Girls talking shit

[Smiling_Stray]

So the end of the month is coming up and I started it with the goal of 100 approaches that didn't get a cold shoulder to get over my approach anxiety since I'm just getting back out there after a long break and a lot of trouble with girls (check out my previous posts if you want that story).Well, I quickly realized 20 would be more likely so here I am now with just 7 approaches and the most recent one went as smooth as all hell. (Or so I thought)

Here's basically what happened: I was waiting on campus (it's a community college campus) in the cafeteria after school for my ride to come and pick me up since I can't drive yet when I see this just average looking girl walk in glance at me then begin walking around the cafeteria stopping and looking at signs and stuff in there. Eventually I realize she's giving me opportunities to approach. So I got up and began walking in her direction to look at something else as you do only to get cold feet and breeze right past her and walk out. A few minutes later, I found myself waiting for my ride outside instead only to look over and see that very same girl just sitting on the bench waiting for someone to pick her up as well so I got up and tried again. Only this time, I actually pulled it off. As I was walking by I did the sudden notice pre open and said
"Hey, you where in the cafeteria a second ago right?"
Her: "yeah"
Me: "Are you stalking me ,lady!? (Joking)"
Her: "No"
Me: "I was joking"
Her: (laughs)
Me: "you mind if I take a seat?" (Referring to the empty space on the bench next to her)
Her: "Sure!"
(Conversation goes on, blah blah blah)
I can't really remember the entire conversation as it had happened about a week ago but I remember it was a your average nice little conversation (conversation of common interest then deep dived) she always laughed when I made a joke, even a bad one! Eventually her ride came and I wasn't really all too interested in any further interactions with her since she was barely average and not really what I was looking for so I didn't bother asking for her number so I just said I'd see her around and she said the same back to me.

Two days later, I saw her walking by and I just waved and she gave me a weird look (I wasn't entirely sure it was her, she has more look alikes on campus than you'd think). Then come today, I was reading in one of the lobbies on campus and I saw a girl walk by who seemed cute out of the corner of my eye, I looked up only to find it was her again. A minute later she walks by again this time giving me a cold stair (I was using peripheral vision, here but I could still tell).
So I finished my chapter and got up to go somewhere else to set up camp where I knew there would be more people walking by or stopping at that would give me a chance to approach. Sure enough, she walks by again (still giving me this cold stair). So then I go down to the cafeteria to hang out with a group of guys I approached earlier in the month to just get used to meeting people again, turns out she knows them because she's hanging out in the back of cafeteria just talking to one of them as they walked by. So then at that point I figure fuck it, let's just go talk to her. But I turn around and see she's moved again.

I figured she'd go outside because that's where I was talking about going to play some football with the guys in the parking lot. Sure enough, I walk around the corner of the front doors to the parking lot and there's the guys playing football and in my path is this same fucking girl talking to two other guys and right as I walk by they look up at me (not knowing me) and I can clearly hear her talking about how I approached her that day a week ago! She was quoting what I said word for word and in response one of the guys says "yeah, that's weird." Nothing really happened after that, I just played the damn game of football and avoided her the best I could. But it's just fucking annoying, like this was a damn week ago. Get over it. If this is how it always is, I'm having serious doubts about approaching anymore until I'm old enough to go to clubs and bars because I know it's a game of probability but damn, you get the cold shoulder way more often than not. I don't exactly want to be the topic of a conversation like that a week after just another average approach that may have not been as great as it could have been.

 

[NealIRC]

So moral of the lesson learned, you're not supposed to approach a girl and make it seem like she's the 1 chasing after you.

If you saw a girl laying out sunning in bikinis, and you saw a guy 20 feet away take a picture of her, and then left, you likely would use that as an opener. You'd try to wake her up and go "Scuse me, that guy over that, he jus took a picture of you."

And you're not doing this to bring the other guy down so much as to bring yourself up.

Edit: and funny how this thread is titled "Girls talking shit" when it's a relay of a prior conversation.

 

[Smiling_Stray]

So moral of the lesson learned, you're not supposed to approach a girl and make it seem like she's the 1 chasing after you.

I was pissed when I wrote this and honestly I took a step back and took a look at what happened and I think I know (we'll come back to that in a sec). Although that entire sentence makes no sense (Don't mind me playing the role of the skeptic here) because I've been reading most of what this cite has to offer since I was kid (granted, I just got back from picking up the pieces of a shitty situation and a hellish ex during my own break from this) and I've never heard this before. Would you mind leaving a source to the page or article? Girls chase, that's the name of this cite and that's been expressed by Chase as a goal to reach in a good amount of his articles. You want her to chase you, not the other way around.

