How do I play this? And where did I fuck up?

[Dark_Stallion]

This girl and I were texting on IG, first girl from sober nightgame 2, for context, I did not seed a date idea in her head, I thought I would do that next time I saw her at the bar, however idk if I will ever see her again, so here is the text thread:

Me: Hi [name] nice meeting you yesterday, hope those [food] were worth every cent yesterday

Her: So nice meeting you!!! And yes they were!

Me: I’m glad they made my breath stink unfortunately



Did yall stick around long enough to see the bar fight?

Her: omg no we didn’t see it

Me: Ahh u missed the event of a lifetime



Some girl tried taking some other girls seats bouncers got involved she ended up getting dragged out and the cops were involved

Her:
That is crazy?!!?
When did it happen

Me:
Happened around 1 they blocked the windows so you couldn’t even see outside



What time did yall end up leaving?

Her: I think like 12:20ish

Me:
Ahhh we needed you to defend us against the crazy bar girl that got kicked out


Your top notch shape from the fried pickle diet would’ve helped us out

Her: HAHAHAH I'm sure

[A little bit convo about if she is going back to the bar this weekend, no need to bore you with those details, not important imo]

Me: What's your job?(I didn't ask this out of nowhere, makes sense with other convo, which I am omitting because its not important imo)

Her: I work at [job location]
For now

Me: The [location] one?
Is that not the dream job?

Her: no [location] and idk lol

Me:
Ahh gotta sneak me a plate of wings then haha

Btw what’s ur work week looking like? There’s a cool speakeasy somewhere near [place] I wanna check out if ur interested

No response from her after this, btw this convo took place over a week, didn't move fast enough and wasn't smooth enough with the ask, but better late than never imo.

Can someone help me out on my texting game, tell me where I can improve?

 

[empath]

This girl and I were texting on IG, first girl from sober nightgame 2, for context, I did not seed a date idea in her head, I thought I would do that next time I saw her at the bar, however idk if I will ever see her again, so here is the text thread:

Me: Hi [name] nice meeting you yesterday, hope those [food] were worth every cent yesterday

Her: So nice meeting you!!! And yes they were!

Me: I’m glad they made my breath stink unfortunately



Did yall stick around long enough to see the bar fight?

Her: omg no we didn’t see it

Me: Ahh u missed the event of a lifetime



Some girl tried taking some other girls seats bouncers got involved she ended up getting dragged out and the cops were involved

Her:
That is crazy?!!?
When did it happen

Me:
Happened around 1 they blocked the windows so you couldn’t even see outside



What time did yall end up leaving?

Her: I think like 12:20ish

Me:
Ahhh we needed you to defend us against the crazy bar girl that got kicked out


Your top notch shape from the fried pickle diet would’ve helped us out

Her: HAHAHAH I'm sure

[A little bit convo about if she is going back to the bar this weekend, no need to bore you with those details, not important imo]

Me: What's your job?(I didn't ask this out of nowhere, makes sense with other convo, which I am omitting because its not important imo)

Her: I work at [job location]
For now

Me: The [location] one?
Is that not the dream job?

Her: no [location] and idk lol

Me:
Ahh gotta sneak me a plate of wings then haha

Btw what’s ur work week looking like? There’s a cool speakeasy somewhere near [place] I wanna check out if ur interested

No response from her after this, btw this convo took place over a week, didn't move fast enough and wasn't smooth enough with the ask, but better late than never imo.

Can someone help me out on my texting game, tell me where I can improve?

You checked how her weekend looks like before proposing you two doing anything together.

You should have ideally proposed something like rob a fried pickle place or anything you two doing together.

then a bit of how should we do it -> getting her more invested in the idea.

then comes then question of when.

to her - talking about work and suddenly checking my weeked?
Do I like this activitiy?
I want to go but have other plans as well etc

a lot of things could go in her head

 

[Dark_Stallion]

You checked how her weekend looks like before proposing you two doing anything together.

You should have ideally proposed something like rob a fried pickle place or anything you two doing together.

then a bit of how should we do it -> getting her more invested in the idea.

then comes then question of when.

to her - talking about work and suddenly checking my weeked?
Do I like this activitiy?
I want to go but have other plans as well etc

a lot of things could go in her head

Ah ok a bit of seeding the idea of the two of us together

I agree that I did jump the gun a bit with switching topics randomly, didn't seed the idea in her head in person, which was a fuck up on my part

She actually responded, saying she's free on Wednesday and Saturday

I said Wednesday should be a good day, since were both going to be at the bar on Saturday anyways

Still waiting for the response from that, worst case scenario, next time I'm at the bar, I can build the vibe back up

 

[Brassfaced_Jim]

Honestly, it’s probably that you are showing her interest. Period.
To me after a few months of trying online /apps and heaps of exchanges now..I think the only interest that works with texting is negative interest /messing and deliberately toying with them iDK , it seems like the only comms where I get to keep any perceived status ( I’m better / I don’t really care) and mystery intact and reel or bait them in to a meetup.

It would be best for her to keep seeing you at the bar and for you to keep giving her the brush off , to frustrate her. In an ideal situation. That’d probably be a turn on for her.

 

[Dark_Stallion]

Honestly, it’s probably that you are showing her interest. Period.
To me after a few months of trying online /apps and heaps of exchanges now..I think the only interest that works with texting is negative interest /messing and deliberately toying with them iDK , it seems like the only comms where I get to keep any perceived status ( I’m better / I don’t really care) and mystery intact and reel or bait them in to a meetup.

It would be best for her to keep seeing you at the bar and for you to keep giving her the brush off , to frustrate her. In an ideal situation. That’d probably be a turn on for her.

I’m probably never going to see her again at this point, logistics wise