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Hi guys,
had a bad date, would love if some of u could point out my key mistakes in this date, here is the date report.
* she removed my no from her contacts (but not blocked)* (her profile pic was now invisible to me from b4
* I still text her that day *
me: had a good day today , hope you reached home safe.
* no response *
had a bad date, would love if some of u could point out my key mistakes in this date, here is the date report.
kiss attempt from this point*meet at venue*
me: hey how are you
she: I am good thanks, *shake hands* we walk outside
me: so is this place close to your home
she: yeah it's nearby I live in xyz place
me: okay that's pretty close
she: yeah
* we are walking in the shopping district*
me: so you must come very often than right , being so close to this place
she: noo, not really I don't go out that much
me: ohh okay.
she: yeah , where do you live
me: i live in abc palce
she: ohh okay , so that's why you wanted to meet at efg place
because it's close to your place
me: lol yeah, I thought you live there as well, because you came to work there
she: no , the place is far from my home
me: okaay, so travel long dist for work
she: yeah
me: how do you find the place so though, you like working there
she: I mean it's okay, there is some office poliitics over there
I try to ignore it, it's fine if people want to spread rumours or
talk behind my back that's how they wish to live, I go about my business.
me: I see so where did you choose this place thought,
she: I don't know I gave a copule of interview at some places, and I thought this
was the best one, I gave an intervewi here as well
me: near this place, she : yeah, me: okay
me: the first time you give interview , it's pretty tought right, I rember I was pretty nervous and just had some bad ones and then I got more comfortable and things got better.
she: yeahh exactly , I was also pretty nervous in my first one, I actually just blanked out I could not remember what to say, they were asking some difficult questions and I had gone prepared but I just blanked out.
me: lol, yeah that happens. so after that you had better ones
she: yeah after that I gave some other interviews and got selected , I got offer from a few places
but I chose to join this place. me: okay
* we walk into a mcdonalds order some food and then I tell her lets go to the park *
* we take the food with us and are walking to the park *
me: so you have any sibblings
she: yeah I have a sister and a brother, I am the youngest.
me: okay and how is your bond are you fighitng all the time
she: yeahh kind of , no animosty though we're just teasing and
pulling each others legs
me: cool, so are you the most most matured out of them
she: yeahh, my sister she is older to me but she behabes complelty
like a kid all the time, I have to be snesible one
me: reallly how so ? she : (mentioned some incident) me: okayy
me: and what about your brother? she: he is studing medicine he is going to
be a doctor. me: okay so he is the family doctor then, he advises wheneevr
you get sick . she: yeah sometimes
me: it's very intersting all 3 of you have such diff career mideicne, accountant,enginerr
that seems like dream career roster for your parents
she: yeah we kind of choose very diff work paths
me: an engineer son and doctor girl , that's like the basic documentation for famillies in
this country
she: yeahh
me: it's nice though that you have a good bond with your sibblings, it can be rare. In some
families there can be so much animosity.
she: yeah I have seen that too, too much fighting or people not speaking to one another
me: yeahh like this business tycoon in the news asd, and the feud with his brother
she: yeahh but that's kind of diff, that seems more about power and corruption
me: so is your mother very strict
she: yeah she is kind of strick in terms of academics, very disciplined oritned
me: okay so you'r not that close
she: No she is very caring as well she is just strict for studies , I think few days ago when I was not well she would keep calling me to ask about my health and she even ordered a lot of snacks for me
me: snacks for you, I mean aren't you suppposed to eat healthy when you'r sick
she: yeah I know but still she order lot of snacks for me so I feel good.
me: so you're living alone here
she: no I am living here with my aunt and uncle over here
me: okay I see.
me: okay and what about your father is he also strict
she: no he is bit lieneint and easy going ,
me: cool, you know I had friend whose parents were pretty strict he also used to live with his aunt and uncle and they would make him stand in the sun if he did not score well in his tests, they used to do that to make him stronger and set high standards.
