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Hey guys,
I've noticed this issue popping up and am not sure the best way to go about it. I meet a girl, get her number, go to set up the date, and then she's busy, so we reschedule. Then it happens again. And again.
Im cool about having to reschedule, but after a few times it becomes ridiculous. So this happened a ton with sexy-photos girl, the dog walker girl (she owns her own dog walking business and works a lot - not too unusual), and the married woman I met. We plan a day and I go the day of to text them and theyre busy with work or something comes up.
It may be legit, may not. I know girls who are super busy can make the time to meet.
The issue is they wont commit to the meet up. They dont appear to lose interest, but it starts to wear me out.
So from what I understand, the best way to circumvent this is to:
1) same day date
2) keep meeting women
3) mix up texts with phone calls
I also usually try to "punish" the behavior by showing less interest each time we have to reschedule.
As an example, I made a plan with dog walking girl to meet today for drinks, but then she said:
Her: "Hi! No probably not today".
Me: "no worries - crazy snow" (it started snowing today).
Her: "just working"
Me: "ah. dont freeze your butt off ("yikes" emoji?) "
Her: "Oh I am haha"
Me: "its too nice for that (tounge sticking out emoji) "
Her: "Haha"
Me: "well Im pretty busy next week, but stay in touch~"
Her: "Definitely"
She honestly responds pretty damn quick to my texts (less than a minute). So I dont think its a lack of interest. I also am legitamately busy next week, so Im not just playing around.
Maybe Im not exciting them enough before exchanging numbers to go on the date and I need to be more polarizing? Im not sure.
Any ideas? Tips and advice are also very welcome!
NBW
I've noticed this issue popping up and am not sure the best way to go about it. I meet a girl, get her number, go to set up the date, and then she's busy, so we reschedule. Then it happens again. And again.
Im cool about having to reschedule, but after a few times it becomes ridiculous. So this happened a ton with sexy-photos girl, the dog walker girl (she owns her own dog walking business and works a lot - not too unusual), and the married woman I met. We plan a day and I go the day of to text them and theyre busy with work or something comes up.
It may be legit, may not. I know girls who are super busy can make the time to meet.
The issue is they wont commit to the meet up. They dont appear to lose interest, but it starts to wear me out.
So from what I understand, the best way to circumvent this is to:
1) same day date
2) keep meeting women
3) mix up texts with phone calls
I also usually try to "punish" the behavior by showing less interest each time we have to reschedule.
As an example, I made a plan with dog walking girl to meet today for drinks, but then she said:
Her: "Hi! No probably not today".
Me: "no worries - crazy snow" (it started snowing today).
Her: "just working"
Me: "ah. dont freeze your butt off ("yikes" emoji?) "
Her: "Oh I am haha"
Me: "its too nice for that (tounge sticking out emoji) "
Her: "Haha"
Me: "well Im pretty busy next week, but stay in touch~"
Her: "Definitely"
She honestly responds pretty damn quick to my texts (less than a minute). So I dont think its a lack of interest. I also am legitamately busy next week, so Im not just playing around.
Maybe Im not exciting them enough before exchanging numbers to go on the date and I need to be more polarizing? Im not sure.
Any ideas? Tips and advice are also very welcome!
NBW