FR Gym guy behavior feedback needed

[Lilly]

To recap about me from my previous posts: 28 year old virgin woman actively going out to meet guys with the end goal of finding a husband.

After almost two months of regular gym visits, finally something interesting things happened with one of the guys there that I’d appreciate some male opinions on.

He looks about mid-20s, very built physique without looking too pumped up (like from steroid use), and obviously a regular gym goer for years. But he’s glued to his phone almost the entire time of his 2 hours+ workouts (because he does like 3 super heavy lifts and then rests for ages while scrolling).

I don’t have a rational reason for why I chose to dedicate time observing him except that I like his looks. So for 6 weeks, I subtly tracked his schedule, sat somewhat nearby when my own workout routine put me in his general area, and glanced over every now and again to check him out.

Since he didn’t interact with anyone else and rarely looked up, I was content to just enjoy the eye candy he provided.

So last week, the gym offered a “bring family and friend for free!” week. He brought his brother. I was already at the abduction machines when I noticed them approach and choose the machines further away from me. Nothing strange about that type of gym etiquette. I glance at him whenever possible, careful not to get caught, and do my workout.

Afterwards, I always do some cardio, so I went on the treadmills. They’re positioned in front of windows which let me check on both guys in the reflection (it was already dark out).

Eventually they get up and Gym Guy—who’s been guiding and teaching his non-gym going brother this whole time—tells him that cardio is next and gets his brother onto the treadmill right next to, with Gym Guy choosing the one beside his brother. This wouldn’t be unusual except 1) the other treadmills were free and 2) gym etiquette says to leave one machine empty in between strangers which is an unspoken rule everyone follows.

Since this is the closest proximity we’ve had so far, I’m excited to stare at Gym Guy up close in the window reflection, with him mostly looking down at his phone or exchanging some words of encouragement (and discipline) when his brother wanted to stop early.

Their designated 30 minutes pass. Gym Guy meanders off first towards the disinfectant (it’s mandatory to disinfect every machine you used), they clean their treadmills, and Gym Guy throws one last glance back at me as he took a sip from his water bottle.

I filed this away as him noticing me.

Soon after, I moved to the Leaning Cycling Machines where his brother walked past first, leaving in his outside clothes, and Gym Guy meandered past minutes later to keep working out downstairs. He didn’t make eye contact.

The next day around noon, I’m back at the gym for my usual routine at the Leaning Cycling Machines. Gym Guy arrives soon after as well and walks past me towards the changing rooms.

Now, when he returned in his gym clothes, he had his water bottle between his lips and made eye contact for the first time. And not fleeting eye contact that could’ve been accidental, where you quickly avert your eyes once the other person meets your gaze. When I looked up, he held my gaze. I didn’t look away at all, and after a good second he looked back down at his phone and meandered off.

I didn’t see him for the rest of that session because I stayed upstairs and was focused on an older guy who actively flirts with me.

Six days pass without me seeing him which is mostly consistent with the routine he seems to have.

This Monday, I chose to wear something more attention-grabbing for the first time: a red crop top, but with long darker pants to not deviate too much from my usual outfits. I also put some nice perfume onto the clothing and added a subtle lipgloss and makeup. Right after my first exercise downstairs, I notice him doing Preacher Curls right by the disinfectant bottle. Of course I choose to walk right past him, put some disinfectant on a paper towel and return right past him again. Since I was facing him this time, I quickly checked him out. He was mid-set and didn’t make eye contact. I cleaned my machine and walked right past him again to leave the area for my next exercise.

He didn’t show up upstairs at all that session, so no cardio machine action there.

I thought maybe he has a biweekly schedule and he’d be upstairs on Wednesday (yesterday), but he neither showed up at noon nor evening at the gym at all.

Regardless of whether he’s attracted to me or not, I just want him around for eye candy because he’s built like a brick-house and hot.

I have two other guys there who are similarly attractive, but haven’t noticed me/made eye contact with me yet, also another guy I meet up with outside the gym, so I’ll be fine either way.

But I’m curious if these could be signs of him being attracted but awkward/shy/already in a relationship.

If you need more details, I’ll provide as much as I can!

Thanks in advance!

 

[Lilly]

* Grammar edits since I don’t know how to edit this OG thread.

After almost two months of regular gym visits, finally something interesting happened

Eventually they get up and Gym Guy—who’s been guiding and teaching his non-gym going brother this whole time—tells him that cardio is next and gets his brother onto the treadmill right next to *me*, with Gym Guy choosing the one beside his brother.

