How to follow up if she totally ignores date text

[sneaky_charm]

So I met this girl on the bus like 2 weeks ago and turns out we know each other's families somewhat. Also, she used to study in the same school when I was really young. I was in 4th grade, she was in 2nd.

We talked for like 15 minutes. I had to get off before her, so I just said:

"It isn't bad talking to you, do you have WhatsApp?"

She put her number in my phone after that. Note that I DIDN'T say I wanted to see her again.

We exchanged some texts and once or twice I had to follow up twice to get a reply. Then on Monday I sent her the message:

"I'll be in your city on Thursday, we should have coffee together if both of us can manage time"

After that she saw the message and didn't reply. Almost a week has passed since then and she hasn't gotten back yet.

So what should I do? I'm thinking of giving her a bonding call for about 10 minutes after 7 days or so. Then follow up with another call 3 days later and ask her out again.

What do you think?

 

[Regal Tiger]

In cases where they don't text back, what I do is just let it go for a week or two at least. Then just strike up a new conversation and try again. If it happens again then ignore for a few months minimum, if you ever decide to try again.

 

[sneaky_charm]

Do you follow up with a text or call?

So you're saying 2 strikes and out? I was thinking of trying maybe 3 times, cause honestly I don't have options right now.

We never really got the chance to flirt in person and I didn't say anything before to make it seem I'm interested in her romantically. So maybe it came out of the left field for her? Do you think that may be the case?

 

[Regal Tiger]

Do you follow up with a text or call?

. I do text, but you can try mixing in calls as well. Chase has talked about when to do calls vs texting. If you would like to try a third time then do a call on the third time. I, however, will rarely try a third time unless I’m really into the girl
Google search GirlsChase: when to call vs texts

So you're saying 2 strikes and out? I was thinking of trying maybe 3 times, cause honestly I don't have options right now.

In that case, might as well try again. If you try a third time then go ahead and do a call

We never really got the chance to flirt in person and I didn't say anything before to make it seem I'm interested in her romantically. So maybe it came out of the left field for her? Do you think that may be the case?

Stuff like that is hard to judge over the internet, but it’s possible. It’s one of the reasons that you should always go for the date and get the number more as a consequence of the date. Example: when are you free, then let’s get a smoothie (or whatever you’re into). Cool, what’s your number?

It helps you skip a step or two, tells her you’re interested and moves things along better. Just helps your overall success rate and gives you less time to mess up in your process. It’s also balsier which will win you points

If you don’t have other options (why not? You should always have more options) then you can persist for as long as you want to. In my experiences I rarely see it work so I would rather spend my mental and emotional energies on a new girl instead

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[sneaky_charm]

Well yes I should have options ideally, especially because I've been at it for like 5 or 6 years on and off. However, I should have worked harder at it I guess, and track things more religiously.

At the moment though, the issue is that I can't just go out and approach girls. This post will give you an idea about where I'm living right now:

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I'll try to get out of this place soon, but the fact is that I'm stuck here for at least 2 more years minimum due to mostly financial reasons.

So if I want to meet new women, my only option is to spend close to 5 hours traveling to the closest city, which is about 50 miles away.

 

[Regal Tiger]

Ahhh, gotcha. I feel your pain


Definitely wanna change your situation as quickly as ya can