Maybe I misunderstood something but in that case, just a little clarification would be helpful.

If you saw a girl laying out sunning in bikinis, and you saw a guy 20 feet away take a picture of her, and then left, you likely would use that as an opener. You'd try to wake her up and go "Scuse me, that guy over that, he jus took a picture of you."

And you're not doing this to bring the other guy down so much as to bring yourself up.

Yeah, you could use this as an opener, so long as you're not openly putting the other guy down. The opposite, helping a guy build himself up rather than tearing him down directly (i mean when talking to him or competing, just throwing out information as food for thought really).

Edit: and funny how this thread is titled "Girls talking shit" when it's a relay of a prior conversation.

XP thanks for the pointers bro but the context and point of this thread is the girl I had approached was talking shit about it later and how I'd prefer not to continue approaching if every girl is going to do this (although it's only happened just this once as far as I can remember). The conversation was included in the relay in the general section as a way of giving context and any necessary addition information. So the title is fairly fitting in my own opinion.

Honestly man, I'm still a little pissed by this but I've cooled down enough to understand what happened. I tried not to put too much of the anger out on ya in this reply . (If so, no hard feelings) Anyways, I gotta run for now but I'll get back to this in a few with what I came up with and I'll even leave a link for the article I think I learned this from a while back when I was taking notes on and memorizing the articles.

 

[Fuck This]

I've experienced women who initiate flirting with me, and I might return it a little bit. If I decide I'm not interested and don't pursue a number, they can get a little pissy. They take it personally and will sometimes paint you as the bad guy. Usually this is to make some other guy "white knight" to her. I'm experiencing that with a woman online badmouthing me in an online group, and basically showing me just how a scorned woman can try to ruin your reputation. Basically they create drama for attention.

Now your age group is as fucked up in drama creation as any I've seen. But it is important to not let that shit get to you and mess with your head. I've been fortunate to have a core group of supportive friends who reassure me that I'm in the right place in my head and career and love life. If you keep your eye on your goals, the right people are attracted to you and stuff falls in your lap.

 

[Smiling_Stray]

I've experienced women who initiate flirting with me, and I might return it a little bit. If I decide I'm not interested and don't pursue a number, they can get a little pissy. They take it personally and will sometimes paint you as the bad guy. Usually this is to make some other guy "white knight" to her. I'm experiencing that with a woman online badmouthing me in an online group, and basically showing me just how a scorned woman can try to ruin your reputation. Basically they create drama for attention.

Now your age group is as fucked up in drama creation as any I've seen. But it is important to not let that shit get to you and mess with your head. I've been fortunate to have a core group of supportive friends who reassure me that I'm in the right place in my head and career and love life. If you keep your eye on your goals, the right people are attracted to you and stuff falls in your lap.

Thanks, for the advice that's basically what I came up with a while back (or at least I think). I've been pretty busy with midterms and practicing driving lately so I haven't had the time to get back to this until now (we're on "Spring Break" which is honestly more like winter break) so I can't remember what it was exactly what I came up with but that sounds a lot like what I do remember thinking to myself at some point in time earlier. However I didn't consider having a supportive group of friends for things like this. I'm just curious but are they also GC readers (or at least aware of it)? Because I do have a supportive group of friends, they just haven't really shown much interest in GC content (they're confident they don't need it and aren't too big on reading) so I don't go to them too much for things like this.

P.S. I might just quote you on our age group being the drama queens of the century, it's very true from what I've seen and even what I did before reading GC (admittedly, sometimes I still slip up every here and there with small things. No idea why, I think we just take things way too personally most of the time).

 

[Smiling_Stray]

So moral of the lesson learned, you're not supposed to approach a girl and make it seem like she's the 1 chasing after you.

If you saw a girl laying out sunning in bikinis, and you saw a guy 20 feet away take a picture of her, and then left, you likely would use that as an opener. You'd try to wake her up and go "Scuse me, that guy over that, he jus took a picture of you."

And you're not doing this to bring the other guy down so much as to bring yourself up.

Edit: and funny how this thread is titled "Girls talking shit" when it's a relay of a prior conversation.

Hey NealIRC, so it seems like Fuck This beat me to the punch on what I got out of the whole thing with some additional solid advice for me but I'll leave a link to the articles I think was considering leaving for ya (They're kinda basic, but I believe it covers most of what I said and some more so it's definitely worth the read if you have the time and if you already read them a little review never hurts.).

Here's the links:
https://www.girlschase.com/how-to-get-a-girl

https://www.girlschase.com/content/how- ... stereotype