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So I recently matched with a very hot girl on Tinder, a 9 or 10 out of 10 based on her pics. I even thought the profile might be fake because the pics looked too professional (I learned later she works part time as a model). I talked with the girl and the conversation went well. I bounced her off Tinder and we began chatting on another app. We made plans to meet up. She flaked. When she said she wasn't coming for a reason that sounded like BS, I just said okay. I messaged her the next day, and again to my surprise, she agreed to meet up.
Honestly, I was nervous. I had never dated such a hot girl before. I expected the date would not go well, and I'd just chalk it up to experience and try to learn something from it. Contrary to my expectations, the date went very well. There was definite attraction there, and I didn't even have to create it as there was quite a bit of compatibility between us in terms of personality and we had a lot in common. I'm not completely crediting my great game. My game is okay. The girl's personality was a little weird, and I think she's used to every guy in the universe hitting on her, but when they start talking the guys probably quickly get lost. On that level we connected. We hit a couple different bars and stayed and talked until everyone else in both bars left. We made out. I tried to get her to go back to my place, but she didn't want to go. Well, that's fine, it was Thursday night and it was late. We briefly talked about meeting up the next day and went home in separate cabs.
The next day, the girl ghosted me. I imagined dating such a hot girl would ultimately be a learning experience and I decided I'd try to take it as an ego boost even if it went badly. I'm generally good at taking things in stride, but the fact that it went so well and then the girl just disappeared and stopped responding to my texts is really messing with my head. What do you guys think happened? The following possibilities occur to me:
- This is normal with hot girls, and I just don't know that because I lack experience with 9s and 10s.
- I can look back and identify a few places where my game was not 100% on. For instance, after the first bar closed, I didn't take the lead in moving to the other and let the girl do it. In my defense, I was only visiting the city and didn't know where to go late on a Thursday night, but I probably could have been more assertive.
- This was so close to turning into a hookup that the girl realized it, started thinking, and ghosted me so as not to feel like a slut as a hookup may have resulted from the next date.
- The girl started thinking about the fact that I was just in her city on vacation, leading to the same result as above.
This was a very frustrating experience, but I'm determined to learn something from it. Any thoughts?
Honestly, I was nervous. I had never dated such a hot girl before. I expected the date would not go well, and I'd just chalk it up to experience and try to learn something from it. Contrary to my expectations, the date went very well. There was definite attraction there, and I didn't even have to create it as there was quite a bit of compatibility between us in terms of personality and we had a lot in common. I'm not completely crediting my great game. My game is okay. The girl's personality was a little weird, and I think she's used to every guy in the universe hitting on her, but when they start talking the guys probably quickly get lost. On that level we connected. We hit a couple different bars and stayed and talked until everyone else in both bars left. We made out. I tried to get her to go back to my place, but she didn't want to go. Well, that's fine, it was Thursday night and it was late. We briefly talked about meeting up the next day and went home in separate cabs.
The next day, the girl ghosted me. I imagined dating such a hot girl would ultimately be a learning experience and I decided I'd try to take it as an ego boost even if it went badly. I'm generally good at taking things in stride, but the fact that it went so well and then the girl just disappeared and stopped responding to my texts is really messing with my head. What do you guys think happened? The following possibilities occur to me:
- This is normal with hot girls, and I just don't know that because I lack experience with 9s and 10s.
- I can look back and identify a few places where my game was not 100% on. For instance, after the first bar closed, I didn't take the lead in moving to the other and let the girl do it. In my defense, I was only visiting the city and didn't know where to go late on a Thursday night, but I probably could have been more assertive.
- This was so close to turning into a hookup that the girl realized it, started thinking, and ghosted me so as not to feel like a slut as a hookup may have resulted from the next date.
- The girl started thinking about the fact that I was just in her city on vacation, leading to the same result as above.
This was a very frustrating experience, but I'm determined to learn something from it. Any thoughts?