 

[gameboy]

But I’m curious if these could be signs of him being attracted but awkward/shy/already in a relationship.

Yes! Could definitely be.

Thanks for the "female FR". Interesting to read an FR from a woman's perspective.

 

[DArtagnan]

Very interesting, and somehow funny for beginner seducers (like me).

Newby male seducer point-of-view:
"Bro, this girl just made eye contact with me in the gym, then next time, she passed two times in front of me to get her desinfectant, I think she might be interested, she is cute!"
His friend: "Nah man, you are imagining things, a girl doesn't like you just because she looked at you once or passed by you a few times. Don't be dumb! That's not how it works, bro"

Female point-of-view:
"He glanced back at me so I take this as a proof that he noticed me. [...] Of course I choose to walk right past him, ... return right past him again [...] cleaned my machine and walked right past him again"

 

[Lilly]

Very interesting, and somehow funny for beginner seducers (like me).

Newby male seducer point-of-view:
"Bro, this girl just made eye contact with me in the gym, then next time, she passed two times in front of me to get her desinfectant, I think she might be interested, she is cute!"
His friend: "Nah man, you are imagining things, a girl doesn't like you just because she looked at you once or passed by you a few times. Don't be dumb! That's not how it works, bro"

Female point-of-view:
"He glanced back at me so I take this as a proof that he noticed me. [...] Of course I choose to walk right past him, ... return right past him again [...] cleaned my machine and walked right past him again"

To be fair, not just eye contact, but extended eye contact that I didn’t break first. He did. That should hold a bit more weight than just a glance, even for non-seducer types, right? But yeah, as women our methods are pretty limited. I plan to smile at him next time he makes eye contact, but so far he hasn’t looked at me directly again + I haven’t seen him since Monday.

 

[average_daygamer]

Very interesting, and somehow funny for beginner seducers (like me).

Newby male seducer point-of-view:
"Bro, this girl just made eye contact with me in the gym, then next time, she passed two times in front of me to get her desinfectant, I think she might be interested, she is cute!"
His friend: "Nah man, you are imagining things, a girl doesn't like you just because she looked at you once or passed by you a few times. Don't be dumb! That's not how it works, bro"

Female point-of-view:
"He glanced back at me so I take this as a proof that he noticed me. [...] Of course I choose to walk right past him, ... return right past him again [...] cleaned my machine and walked right past him again"

This kind of thing makes me wonder how the species has not died out yet.

How does anyone ever get laid with this level of ambiguity?

 

[Lilly]

This kind of thing makes me wonder how the species has not died out yet.

How does anyone ever get laid with this level of ambiguity?

Well, I hope that he even clocked my signals and wonders, “Is she interested?”. I plan on continuing to give eye contact with a smile/smirk and make use of any proximity we might have in the future to walk past or choose equipment next to him etc. Eventually, he should recognize a pattern of “She’s around and confident, but makes no move to talk or approach. I better do something myself.”

 

[Lilly]

Update: So today (Tuesday evening) is when I expected him to show up again, but the evidence is inconclusive.

I did saw a guy from afar at a machine I never saw my guy use before whose visuals generally fit, but as I was on my way to the water station and the view to his machine is blocked by beams there, I couldn’t subtly check if it was him from up close. The guy also wore a shirt that I think I might’ve seen on my guy before, but I can’t be 100% sure. If so, then I only saw it once.

I went downstairs to use the machines I needed, then returned up and he was gone. I took my time walking through all the areas again (including downstairs), but nope. By 9PM I left because he usually stays for 3+ hours at the gym, so if he’s gone by then, he’s gone.

Possibility Number 1: It wasn’t him. This would mean a pretty significant break in his gym routine that may or may not have to do with me. Up until two weeks ago where he made eye contact, I saw him quite often. But now I haven’t seen him since last week at all despite also going to the gym throughout other days in the morning and evening. So he hasn’t switched up his gym day routine per day, but possibly by time, I don’t know.

Possibility Number 2: It was him. He either switched his Tuesday gym time to go way earlier than usual and leave hours earlier as well (new work schedule, hobbies, family stuff etc.) or he saw me walk to the water station and left soon after to avoid me.

Both possibilities kinda suck. I almost hope it wasn’t him and that he’s been on vacation since last Wednesday or something.

