Hired gun issue - how to proceed?

[Fluxcapacitor]

Dudes! I was out at the weekend and the clubs weren't happening. I got an AI from a barmaid and went for it. We arranged a date for next week but nothing to concrete, got her number, sent an icebreaker. Waited a few days an sent a sort of scheduler text. So far she hasn't replied an a have a feeling she's gonna go ghost. I know numbers mean nothing, an am thinking she's not that interested or she'd have replied by now. Am not asking about that.

My issue is she works at the only good place to go midweek. A found out tonight a will be free one night next week where a use my free time to go out. If she goes ghost an a turn up to the venue next week how bad does that look?!? How do ya approach this? Any thoughts?

(A am confused why a hired gun in a club would give out her number if she's not interested? It's not most situations where ya may not see them again, a am sure she'd have seen me in this club before. A stand out in the typical crowd that goes an a have seen many bar maids flat out reject guys)

 

[JacobPalmer]

Don't text her again, and treat it as no big deal. OR, if you really want her, show up with another girl. Sometimes girls just give out their # because it's easier than saying "I'm not into you." Especially if she's a hired gun. So it doesn't look bad at all if you show up. Just treat her warmly as if nothing happened and go about your night as usual.

 

[Fluxcapacitor]

JacobPalmer dude! Definitely didn't plan on texting her again. She's very attractive so I 'really' want her, until I see another girl.. For the 2 minute conversation we've had she didn't qualify herself enough that I can't let her go haha.

A would turn up with another girl but the only other one I've got in the pipeline is another hired gun from another club who'll be working. Got to meet another when I'm there a guess!! :')

A just don't want it to look like a have turned up to chase/ stalk an a don't want to avoid the bar completely like am purposely avoiding her. Ya right it isn't a big deal an a can go about my night as normal, thanks dude!

 

[Overdoze]

i agree w what jacobpalmer writes - dont put anything into it.

one assumption that i use and say to girls if i meet them again or the likes i s

she: Gives whatever excuse:
me: "Sorry to hear. and yeah i just assumed there was a good reason/you >>insert good reason<<"

this sets a liberating frame for her and girls react very positively to that - especially that you display an assumed positive perspective on her

 

[Fluxcapacitor]

Gosta Bue dude! Thanks, I don't think she'll give an excuse if am honest. Possibly avoid me Haha. A think the most interaction is she'll say hi.

The catch I find with giving them a positive perspective is it's letting them off the hook. Then again she has no investment or interest anyway so guess it doesn't matter really! On to the next