Girl leaves me with bill

[Rain]

Hey guys,

Went on a date, she "got a ph call from friend and had to leave" haha whatever.... so she hugged then suggested another meet and then left and walked out without paying for her drink.

I talked to bartender and asked if that happens often, he said yes or nodded, I said usually the guy pays right? He nodded.

So, I'm angry at myself for being a pussy and not saying hey where are you going you haven't paid, that's the avoid conflict/shyness in me. Maybe a little inexperience as I wasn't sure if shed walk to the payment part or walk passed she walked passed it. Instead of doing something I just let it happen? didnt jump out of my seat and chase her down?

So well maybe I can have this situation happen again and try and do the right thing next time. Similar issue with missing approaches.

So now what do I do with this woman.... do I want to see her again after this? Should I get a second date, have a drink again, and then say I need the bathroom then walk out?
Should I get her into bed and smack her ass bdsm style? That's like revenge sex or what would that be called? I dunno if I really want that?......... whats my what do I do here just forget it? Just really really made me mad I walked into the park and yelled.

 

[readjusting]

Rain,
It happened sometimes.
It’s good that you get a girl on a date. But the attraction had already lost, I suggest you drop the girl right away.
If you can get a girl on a date, surely you can get another one.

 

[Fuck This]

If a girl isn't worth picking up the tab for she isn't worth seeing again. She got a "bail out call" Delete her number and move on.

 

[HereNthere]

Yup. It was an excuse to leave. Unless she floated some specific offer to meet up again, which it sounds like she didn't.

I take it was a first date? The guy always has to pay that. He just does. The good news is that the guy controls the venue so don't be taking iffy first dates anywhere expensive. I mean it was only one drink? Eat the 7-13 bucks, dude.

Here's my policy on her reaction to you paying:

A "thank you"- Mandatory. If she doesn't do this, end the date and drop her.

Token offer to split- She makes an offer to split, but quickly relents and allows you. This is the best reaction. She's polite enough to at least offer (bad idea to take her up on it for first date), but is comfortable enough feeling like you're taking care of her. Must be followed by a "thank you".

No offer to split- Not good news. She's probably used to guys paying and probably feels owed it. Red flag that she might just be using dates as free drinks/dinner/esteem boosters. Not quite a deal breaker, but don't invite her out to anything expensive in the future until you're sure. (my personal rule is never take her out to dinner until you've banged, and ignore all suggestions of dinner from her; you weed out SO many users who were just out for a free fancy dinner)

Puts her foot down to split- If she's adamant on splitting and won't take "no" for an answer, that's a deal breaker. She's either a true believer feminist, not feeling you at all (does not want to feel like she owes you anything), a control freak, or all three. Even if she agrees to a future date, she's going to turn everything into a control issue and power struggle. Bail out.

 

[Marty]

I am always a bit baffled by posts like this, but then I remember that when I was young I was quite cheeky too, often quietly allowing “rich” women (as I perceived them) to pay for my food etc.

I think that with the mellowing of age, one becomes less entitled and understands that if one wants to take women out, one has to pay for it, regardless of the “outcome” as some here would have it.

 

[Marcellus]

What the hell are you guys all talking about?

Attraction already lost? How? We don't even know the context for what happened.

If she's not worth picking up the tab for that doesn't mean she isn't worth seeing again. Not even in the slightest.

"The guy always has to pay for the first date, he just does." I 100% disagree with that. If you don't want to pay for a girls food/drinks then don't do it.

No for OP,

Don't do any of the stuff you were thinking about, it's all just childish and there's no need for it. Except for the spanking, that's hot.

All you have to do is bring how you thought it was rude what she did in a calm and non aggressive way next time you see her and then move forward from there or you can just delete her number of you don't want to see her again

-M

 

[foggy]

When you and a girl are about to part ways, and she says something like, "we'll hang out again sometime." It generally means you won't be seeing her again.