Hey everyone I just read No More Mr.Nice Guy And I realized I am still struggling with some nice guy traits the most important of which is focusing too much on my girlfriends pleasure. Our sex life has taken a hit and I think part of it is me trying out chases techniques too literally and focusing so much on rhythm that it becomes boring and I don't take charge. On the other hand, when I focus on my pleasure I finish and we are done and goes against chase article on sexual pride of pleasuring girls. How do I figure out how much to devote to my pleasure and her pleasure how do I make sex natural and mutually beneficial because right now our sex sessions are her trying to finish and is stopping or the other time where I finish and we stop. Thanks everyone