she: I don't think that's very healthy parentsing
me: yeah I know, it's just people have different parenting sstyles
she: I think someone who comes from that kind of ubringing would eaither be fearless not caring about anything or very scared and low in confidence
* we reach the park and sit there *
me: yeah proably, so did you always wanted to do this ca
she: yeah I mean I was looking to pursue this , and I had to give this exam which was pretty hard
me: yeah those exams can be very challenging
she: I actually didn't make it in my first attempt and fell few points off the qualification score,
me: really ? that must be hard
she: I mean I was pretty bummed, and my mother's reaction was also pretty weird. She just consoled me and encourage me to try again
me: so how is that weird, don't you want to be encouraged when you fail at something
she: it's not just that , I mean she didn't say anything. I was expecting her to object, tell me how could I not clear the test, this is not the kind of standard you have to set for yourself , you need to work harder. She just didnt' say any of this. atelast say something
don't just be nonchalant about it
me: lol , so you want the hard treatment from your mother.
she: it's not that I just wanted her to atleas say something.
me: I see, so what were you doing before the exams
she: I don't know I think I pretty much wasted the entire year, I actually desered the low test scores. I would you just sleep till late morning lazing around. just watching netflix, movies
wasting time.
me: okay like what on netflix, what are your favourite shows
she: I like wathcing sitocmes, I really like brookly99 ( really liked talking abt this)
that's very funny
me: okay I have heard of that show , it's about cops right
she: yeah, it's very funny
me: okay, what else what kind of moveis do you like
she: umm movies I like avengers, harry potter stuff like that
me: okay so you saw lot of moveis and tv shows, you didn't go out much
she: no I would jut laze around at home , that's how I wasted the whole year ( laughing slightly)
me: okay so what happened after that, how did you clear the exams again
she: i just started studying again and then 3 or 4 months later I scored much higher and got selected
me: so that's pretty good then, you bounced back form faliure.
she: yeah
me: okay so tell me what kind of people do you usually like?
she: what do you mean ?
me: I mean you know like some people like to surround themselves with creative people , some with thougtfull people
she: I don't think you should be that specific with what kind of people you surround yourself. I just like to be friends with people regardless of their nature and what they have. I don't think I would decide these are people that are creatiev so they would be around me. I am just freinds with people that I am and accept them that way
me: okay cool . so do you have any close freinds right now, who is your best freinds
me: yeahh , that's pretty cool . what about your best freind in school. you had any
she: in school yeah there was girl in high school we were pretty close
me: okay , so what's your best memory with her
she: my best memory * starts thinking deeply*
she: there was this one time I was hurt and I got a wound on my leg , and my laces were open . she was with me and she tied my laces. I don't like to ask people to do that but she did it and cared for and that was pretty sweet.
me: okay that's nice.
* some silence *
she: so tell me about yourself , now
me: yeah ask me , what do you wanna know
she: anything
me: I mean my family is from moutain town xyz, most of my family is from there. I have been born and brought up in this city and I like doing creative stuff like writing , making art
she: okayy
*some silence*
me: okay so tell me what's something in your personality you're really gratefull to god having given you
she: umm that I can understand people and waht they are feeling and their emotions
me: okay so seems like you have a lot of feeling intellteigence
she: yeah I would say I am pretty emotionally intelligent.
me: I see. so what do you really like doing that makes you happy
she: generally I would say just going to work , working makes me happy on weekends I would rest , sometime have some plans with friends and go out.
me: working makes you happy?
she: yeah I mean you when you're working, having projectds to do completing them that's good.
me: so you like having a sense of resonlbilty and like feeling competent.
