Girl started scolding and preaching when approached in coffee shop

[Deeppua]

Hi guys,
I'll try to keep this short and simple.
Yesterday I was sitting in Starbucks and noticed a girl sitting from a distance. She was working on her laptop and I went up to her and said:
Me: You have a very dreamy look, with a smirk.
She: Just fuck off! Stop approaching strangers and try to hit on girls. I'm busy and don't bother me. Don't do this again and don't do this to anyone else. Just fuck off!
She had a very angry look on her face and tried to raise her voice as she spoke to me. I was conscious if people were noticing me cos I go to this Starbucks quite often. I didn't say a word and left.

In the past I've approached girls who appeared busy, doing something on their phone or laptop or reading a book and they'd either engage in the conversation or just get back to what they were doing after my opener. I've made a few friends and I've got few numbers sometimes and sometimes I've even went on instant dates. What was wrong here? What could I've done so that it doesn't happen again?

 

[JacobPalmer]

Get better fundamentals - you think this girl would say this if her dream guy came up and approached her? Nope.

 

[Indian Race Troll (IRT)]

Get better fundamentals - you think this girl would say this if her dream guy came up and approached her? Nope.

If you have no idea of what you are talking about, just be quiet and let the experts preach. Seriously, the one line posts telling a guy to "just" do something add no value at all and are a drag. Some people are better off sitting on the sidelines and learning than giving advice at all, you become a drag to this place.

In terms of OP's statements.

1. You came on too strong and too direct in a coffee shop with others probably watching

2. She probably saw you looking at other girls and thought she was another lay count

3. She probably saw you flirting with or approaching other girls

4. She was likely just a bitch having a bad day and the smile was more malicious

 

[JacobPalmer]

If you have no idea of what you are talking about, just be quiet and let the experts preach. Seriously, the one line posts telling a guy to "just" do something add no value at all and are a drag. Some people are better off sitting on the sidelines and learning than giving advice at all, you become a drag to this place.

That's a fair statement, I'll elaborate more from now on and provide reasoning behind my statements. I merely stated to work on fundamentals and didn't elaborate because that can easily be looked up on GC.

As for giving a more elaborate answer to the OP:

It was most likely a combination of her being stressed out/having a bad day and your opener didn't quite work how you thought it would. It could have been that you thought it was a smirk, but really the smirk came off as creepy or something (I don't know I wasn't there). Also, I'm not sure how she's supposed to respond to the "You have a very dreamy look" opener. It doesn't quite come off as a compliment and it's a bit confusing. And as Oh Pry said, you probably came on a bit too strong. There's also a possibility that she just didn't find you attractive, and so she wanted the interaction to end. But yes, blowing up at you like that was a bit extreme.

 

[Fuck This]

She saw through your Bullshit line and called you on it. You deserved the smackdown. You completely missed all her signals that she didn't want to be bothered but you did anyway. Oh Pry expressed what I'm saying more eloquently.

Next time look for an IOI before you approach.

 

[DarkKnight]

Brother it is not always your fault. You cannot blame yourself for everything. If your previous approaches went well you should not take personal the issues of a different person. Maybe she was in a bad mood, or maybe she is a bitch. Who knows?

If your overall approaches go well don't take it personal and dont get demotivated. However if you regularly get such reactions, which I assume you don't, you have some work cut out for you.

I also have once in a blue moon a girl who overreacts and behaves like a moron, but usually girls are friendly or even delighted. I'm not going to let myself be policed by some random person and I recommend you don't either.

 

[trashKENNUT]

Just fuck off! Stop approaching strangers and try to hit on girls. I'm busy and don't bother me. Don't do this again and don't do this to anyone else. Just fuck off

Manipulation This is why Zac feels he needs to trash women online #genderequality
p.s: Ladies, you got to handle this trashy comments. And fuck you and your smelly ass.

Brother, take some advice here, but don't worry about it. I experience this enough, a variation of this to know it's manipulation.

ZAc

 

[sumwunimetonce]

OWTCH, that is a motherf*cking burn, sorry bro.

She was probably on her period, I recently had some hormone imbalance and it fucks you up big time.

But you could be a little more selective about your targets, I find there are more than enough hot women on the street alone not on the phone to approach. Maybe with women who are clearly busy eye contact, a smile, a gesture to show you are approaching ... In salsa dancing there is lots of subtle communication of this kind (do not bother learning it for this, I mention as its interesting)

It probably is fundamentals but you I guess you know that and are working on it.

You could just switch to either a direct compliment opener, she would probably have still gone full dragon on you but you would look better.