your early 20's. Those who are 25 and older that have an "extravagant" social life usually have it because it overlaps with their job/professional life. I don't know many people above 25 who have a noteworthy social life, most only have like 2-3 close friends who they frequently hang out with.

Besides having a job/profession that forces you to be in social events, another common approach is having hobbies that accomplish the same thing. The hard part is actually finding hobbies that have that perfect balance of being social/ genuinely enjoyable. It wouldn't be a bad idea to brainstorm some side jobs/hobbies that put you in good logistics for social activity.

Lastly, another good idea is to be cool with 1-2 people who are already in that situation and try to join into that circle. Its just a lot harder trying to stand out in a group that has already been established.

 

[Indian Race Troll (IRT)]

I can understand the negativity without question having had it myself. My closest success has been old alumni groups and reconnecting with friends but as I long said, I am over my college days for good. I do have an older friend though who says money = best equalizer. The rich, wealthy, and attractive have a way of finding each other.

 

[Fuck This]

All a social circle can do is put you in proximity to them. Getting them is still going to depend on your ability to seduce.

Beware though it takes time to build that circle, and I've found I've entered "Old Man" territory.

But I'm going to say having skill in a physical activity will get you young , in shape, attractive , and fun women. Running, Mountain Biking, motorcycle racing, (maybe Martial arts?) your skill overrides your age.

 

[DoWhatWorks]

I wonder if you ever get to a point in life where due to social connections and the social life you have built, you get hot girls as a result of that rather than trolling streets and nightlife all the time.

From what I see the only “regular” guys making this happen 25+ are ones who throw money around by hosting events/dinners or promoters at high end clubs & their friends.

Especially in top tier cities like NYC, Paris or London I’d say the key is to sacrifice a few girls you’d sleep with to build “going out friends”.

Leverage the girls group by DMing promoters of “cool” clubs to get on their table. They get paid per girl so saying 1 - 2 guys & 3 - 4 girls to join provided they’re attractive you’ll find a promoter to play ball in most places.

You & the girls get free drinks all night at his table and the promoter gets paid - win win.

Cool thing about promoters table is there’ll be other people he’s brought there too so you can network with the regulars and expand your circle.

You’ll then build a reputation & get different promoters to like you as you’re that “cool guy who brings girls” ie makes them money.

Once that’s built you’ll be attending clubs weekly, meeting new girls just by showing up and inevitably sleeping with some.

Then it isn’t “trolling nightlife” anymore but you having fun at places you like & “warm approaching” girls in the same circles as you.

 

[Indian Race Troll (IRT)]

Yeah there is no doubt now that building this life is tougher than it seems. My intuition did tell me that if you do not have a strong social circle growing up through college and high school, you are kind of SOL. Even success I have had depended on leveraging college alumni networks, helps that I went to a top party school. I want to walk away from that life but after college, it becomes so nuanced and hard to replicate. I do applaud RSD and its members like Luke (who @naturalmikey has bad things to say about) and forum legend Distant Light but it is tough.

 

[Velasco]

I do applaud RSD and its members like Luke (who @naturalmikey has bad things to say about) and forum legend Distant Light but it is tough.

Distant Light is a worthless poser - Male Privilege

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ctrl+f "Perspicacity"

 

[The Emerald Archer]

ctrl+f "Perspicacity"

Hahah Big Baller Trolling I like that one. I'm surprised no one entered that into Urban Dictionary yet lol.