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Hi everyone!
I am quite new here compared to a lot of the masters here in this forum. I have read Chase's eBook "How to Make Girls Chase" and have been reading on the forum for the last year or so, but this is my first time posting. A little bit of background about myself:
Okay, so moving on to the main point of this thread. According to classmates, I am a very good presenter and speaker, and I can randomly strike up a conversation with people that I have just met which is apparently horrifying thing for engineers. (Although I do take this with a grain of salt because I have seen amazing speakers before, so feedback from engineers on social fundamentals does not seem like the most accurate source for me).
When I meet a girl, I usually don't have a problem conversing with her. Sometimes I feel like I am getting too much into the conversation and things are just flowing and I am not really controlling it. All the girls that I have met, even after we have good conversations, just ended up being platonic. In all of the conversations, I was the only one initiating touch and while there was no negative reactions, the touching is not reciprocated. I do admit that the conversations that I usually have are not on sexually charged topics. And I do understand that you have to move to sexual topics to get her in the mood, but how can you do that when compliments and touch are not reciprocated? I feel like it is really weird to ask a question (to open a new conversation thread) on a sexual topic just because I never had that feeling that the girl is primed and ready to move on?
So, at this stage, I'm just a bit confused. Am I not getting girls physically attracted because my body fundamentals are too low? Or is it because I'm doing something wrong in my conversations - maybe giving off too much off a "nice guy" vibe and not a "cool sexy man"?
Looking forward to hearing your wisdoms! Thanks!
I am quite new here compared to a lot of the masters here in this forum. I have read Chase's eBook "How to Make Girls Chase" and have been reading on the forum for the last year or so, but this is my first time posting. A little bit of background about myself:
- I am 21M, living in New Zealand. I have just moved to the biggest city in NZ from a small town.
- I did Engineering at university (just finished) so meeting hot girls in classes were non-existent.
- In terms of fundamentals, I would say:
- Body: Posture is good when walking. Eye contact is good. Walk is good. Mannerisms need work. Teeth needs whitening. Hair is okay. Weight is okay. Muscle is not good. Small-to-medium build. Have not been a "sporty" person.
- Vocal: Okay, but nothing special. I would like to improve and have more control. I'm thinking of taking singing/voice coaching classes.
- Social: No idea where I stand with Social Power, probably not high. Conversing is not a problem, but this is the main point so I will elaborate further below.
- Fashion: Needs work. Need to get more pieces in small sizes so they fit me better. Although I do feel like I'm reaching the limit with this because of my lack of muscles.
Okay, so moving on to the main point of this thread. According to classmates, I am a very good presenter and speaker, and I can randomly strike up a conversation with people that I have just met which is apparently horrifying thing for engineers. (Although I do take this with a grain of salt because I have seen amazing speakers before, so feedback from engineers on social fundamentals does not seem like the most accurate source for me).
When I meet a girl, I usually don't have a problem conversing with her. Sometimes I feel like I am getting too much into the conversation and things are just flowing and I am not really controlling it. All the girls that I have met, even after we have good conversations, just ended up being platonic. In all of the conversations, I was the only one initiating touch and while there was no negative reactions, the touching is not reciprocated. I do admit that the conversations that I usually have are not on sexually charged topics. And I do understand that you have to move to sexual topics to get her in the mood, but how can you do that when compliments and touch are not reciprocated? I feel like it is really weird to ask a question (to open a new conversation thread) on a sexual topic just because I never had that feeling that the girl is primed and ready to move on?
So, at this stage, I'm just a bit confused. Am I not getting girls physically attracted because my body fundamentals are too low? Or is it because I'm doing something wrong in my conversations - maybe giving off too much off a "nice guy" vibe and not a "cool sexy man"?
Looking forward to hearing your wisdoms! Thanks!