she: yeah
me: what about travelling , what's your dream destination you would like to visit
she: dream destination, I would say edinburge
me: edinbrugh, why that palce why not usa or some place like that
she: becuase those places are very metropoitan, and edinbrugh is not that aritifical
me: so because it's historical and has castles stuffl ike that
she: yeah me : okay I figured, maybe also cause your fav movie is harry potter that can be a conneciton too
she: yeah
me: okay so tell me what was the last good surpise you had
she: last good surprise.. ( thining)
me: yeah she : on friday ( starts smiling )
she: no I mean not you
me: yeahh I knew it it was meeting me , the real truth comes out
she: laugsht a little , no I mean that was a good surpise as well but
one friday I was pretty upset beacuse of some issue at work the previous day
me: okay
she: then I came at work , and I have this close freind of mine he asked me what's up . I told him nothing all good, and he just said, don't screw with me, it's all over your face. something happened you're not in a good mood today tell me what's up. so I really liked that he could udnerstand me without even me saying anything and so these kinds of friendships are rare. where you get freinds like that
me: okay , that's a pretty good freind. what's his name
she: his name is max, yeah and we have pretty good bond, that was good surprise he could understnad me very well.
me: nice. so what do you want to do in future, do you want to open up your accountancy firm
she: no I don't want my own firm. I want to work in investment banking at mckinesey
me: that's a pretty good place, must be hard getting a job there
she: yeah it's pretty difficult but yes I would like to work in investemnt banking . but it some time off , a bit later.
me: okay so what do you think about manifestation do you believe in it?
she: I don't know, what do you think
me: I mean I have seen a lot of people who wrote down their dreams and then years later it came true. so maybge it works. I haven't had any personal experinc like that . what do you believe , like we get thigns begcuase our actoins
she: yeah I would say I jsut prepare for things and what in my fate will be there .
me: hmm you have a philosphers mind , deep thinker
she: smiling
me: what realaxes you usually or calms you
she: I don't know I would say just going to work , working comlpeting my work
me: that realxes you, you enjoy that, why
she: I don't know just going every day having stuff to work on
me: so you like having a sense of responilibity and routine
she: yeah
me: okay hey I think I have to go meet a friend in few minutes, but before that I have to pick up some errands at a shop nearby , come with me
she: okay
me: we walk to the shop ( it's a few blocks away on the 2nd floor of a buildling )
*while walking *
me: so how is it living with your aunt and uncle , away from home
she: I mean it's fine , usually pepole are a bit uncomfortable with peole overstaying at
thier homes , but my aunt and uncle are good with it .
me: so you have a good relatoinship
she: yeah , it's pretty good. my sister also lives with me .
me: okay
* we walk up to the shop walkign up the stairs which are quite empty , I inqurei something with the desk manager (make up some suff )
me: hey I am done here, lets head go now
she: okay
* as we are coming down I ask her to see her glasses*
me: hey let me wear those , i am going to look pretty smart in those
she: I won't be able to see very clearly
me: I will give it back
* I wear her glasses and start walking ahead while we are coming down the stairs*
she is smiling , heyy give my glasses back . I won't be able to see
me: okay
( while we are on the stairs and I am bit ahead I stop and she comes down to take her glasses)
me: here and as I hand it over to her
me: I move close to kiss her
she: * moves from smiling to surprise a little bit * umm uhh
she: * dodges to the right and moveds away*
she: * points a finger at me* * neutral voice tone* you know you should ask first
me: I just keep a smiling face , okay
* there is awkawrd silence now as we walk out of the buldling together*
( I don't know what to say or do now - apologize, adresss the situation, ignore it , or act as if nothing happened and converse )
( my read of her smiling , conversing with me and complying made me feel her interest level was high enough that she would be okay with the kiss but I guess my signal reading was off )
me: ( I choose the options of acting as if nothing happened and talking to her to hopefully diffuse this awakard tension we have now between us )
me: from her onwards I talk about if she has any interest in sports, what sports she plays like or watches, about what her room is like, the stuff toys she has, some of her friends
( we talked about all this with a very clear awkard tension underneath where it was clear I was trying to put that kiss debacle off and clear her mind from that with this talking
but it was not working the awkardness was there )
I bid her goodbye warmly and say I am getting late now , gotta meet my freind
we say our goodbye
* she removed my no from her contacts (but not blocked)* (her profile pic was now invisible to me from b4
* I still text her that day *
me: had a good day today , hope you reached home safe.
* no response *