Shit like this is why women auto-reject by the way. You might have genuine reasons to break your usual pattern after making extended eye contact once, but a woman who’s attracted to you WILL interpret your new behavior as having to do with her—and often negatively.

Any thoughts?

 

[Skater]

I don’t have a rational reason for why I chose to dedicate time observing him except that I like his looks.

Welcome to the club lol we'll make a seductress of you yet.

So for 6 weeks, I subtly tracked his schedule, sat somewhat nearby when my own workout routine put me in his general area, and glanced over every now and again to check him out.

Bruh that's creepy as fu- wait. Aww how cute!

When I looked up, he held my gaze. I didn’t look away at all, and after a good second he looked back down at his phone and meandered off.

Not great. You did everything right but he dropped the proverbial ball. He really should not be looking away first but rather forcing you to or approaching immediately.

This was a blatant approach invitation on your part but he either a) pussied out b) wasn't interested. Then again chances are he's not some pickup weirdo like us; but even we struggle with approaching in the tribulations of beginnerhood.

This Monday, I chose to wear something more attention-grabbing for the first time: a red crop top, but with long darker pants to not deviate too much from my usual outfits. I also put some nice perfume onto the clothing and added a subtle lipgloss and makeup.

I love you creatures.

Regardless of whether he’s attracted to me or not, I just want him around for eye candy because he’s built like a brick-house and hot.

Fuck yeah.

But yeah, as women our methods are pretty limited.

Limiting belief. Your mere presence on this forum suggests you are open to new methods.

Well, I hope that he even clocked my signals... Eventually, he should recognize a pattern of “She’s around and confident, but makes no move to talk or approach. I better do something myself.”

Far too much trust in a random gymbro. This subspecies tends to fear females more than usual.

Most guys nowadays are timid, stupid, average frustrated chumps (AFCs) when it comes to the opposite sex. Most girls are not, though this may be slowly shifting.

Shit like this is why women auto-reject by the way. You might have genuine reasons to break your usual pattern after making extended eye contact once, but a woman who’s attracted to you WILL interpret your new behavior as having to do with her—and often negatively.

Fascinating. All the more reason for us guys to empty the mind and approach immediately and forestall such fickleness.

Alright I'm gonna give you some advice, man to man woman. Approach him.
*Gasp*
Yes, I know. But what did you really expect coming to a forum that teaches guys how to nail girls in the most efficient manner possible?

Next time you see him, insinuate yourself in his area as I know you and your kind are more than capable of doing. Then ask him for advice on how to use a machine or your form or whatever (I don't go to the gym). Forget your pride, this is the Game; and besides, pride is a masculine trait and we're trying to be feminine ok? Ok.

Guys love flexing their knowledge, especially for girls, even if they are not necessarily attracted to them. Gymbros about gym stuff especially especially. Pretend to be a bit dumb ("ohhh reaaally??" *Flutter eyelashes/act like a stereotypical blonde*), that usually lights up warning bells that you're not actually about the ostensible topic, in this case the gym.

Then, maneuver the conversation to more personal then interpersonal topics. Flirt with him. At this point if he won't get the hint he is again either a) too much of a pussy to bother with, or b) not interested, (firmly) taken, gay, etc.

Otherwise, it seems you are expending undue attention tracking and hand-wringing over this poor guy. I prescribe to you ye olde medicino seductivo: GFTOWM (go fuck ten other men).

Obviously your female strategy is flawed in some way for you to reach the ripe age of 28 with your chastity intact. Therefore, you must shift to a more male strategy.

Now, go forth and approach!

 

[Skills]

most people go to the gym to work out, even seducers..... So nobody is going to really cold approach at the gym..... the way around this is group classes in the gym that is were usually the mingling occurs....

 

[Lilly]

Welcome to the club lol we'll make a seductress of you yet.


Bruh that's creepy as fu- wait. Aww how cute!


Not great. You did everything right but he dropped the proverbial ball. He really should not be looking away first but rather forcing you to or approaching immediately.

This was a blatant approach invitation on your part but he either a) pussied out b) wasn't interested. Then again chances are he's not some pickup weirdo like us; but even we struggle with approaching in the tribulations of beginnerhood.


I love you creatures.


Fuck yeah.


Limiting belief. Your mere presence on this forum suggests you are open to new methods.


Far too much trust in a random gymbro. This subspecies tends to fear females more than usual.

