How to deal with angry girlfriend?

[AugusteLoves]

What do you do? Probably hit the kill switch and start over with another girl. What makes you think you "love her"? You obviously are not enamored with this girl and happy here.

You've set some really bad precedent by having makeup sex and obviously have trained her to dramatically break up and get together in cycles.

It took me a while to learn to listen to my feelings, but you will probably in many instances have this nagging feeling like "I really don't want to be doing this" and then you learn to have boundaries and not let girls steer the sails of your boat for you. I don't know how boats work... Will knows more on that too... But you might want to read articles on taming, testing, etc. Girls will whine about stuff to gauge your reaction and then show a different emotion thirty seconds later. Don't let it move you.

What if i just cheat on her? and then try to move 2 women in with me? how do i have one sided monogamy where the girl is loyal to me but i can still meet new chicks?

 

[AugusteLoves]

What do you do? Probably hit the kill switch and start over with another girl. What makes you think you "love her"? You obviously are not enamored with this girl and happy here.

You've set some really bad precedent by having makeup sex and obviously have trained her to dramatically break up and get together in cycles.

It took me a while to learn to listen to my feelings, but you will probably in many instances have this nagging feeling like "I really don't want to be doing this" and then you learn to have boundaries and not let girls steer the sails of your boat for you. I don't know how boats work... Will knows more on that too... But you might want to read articles on taming, testing, etc. Girls will whine about stuff to gauge your reaction and then show a different emotion thirty seconds later. Don't let it move you.

she told me she has a fear of abandonment. so basically, i want to keep her, while i also meet other women, how do i do that and maintain her loyalty to me? today she texted me, saying she wonders if it would be better if me and her weren't together anymore, what do you make of that? what am i supposed to say in response to that? i didn't say anything, is my silence on the matter bad? especially since she is used to video calling me 24 7?

 

[Will_V]

she dumped me again today, she was crying a lot, then she took me back and we had sex again, then she was still up set with me, then she said she wants to break up again, then she took me back again and she's happy with me again right now. this girl has probably dumped me and took me back 20 times in the past 2 and a half months we've been dating, what do i do? and i know she's not dumping me and seeing someone else because she is with me 24 7 and i was with her the whole day today.

I suggest you read all the articles you can find on Girls Chase about relationships, and compare the advice given therein to your experiences.

This is a good one to start: https://www.girlschase.com/content/failed-relationship-failure-leadership

 

[Jamster]

I don't know how to make her accept that, and I haven't told her that cuz she'd probably get mad anyway.

@AugusteLoves the whole deal is laid out in that fraction of a sentence.

If you want people to accept you? You can't hide from them all the time.

 

[Jamster]

how do i have one sided monogamy where the girl is loyal to me but i can still meet new chicks?

One way:
Surround yourself with lovers. Be open about it. Become successful at that for a few years.

One of them might make a commitment while knowing the score. "Can't hurry love." they say.

Think: One woman in a few dozen (maybe 1 in 100?) will be open to "Toleramory." The foundation is a whole flock of women that accept you - not one woman you're trying to hide from.

I know a master musician who has this situation - lovely woman he has been married to for decades, two kids. He's free when he's on tour. His wife doesn't care to stray. He had to move to another country to be with her. He is aware - and incredibly thankful- that he is lucky. I'm not sure of his exact deal, but when he does a tour, he gets some lovers. When he provides a woman musician with a profound artistic experience she can't get other places? He gets laid.

That is the kind of thing this board could help with.

Of course, of course, OF COURSE - you need a basis of love and trust. You can NEVER, EVER have that if you and her are playing suspicion games spying on each other's phones and trying to deceive.

Another way:
Become a pimp. I can't help you at all with that. This board might help a little, but not much. I believe you would need to master violence and abuse for that. That's not what this board is about.

