Went on a date with a girl who I cold approached few days ago. This girl is a college student. During texting girls seems very interested, even asked me a few questions about myself. We went to starbucks for coffee. At the counter when buying our drinks, we chatted a while, then girl asked me where we going after coffee. I said we can go to see the city skyline, she said ok. After buying our drinks, I went to pick a good place where I can sit with her side-by-side, so that it's easier to do physicals escalation. We talked some normal topics, such as how's she was doing her assignment lately, how she got help from. She mentioned that she usually got help from her ex-boyfriend who is also studying the same course, but now they are broken up. I asked about some question related to this, such as how she met her ex etc. I also asked how many guys she been in a relationship before, she say she didn't count, probably less than 20. I say I prefer girls who have experienced, so that I don't have to teach.
So far the girl is quite positive during the date. I mentioned that I have one long-term girlfriend, and two other girls who I didn't consider as girlfriend but still hang out. The girl asked if it's something like hooking up? Since this girl is very young and have mingled with a lot of guys, I assume she is okay with things like hooking up etc, so I said yes. The girl expression changed a bit to not so cherish from here onward. I touched her hair and asked about her hair dye and such. After that, I then direct the topic to sports. I asked if she play any sports, she said no, most of the time she just stay at home and play video games, but long time ago she did dancing. I said I like girls who dance or do a bit of sports, because usually their body figure won't be too bad, such as yoga girls have nice butt. She say she don't have nice butt. We then talked about other topics. I tried to direct the topic to sex topic, but felt the vibe is a bit off and girl seemed not invested into our conversation compared to beginning, so I continued talked about normal topics.
At this point, girl ask if we are going anywhere now, cause she might going to meet someone soon. I asked what time she going to meet the person. She say it's up to our schedule, she can cancel meeting the person whenever she wants. I then say we can visit a hill to see the city skyline. She looks a bit uninterested, I then say we can go to a garden nearby my house. She said okay. We then walked to the car park. During this time, I tried to hold her hand but she refused, saying she doesn't know me yet. I then ignore calmly and we continued walking towards my car. Since she refused to hold hand, I assume that it's not a good time to go to my house, so I decided to visit the hill for city skyline. In the car, she was very quiet and not so 'invested' into our conversation compared to beginning, so I initiate the conversation, but it's just normal topics.
At the hill, I asked if she usually goes out to places like this. She said no, she don't usually enjoy places like this, just stay home play video games. She also said she rarely do any travelling. We stayed at the hill for only about 5 minutes. Seeing that she was bit bored, I asked if she wanted to come to my place and relax a while. She said no need. I then assume it's not a good time to take her home tonight, so I drive her back to the shopping mall where we met earlier, since she needed to take the subway there. Before leaving my car to take the subway, I did a small compliance test by telling her to text me after she got home, but she never texted, so I know I will have no chance with this girl and will drop her.
But the most frustrating thing about this date is not that I lose this girl, it's that I am not able to conclude where I did wrong, which means I learned nothing from this date. Hopefully someone is provide some advice on this.
So far the girl is quite positive during the date. I mentioned that I have one long-term girlfriend, and two other girls who I didn't consider as girlfriend but still hang out. The girl asked if it's something like hooking up? Since this girl is very young and have mingled with a lot of guys, I assume she is okay with things like hooking up etc, so I said yes. The girl expression changed a bit to not so cherish from here onward. I touched her hair and asked about her hair dye and such. After that, I then direct the topic to sports. I asked if she play any sports, she said no, most of the time she just stay at home and play video games, but long time ago she did dancing. I said I like girls who dance or do a bit of sports, because usually their body figure won't be too bad, such as yoga girls have nice butt. She say she don't have nice butt. We then talked about other topics. I tried to direct the topic to sex topic, but felt the vibe is a bit off and girl seemed not invested into our conversation compared to beginning, so I continued talked about normal topics.
At this point, girl ask if we are going anywhere now, cause she might going to meet someone soon. I asked what time she going to meet the person. She say it's up to our schedule, she can cancel meeting the person whenever she wants. I then say we can visit a hill to see the city skyline. She looks a bit uninterested, I then say we can go to a garden nearby my house. She said okay. We then walked to the car park. During this time, I tried to hold her hand but she refused, saying she doesn't know me yet. I then ignore calmly and we continued walking towards my car. Since she refused to hold hand, I assume that it's not a good time to go to my house, so I decided to visit the hill for city skyline. In the car, she was very quiet and not so 'invested' into our conversation compared to beginning, so I initiate the conversation, but it's just normal topics.
At the hill, I asked if she usually goes out to places like this. She said no, she don't usually enjoy places like this, just stay home play video games. She also said she rarely do any travelling. We stayed at the hill for only about 5 minutes. Seeing that she was bit bored, I asked if she wanted to come to my place and relax a while. She said no need. I then assume it's not a good time to take her home tonight, so I drive her back to the shopping mall where we met earlier, since she needed to take the subway there. Before leaving my car to take the subway, I did a small compliance test by telling her to text me after she got home, but she never texted, so I know I will have no chance with this girl and will drop her.
But the most frustrating thing about this date is not that I lose this girl, it's that I am not able to conclude where I did wrong, which means I learned nothing from this date. Hopefully someone is provide some advice on this.
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