Most guys nowadays are timid, stupid, average frustrated chumps (AFCs) when it comes to the opposite sex. Most girls are not, though this may be slowly shifting.


Fascinating. All the more reason for us guys to empty the mind and approach immediately and forestall such fickleness.

Alright I'm gonna give you some advice, man to man woman. Approach him.
*Gasp*
Yes, I know. But what did you really expect coming to a forum that teaches guys how to nail girls in the most efficient manner possible?

Next time you see him, insinuate yourself in his area as I know you and your kind are more than capable of doing. Then ask him for advice on how to use a machine or your form or whatever (I don't go to the gym). Forget your pride, this is the Game; and besides, pride is a masculine trait and we're trying to be feminine ok? Ok.

Guys love flexing their knowledge, especially for girls, even if they are not necessarily attracted to them. Gymbros about gym stuff especially especially. Pretend to be a bit dumb ("ohhh reaaally??" *Flutter eyelashes/act like a stereotypical blonde*), that usually lights up warning bells that you're not actually about the ostensible topic, in this case the gym.

Then, maneuver the conversation to more personal then interpersonal topics. Flirt with him. At this point if he won't get the hint he is again either a) too much of a pussy to bother with, or b) not interested, (firmly) taken, gay, etc.

Otherwise, it seems you are expending undue attention tracking and hand-wringing over this poor guy. I prescribe to you ye olde medicino seductivo: GFTOWM (go fuck ten other men).

Obviously your female strategy is flawed in some way for you to reach the ripe age of 28 with your chastity intact. Therefore, you must shift to a more male strategy.

Now, go forth and approach!

Thanks for the detailed feedback!

I haven’t seen him in over a week now unfortunately. His most reliable times were usually Tuesday and Wednesday, so I really expected him to show up today, but no. I was ready to increase proximity or even greet him if I’d been seeing him at the gym, but he’s been absent at his usual (and my) usual times.

I had no idea gym guys feared women more than average men. That blows. As for the eye contact moment, it probably flew under his radar after all. I haven’t seen any other guys approaching women at the gym during all these weeks, and no one’s hit on me even when I’m in makeup (the most guys seem to dare do are smiles and some exaggerated blinks), so hitting on people really isn’t common. He might not even be in the proper headspace to connect “attraction” with “pumping iron”.

If I see him, I’ll keep your advice in mind. The question is if I’ll see him again any time soon.

Thank you!

 

[Lilly]

most people go to the gym to work out, even seducers..... So nobody is going to really cold approach at the gym..... the way around this is group classes in the gym that is were usually the mingling occurs....

True, but there are no hot guys in the group classes. Especially not the guy I’m attracted to. He’s a lone wolf bodybuilder type.

 

[OldGuy]

You are developing oneitis and you have not really even talked to him. Watch out!

 

[Lilly]

You are developing oneitis and you have not really even talked to him. Watch out!

Nah, don’t worry. I just have an obsessive personality by nature.

 

[Lilly]

Update: So I’d written this whole situation off because I hadn’t seen this guy for weeks and when he showed up again, he was nearby but staring at his phone again, so I categorized him as occasional eye candy and when the opportunity presented itself, I closed proximity (like choosing the paper towel and disinfectant right next to his machine instead of walking to another disinfectant station).

Until Wednesday last week. I was doing my routine and spotted him a couple meters in front of me at the Butterfly machine while I was at the Rowing machine. As I was checking him out, I noticed he wasn’t on his phone at all and instead looked sideways a lot towards the entrance/exit. Eventually he finished his sets, got up and looked around, naturally also in my direction.

Slightly flustered, I take a drink from my bottle. He chose to walk right past me and we made eye contact which he broke first again, his water bottle in his mouth agan. Then he turned to the right behind me and made for the stairs, with me looking after him because he’s hot. Unexpectedly, he turns his head back at me whilst walking downstairs (which leads to the free weight area btw) and essentially catches me looking. He does a double take. I, of course, dart my eyes away.

Pleasantly adrenalized, I continue my routine and 15 minutes later I’m at the Chestpress machine. Suddenly he meanders past me, fully dressed in his outside sports-brand clothes (which I found out are like 70 bucks online, so he’s not cheap) and begins a conversation with one of the employees. There’s a woman there on Wednesdays hence why I first got a surge of jealousy, but he kept his distance from her, no hugging or touching or standing close to her. In these three months I haven’t seen him interact with anyone at the gym (except his brother that one time) and suddenly he was all smiles, friendly, laughing and practically sparkling. Also turning his head a lot in my general direction without making eye contact.