 

[AugusteLoves]

Hello, I am dealing with an angry girlfriend who is constantly spam calling me right now and she was calling me names on the phone this morning so i refused to talk anymore. She has been spam calling me for hours without stopping. She is mad because she had a dream that I cheated. I admit I made some mistakes at the beginning of the relationship because I was talking to some other girls after I met her and she went through my phone and found out and there was one point where she said she didn't wanna see me anymore, so i slept with an ex. and she found out about that too. so she has some legitimate reasons to be upset with me, but i cannot deal with this because she can no longer trust me, when it's going great it's going great tho. we tell each other we love each other everyday, she is freaky and she dirty talks me so good. she cooks me food. she buys me clothes. no other girl has ever bought me so many clothes, gifts, and cooked me so much food before. how do i make my girlfriend stop being so angry with me? how do i make her trust me? also she wants to video call 24/7. also i do feel like i was a little misled by her at first because at first she claimed a body count of 2 then later she told me she used to be a stripper and that she had sex with men at the strip club for money in the past. she no longer does that tho, and i've gone through her phone, so i know she is loyal to me. we have been dating 2 and a half months. thoughts gentlemen? what should i do? one thing i have learned, is that a woman should never know about other women that you've been with in the past. because she uses my past with other women against me, which i don't understand, because i never use her stripper past against her. she also uses religion and god to try to say how what i am doing is sinful, but i don't think she really cares about the religion, i feel she is using the religion to try to do something, im not sure what exactly. because she has lots of freaky sex with me, so if religion was important to her, why would she have freaky sex with me? that doesn't make sense. and she tried to say she regret her past but i dont think she regrets it at all, and i dont think she should, she told me she enjoyed some of the sex with strip club clients, but she wants me to regret all of my past sexual experiences before her. what do i do? how do i fix this relationship? how do i put her in her proper place? how do i make her stop questioning me? how do i make her trust me? or do i just give up and stop trying?

how do i delete this entire post

 

[AugusteLoves]

@AugusteLoves the whole deal is laid out in that fraction of a sentence.

If you want people to accept you? You can't hide from them all the time.

how do i delete this entire thread

 

[POB]

how do i delete this entire thread

Why do you want that?

 

[Jamster]

@AugusteLoves Learn from it. Move on.

 

[Ratata]

Bro... You’re asking for tactics because you don’t like the actual answer.

You promised exclusivity, but you don’t want to be exclusive. She wants security, but she’s handling it with surveillance, panic, and chaos. So this is not a “how do I get her to calm down?” issue. It’s a complete and utter mismatch.

You cannot ethically get one-sided monogamy by hiding the truth better. You either tell her plainly what kind of relationship you actually want, and accept that she may leave, or you stay exclusive and stop whining about the cost of the deal you agreed to.

Also, if the relationship is only 2.5 months in and already has phone checks, location sharing, breakup/makeup loops, 24/7 calls, and constant fights... Bro... WAKE UP! It’s as dysfunctional as it gets. Do you really believe it can get any better from here???

Stop asking how to “make” her trust you while planning to betray her terms. Either become honest, or end it.

I take that back. End it and start working on yourself.

 

[Francis]

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Read the entire series. He does things a little different than me but what he writes is legit.

If a girl leaves (breaks up) after "the talk", but then comes back shortly after, do you treat it almost as if nothing happened and just bang her out?

I know Chase has warned against makeup sex as to not reward the cyclical behavior. Not sure if this qualifies as drama. On one hand, you're rewarding her sexual pursuit of you, and it's like her waves to your unyielding rock, but it also seems too high attainability to let her see you as a revolving door that she can do whatever with.

Being a fuckboy toy doesn't feel like being in the lead to me. The alternative appears to be having some sort of "relationship" talk and not fuck that same day, which doesn't seem ideal either.

 

[Warped Mindless]

If a girl leaves (breaks up) after "the talk", but then comes back shortly after, do you treat it almost as if nothing happened and just bang her out?

I know Chase has warned against makeup sex as to not reward the cyclical behavior. Not sure if this qualifies as drama. On one hand, you're rewarding her sexual pursuit of you, and it's like her waves to your unyielding rock, but it also seems too high attainability to let her see you as a revolving door that she can do whatever with.

Being a fuckboy toy doesn't feel like being in the lead to me. The alternative appears to be having some sort of "relationship" talk and not fuck that same day, which doesn't seem ideal either.

I tend to agree with chase on not rewarding bad behavior with breakup sex but here I don’t really consider it bad behavior but me positively reinforcing her decision to come back by giving her good orgasms.

 

[Francis]

I tend to agree with chase on not rewarding bad behavior with breakup sex but here I don’t really consider it bad behavior but me positively reinforcing her decision to come back by giving her good orgasms.

Ok cool, thanks!! It worked fine last night. As soon as she came in, she started unbuttoning my shirt.

Maybe if she had started a dramatic fight in person before the "breakup" I would have acted different. But she left happy and it all happened 100% while apart. She texted "I was just being dumb. Disregard all that jazz" before coming back.