How to socially invite yourself to her place?

[Fluxcapacitor]

Dudes! I have been on a couple of dates with this girl and we've have bad logistics, after screening while on these dates her place is the best and most practical solution to try and close for our next date. We were meant to go out late on a night where I have my car as an escalation spot, and could socially ask if she wants to go back to her place in this context even without escalating in the car.

Its ended up being rearranged during the day now, so its not so quiet and dark and the car doesn't seem like a good escalation spot any more. Is there a way I could socially forget the "date" and just invite myself to her place for it?

This scenario:
She cancelled our last date but has rescheduled, when I planned the cancelled date I told her we were going to this quiet bar and she accepted, now its been rearranged to an earlier time and the bar isn't open. She asked me what I wanted to do. I kinda don't like this question because we've agreed to go out without technically agreeing to doing anything. I could keep to the plan and find another bar we can hit but I dont know if I could use this as an "excuse" to invite myself to hers.

I just can't think of a socially graceful way to say "we could just hang at yours"

unless it is that easy and a have over thought this? thanks dudes!

 

[Chase]

"Hmm, the bar is closed. Well, this won't stop our fun! What's your favorite mixed drink? We're going to the liquor store for supplies. Then, we are going to mix our own drinks. Screw that prudish bar and its prudish operating hours!"

Then once you have the mixing supplies, just go to her place.

You don't even have to ask if you're going to her place.

Just get her to agree to mix drinks with you. That it will be at some private location, yours or hers, is a foregone conclusion.

Chase

 

[Glow]

The point of resistance is "do i want this guy at my place". Culture and age has major impact here from my experience.

Many times - especially w SC girls in the initial dating, i've used: "so when are you going to make me dinner?" nonchalantly, w. a play fuld smirk while moving closer to her maybe poking her a bit w my shoulder teasingly. Girls normally grab w. a smile that and invite over. Time it eg at the end of a night to set up the next time when tension rises as to "whats next". Or moments of connectivity and wanting where youre in rapport with a feeling of your bodies calling for each other (comes from good escalation).

You can always start asking into her cooking skills to bring up the subject.

 

[Fuck This]

What is "her place"? an Apartment? her family home? a Dorm? a Sorority house?

You really have to understand what her logistics are. Only pursue it if it is going to work to your advantage. She may not want you to meet her roommates, she might live at home....she may only have a couch that she sleeps on...

Chase gives a good scenario that could also be applied to fixing food, watching the new Bluray that came out, playing with her dog, etc....

I remember in college when a strawberry blonde invited me to bring a couple of steaks over that she was going to cook for me...FUUUUUCccck I missed that signal!

Just make it east for her to host you...

 

[naturalmikey]

isn’t it cold outside where you are. this time of year it’s pretty easy to set up a movie date at home.

 

[Fluxcapacitor]

Chase dude! I like that idea. I see a potential hurdle of if she asks "do I want this guy back in my place" as @Glow suggested if I don't have an alternative place. I like an agree with the timing for high tension and connectivity but the set up on this one was more cold while planning.

@Fuck This dude I like your alternatives and adaptations of this idea! To answer your question it's an apartment/flat that she has. A friend lives in the same flat as her but it's a few doors down. Still the best logistics we have.

@naturalmikey dude it is cold here this time of year but am still rocking a t shirt most the time. A movie date at home is easy to set up, I just have limited time to do this at my place and was looking to set it up for hers. I just couldn't find a social graceful way to ask if she wanted to do it.

Thanks dudes!