Intrigued, I continue my routine and choose the Butterfly machine that keeps him in my line of sight to my left. He spends 20 minutes talking to the employee. At this point I’m suspecting that he’s waiting until I leave, so I prolong things until 8PM (so another ten minutes more) before choosing to walk right behind him towards the main corridor and the changing rooms.

I half expected him to be gone by the time I’m in my normal clothes, but no. He still stands by the counter, looking utterly relaxed and unbothered. I say goodbye to the employee and leave, but I turn back around to look at him once I’m out the door. He’s focused on the employee, but with an expression of glee I didn’t think his usually aloof self could even make.

I leave the building and walk to my car, not sure what to make of this. By the time I’m backing out of my parking space, I spot him in his own car behind mine and glancing up at me. I figure that he did wait for my exit because the timing’s just too convenient.

I didn’t expect to see him the next day, but there he is at the leg extension machine, staring at the window reflections (it’s dark out) instead of at his phone. Flustered by his sudden presence, I kinda look down and up and down again, but walk closely past him and settle on the nearest abduction machine behind him. I can easily watch him from there and notice he’s looking around again, adding some over-the-shoulder looks.

Eventually he’s done, gets up and looks directly over at me and we share a glance before he walks towards the infamous treadmills and conveniently chooses one in my line of sight. The next 20 minutes are constant bouts of me looking over at him and him looking up into the window reflections, more over the shoulder glances, some hair ruffling and me consciously copying his gestures here and there to build rapport.

Afterwards, he actually returns to his previous machine, takes his bottle away from his face to show a very slight smile/pleasant expression, and pretend to pick something up before leaving the gym (which I know because I continued my routine and he was nowhere to be found for the next hour). I noticed he had his headphones askew so that one ear was free which was also a new occurrence

Throughout this whole situation, I’m admittedly nervous and a lot more fidgety than normal, thus breaking eye contact first, stretching a lot, adjusting my ponytail etc. I was also on my period that day, so the hormones plus his sudden increased attention affected me, so I didn’t smile back.

Now a week has passed and he wasn’t at the gym today (Wednesday).

I assume his absences have nothing to do with me, but with his work schedule or something else. Because his huge behavior modification last week was way too big to just jump ship like this for no reason (suddenly super friendly and sociable with the gym staff, no phone use, one ear freed, looking my way a lot, making eye contact more, even smiling a bit etc.).

But I’m still interested in what men think of this behavior.

Personally, it seems like he’s into me but cautious of fucking up at his gym and potentially getting kicked out or making a fool of himself by misreading my signals.

Thanks in advance!

 

[Skills]

Update: So I’d written this whole situation off because I hadn’t seen this guy for weeks and when he showed up again, he was nearby but staring at his phone again, so I categorized him as occasional eye candy and when the opportunity presented itself, I closed proximity (like choosing the paper towel and disinfectant right next to his machine instead of walking to another disinfectant station).

Until Wednesday last week. I was doing my routine and spotted him a couple meters in front of me at the Butterfly machine while I was at the Rowing machine. As I was checking him out, I noticed he wasn’t on his phone at all and instead looked sideways a lot towards the entrance/exit. Eventually he finished his sets, got up and looked around, naturally also in my direction.

Slightly flustered, I take a drink from my bottle. He chose to walk right past me and we made eye contact which he broke first again, his water bottle in his mouth agan. Then he turned to the right behind me and made for the stairs, with me looking after him because he’s hot. Unexpectedly, he turns his head back at me whilst walking downstairs (which leads to the free weight area btw) and essentially catches me looking. He does a double take. I, of course, dart my eyes away.

Pleasantly adrenalized, I continue my routine and 15 minutes later I’m at the Chestpress machine. Suddenly he meanders past me, fully dressed in his outside sports-brand clothes (which I found out are like 70 bucks online, so he’s not cheap) and begins a conversation with one of the employees. There’s a woman there on Wednesdays hence why I first got a surge of jealousy, but he kept his distance from her, no hugging or touching or standing close to her. In these three months I haven’t seen him interact with anyone at the gym (except his brother that one time) and suddenly he was all smiles, friendly, laughing and practically sparkling. Also turning his head a lot in my general direction without making eye contact.

