How do you stop girls in day game?

[jdoc]

Hey guys,

I'm starting to get back into day game more seriously. My niche is cute Asians girls - mostly Chinese girls. There are a lot of them in Melbourne. Their personalities are usually quite shy, reserved, and somewhat skittish. Recently, I've been having a terrible streak of being blown out, and I'm not quite sure what I'm doing wrong. In fact, my last 2 years of doing day game has been somewhat unsuccessful.

In the past, when I tried to stop a girl, I'd stop her from the side, trying to stop her immediately. In most cases, this would seem too abrupt, and scare the girls a bit. They'd continue to walk ahead slightly, wanting to disengage from the conversation, but I'd have my feet planted on the ground. It set a really awkward precedent, so I ditched it all together.

These days what I've been doing is opening her from the side, usually complimenting her style. I'd then walk along with her, and stop her after introducing myself. I've found that this worked reasonably well in the past, but I've been getting quite inconsistent results recently.

I'd appreciate some input:
What's a better way to stop a girl in day game? And when you stop her, should you try to stop her immediately? Or walk along with her a bit, before stopping her?

Jeffrey

 

[Michal]

Hello Jeffrey,

Interesting, I never thought about stopping girls from the side. Dunno why, maybe it seemed weird to me or I am afraid to scare her or come across as a creep or something. Anyways, whenever I approached girl during the day (usually on the street) I simply done that when girl was walking toward me. I usually waved at them if they did not look at me for long to get their attention and their eyes on me and most importantly (at least for me) wiped out that cold, bored facial expression out of my face (which is like my default face - emotionless, cold, kinda bored) and replaced it with something more warm. And to be honest my real opener is like "hey" or "hi" because I deliver the usual opener only after she stops. Now that I think about I usually slow down slowly as she is getting closer to me and stop which probably tells her that I want to talk to her. Think about it as if you wanted to ask for directions. But maybe I stop after she stops, I dont cannot recall what I do with my feet exactly.

But I find street stops very luck reliant because she either likes your look or she does not. But I noticed that girls think this takes balla and some give you a chance even though they might not be that into you just based on your looks. It is quite funny actually that such a simple thing like following a certain process or being a little bit bold makes them see you as a confident person.

But I approach like this simply because I am bad at those situatonal openers in grocery stores and it feels weird for me and a litttle awkward - hinding the banana maybe.

Michal