Intrigued, I continue my routine and choose the Butterfly machine that keeps him in my line of sight to my left. He spends 20 minutes talking to the employee. At this point I’m suspecting that he’s waiting until I leave, so I prolong things until 8PM (so another ten minutes more) before choosing to walk right behind him towards the main corridor and the changing rooms.

I half expected him to be gone by the time I’m in my normal clothes, but no. He still stands by the counter, looking utterly relaxed and unbothered. I say goodbye to the employee and leave, but I turn back around to look at him once I’m out the door. He’s focused on the employee, but with an expression of glee I didn’t think his usually aloof self could even make.

I leave the building and walk to my car, not sure what to make of this. By the time I’m backing out of my parking space, I spot him in his own car behind mine and glancing up at me. I figure that he did wait for my exit because the timing’s just too convenient.

I didn’t expect to see him the next day, but there he is at the leg extension machine, staring at the window reflections (it’s dark out) instead of at his phone. Flustered by his sudden presence, I kinda look down and up and down again, but walk closely past him and settle on the nearest abduction machine behind him. I can easily watch him from there and notice he’s looking around again, adding some over-the-shoulder looks.

Eventually he’s done, gets up and looks directly over at me and we share a glance before he walks towards the infamous treadmills and conveniently chooses one in my line of sight. The next 20 minutes are constant bouts of me looking over at him and him looking up into the window reflections, more over the shoulder glances, some hair ruffling and me consciously copying his gestures here and there to build rapport.

Afterwards, he actually returns to his previous machine, takes his bottle away from his face to show a very slight smile/pleasant expression, and pretend to pick something up before leaving the gym (which I know because I continued my routine and he was nowhere to be found for the next hour). I noticed he had his headphones askew so that one ear was free which was also a new occurrence

Throughout this whole situation, I’m admittedly nervous and a lot more fidgety than normal, thus breaking eye contact first, stretching a lot, adjusting my ponytail etc. I was also on my period that day, so the hormones plus his sudden increased attention affected me, so I didn’t smile back.

Now a week has passed and he wasn’t at the gym today (Wednesday).

I assume his absences have nothing to do with me, but with his work schedule or something else. Because his huge behavior modification last week was way too big to just jump ship like this for no reason (suddenly super friendly and sociable with the gym staff, no phone use, one ear freed, looking my way a lot, making eye contact more, even smiling a bit etc.).

But I’m still interested in what men think of this behavior.

Personally, it seems like he’s into me but cautious of fucking up at his gym and potentially getting kicked out or making a fool of himself by misreading my signals.

Thanks in advance!

Why don't you smile and say hi every time you see him...

 

[Lilly]

Why don't you smile and say hi every time you see him...

Because I was nervous and uncertain and didn’t expect his attention on me at all after all these weeks. I’m not naturally smiley either. Besides, no one at this gym greets strangers especially not random guys.

 

[KnownUniverse]

To recap about me from my previous posts: 28 year old virgin woman actively going out to meet guys with the end goal of finding a husband.

Why are you a virgin?

I assume his absences have nothing to do with me, but with his work schedule or something else. Because his huge behavior modification last week was way too big to just jump ship like this for no reason (suddenly super friendly and sociable with the gym staff, no phone use, one ear freed, looking my way a lot, making eye contact more, even smiling a bit etc.).

this is all bs theorizing until you talk to him. Making all these assumptions in your head. Try to talk him. if he ignores you or seems disinterested then he doesnt like you and you can move on. If he's receptive then make a move.

 

[Lilly]

Why are you a virgin?




this is all bs theorizing until you talk to him. Making all these assumptions in your head. Try to talk him. if he ignores you or seems disinterested then he doesnt like you and you can move on. If he's receptive then make a move.

I’m a virgin because I haven’t had a long-term relationship yet, because I’ve never been in love with someone who’s been in love with me.

True, it’s theorizing. Talking to him first though would feel misaligned. If he’s uninterested after all, I’ll notice him fade away and stop looking anyways.

 

[KnownUniverse]

Talking to him first though would feel misaligned

you're just scared of rejection. It's been 6 weeks and you still havent found alignment. You could've approached him on day one and got this out of the way.

I’m a virgin because I haven’t had a long-term relationship yet, because I’ve never been in love with someone who’s been in love with me.

So you've been saving yourself for true love yet obsessed with a guy just because he's hot?